Topic : Is This Normal?

Hey Everybody, 

I am a little concerned about my husband. Sometimes when we have sex when he ejaculates it is painful, and it has some discoloration to it.  It doesn't happen very often. We talked about it and he says it just feel like his sperm is just really thick. We don't have sex that frequently, is this something like "blue-balls" or "honeymooners disease"? He doesn't have alot of sperm usually, and it is usually kind of thick. Is this normal? Or should we seek medical attention for it? Has any other males experienced this? 

Thanks ahead of time! 

Better seek medical attention 

Don't take any chances 

Cindy in FL 

Hi I am an new member to the Dr. Phil message board.. 

I have a problem... 

I am 21 years old and I had some what of a one night stand..Anyone that truly knows me knows that this is not in my character at all. I got caught up in the moment. 

Well after we did it I felt very ashamed, and I wished that I would never see the guy again, but that couldn't happen since he is the mail  delivery guy at my job and i am the receptionist. Before I agreed to go on a date with he asked me out a couple of hundred times and I always turned him down. But for some reason he asked one day and I said yes.  Well we went on the date and after that we did the do.. 

After that he didn't come in and make a drop off for a while, not that he would come in all the time before that either. And I got all happy thinking maybe I wouldn't have to see him anymore, well recently he has come back in, and he wants a relationship with me. I am not quite sure if it is because he is a really nice guy (which he is), or if it is because of what happened on the first date..please some one give me advise. 

Hi there, 

Having a one night stand doesn't make you a bad person.  We all need to do that every now and again. 

Let your self go and relax and go out with him.  Enjoy each other's company.  Talk about the first night,  he'll probably be thinking the same thing.   As the song goes, don't worry, be happy. 

Have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself. 

Cindy in FL 

Hi Cindy.. 

Thanks so much...you just affirmed what everyone else has been telling me...I am just a worry wort..lol 

Help us to remember, post here and lets see what happpens. Cheer up. Whatever your husband did he did it because he wanted to, and if he is using you as an excuse it is to make him feel better about cheating. Maybe your question is how do you get pass the cheating? Have you forgiven your husband and stopped blameing yourself? Forgiveness is going to be your first step, whether you stay in the marriage or not. This is so you can go forward. Then think about what you love about him and why. Do something terrific for yourself. It will take a while to forget and you have every right to be mad, upset, scream or whatever so that you can get it out of your system. Learn to pray and encourage yourself., Tell yourself that you are beautiful, victorious, you are happy and you are blessed etc. Think of something that you would love to do and have been putting it off. Take a cruise, a weekend gateaway, a massage something that you will enjoy and feel good about. 

I feel like I am being selfish, so maybe what Im looking for would be suggestions on what I can do.  Short story, I am not sexually satisfied w my relationship right now.  My bf is a gr8 guy, and I really care about him.  We have sex, but it is only like once maybe twice a wk if we're lucky.  Majority of the time he is well done before I'm even close (have you heard this before?!).  Now here is the tricky part.  He had an Inguinal hernia and had surgery to correct it a few months back.  The sex hasnt changed since he had this done it has been this way always leaving me feelin SO frustrated.  He says it is uncomfortable for him at some points of doing the deed.  I believe him, but I'm just like I sd FRUSTRATED!  Its to the point that I start thinkin all these things like: Is this the guy I want to be with forever?  Should I just break up with him and try again?  Maybe its more work than I have energy or patience?   

Basically the feeling I have right now is what I'd imagine is like when I guy has cold feet.  Ive been hurt before, and so I wonder am I puttin up a wall and finding probs so I can just say goodbye?  I really really like my bf, scared to use the "L" word but I feel that too.  I'm sure things could be gr8 if we figured out a solution.  I have talked to him about this, but not in depth as I would've liked.  Both of our children were around, I intend to get to that this wkend, as we will be alone. 

PLS HELP!  TIA :D