Topic : Is This Normal?

Handle it this way.  Be straight forward.  Either join him or leave him.  Don't stay in an uncomfortable position.  Either you have to give him a reason not to masturbate with you in the bed or you two need to find someone for each other that are on the same page, or at least in the same book.

Brian84

What ever you do, don't accept it if it makes you uncomfortable!....Don't ignore the problem...tell him or like Brian84 said, join him and see his reaction. If he stops and pulls away, then dump his sorry ass! Obviously he wants someone else!...If he accepts and you two end up playing with each other, then you will discover many many more pleasures together.

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Im sorry If I posted this in the wrong section but today I feel like I have no place to turn but to strangers for advice.

In the last year I have had a new boyfriend. He is  described as anyones prince charming. I have two kids and am very sucessful as a mom, buisness owner, friend, homemaker. He is a single never married 37 year old stock broker. We first started dating everything was cool but from then to now I don't understand what happened. 

He is very clingy, 12 emails from work a day, buys me expensive gift, flowers, which is nice but I realized he does it for himself. Its always followed by asking me who I phoned and told about the gift. He doesn't just get me these things he gets my mother stuff too... I know its attention related. I asked him please stop. My whole day is answering emails, text messages, and talking about nothing because Id rather do that then listen to him poute. Time my kids get home for school Im so tired mentally. If I dont pack my kids up and drive into his place to spend the night he comes out to my house. Its about a hour drive and he stays for 3 hours and heads home because he has to be up for work in the morning. He wants me and the kids to move where he is, I have the big house, horses, acerage and dont want to leave but was willing to go to another acerage closer, now he wants to go to town. He cant give up one weeknight to spend out at my house and do the drive in the morning but Im expected to give up my buisness, my house, my self really...

Worst part is that he won't stop touching me, I had to talk to him because he would be trying to put his hands down my pants, in my shirt when my kids are around. 5 times a day isnt enough, Every commercial that comes on TV he has his hands trying to get into my pants. Pins me down and tries to stick his tounge down my throat. Sounds gross, but if Im sick with cramps, its still my job to make sure he is pleased and to "catch" his plesures. If the kids wake up I would think most men would be instant mood over, he just runs to the bathroom to releive himself and starts in on me of what he wants to do to me later... I advoid sex, I told him Im not intrested anymore, its changed a little where he isnt expecting me to put out as offen but he cant control his need to touch me. Even so far as sitting at the end of the doctors office while I was getting a transvaginal ultrasound. Only reason I didnt say anything to him is I was hoping he would see and realize im in the doctor for a reason. ( having overy pain )

Everyone says how great he is, wants to buy me the 1 million dollar home, accepts my kids, buys me things, loves me so much. Is it me? I dont think I need that, I would rather go out with friends. our only common intrest is Tv and we dont even like the same shows, he watches them, I sleep ( or pretent to) and follow him to bed when he is done, cause if I dont I get told there is no point spending the night.

paige722 , if he is already trying to control every thing then he isn't at all great and it will only get worse, and if talking to him doesn't work then I suggest finding some one else, this is his problem don't let it become yours and more importantly your kids problem.

From what I have read you is trying to do things to get you under his control even more and by doing all of the nice things and other people seeing it that way he can get there support to get you under his control even more, also it sounds like he is thinking with is prick not his heart and is getting you trained because you are doing things that you don't want to do.

NO ONE should do anything that they don't want to or feel like doing in a relationship, sure I admit that I would love to be more intimate with my wife but she just hasn't wanted to be as much as I and because I love her I don't push it because I do care.

It is vert important that you protect your self and kids from what is going on so unless he is able to get help and stop what he is doing then leave and don't look back and the longer you waite then the harder it will be for every one, and done move unless it is some thing that you want not him.

You both are right, thats the same opinion as I had. Just wanted to be sure... 

Im lucky I was only 6 monthes into it, only sad part is my kids have known mommy to have a boyfriend and they were very happy with the idea of a dad.... There better without, Im just sad for them...

I have ended it, last night he made more attempts to contact me but a simple its pointless and please just leave me alone was all I replied. I expect him to call the people he thinks he scored points with and whine and snivel, kinda become a bit of a stalker but I have a plan in place. One email telling him I worry he is a sex addict and he gives off the impression maybe he has some homosexuality that he is trying to barry and he would leave me alone. He can not wear sweats out of the house as he thinks a person if his wealth and statues would be frowned upon. Im sure he would be so pissed or worried (as I truely do wonder if maybe thats his problem with sex) he would never talk to me again...

The dating thing is done for me, Im starting to think relationships should be like a drivers licence, you have to renew them every few years....  Personally a yeast infection has been more enjoyable than a boyfriend, least I know I can get ride of it in a night..... 

It has been ten mos since my wife gave birth to our son and in that time we have had sex five times. I never asked why becasue I know she didnt feel like having sex after this and I understand so I have put my wants on back burnner and tryed to be there for her and gave her time to heal. well I know I should just ask for it but I if I do that and we do I will feel like she is doing it out of pitty and not becasue she wants to have sex with me, but if she starts it I know she wants to have sex with me.  I have tryed to start it but she always acts like I am a bother to her and not a person deeply in love and what to have sex with her only all day long.  To be honest she is on some meds her Bi poler that kills the sex drive I am aware of that too. when we first got married and our son was born we had sex all the time. I know she love me, but I dont know if she wants to make love with me. I dont feel confortable asking her becasue she may take it the wrong way. Let face it maybe I just need to man up and ask, then if I only get pitty sex for the rest of my life I should be fine with that. I dont know. I would watch porn but I have a 10 mos old son and that dont look right going to store with him in tow. So I dont know what to do, I love her and I know she love me. I love making love to her and meeting her needs. I just dont if she feels the same. We do have a defrent work hours is this the sort of thing we should make time for each wk like at 7pm wendesday night after the baby is in bed love making for a hour this a should be reaccuring? but I dont know about that eather becasue it like no cant it tonight I got this love make appont with the husband if her friend want to go out. I dont know I just dont know HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!