Topic : Is This Normal?

Well it is not nessecary but if he is afraid for STD's due to a previous sexual relationship you can get tested.

The pill is, when correctly used, effective in 98% of the time I believe. But when you have been sick you need to be carefull and you can better use a condom to be safe. there are a lot of sites that provide information on this subject. here you can find factsheets: http://durex.com/cm/education.asp?intMenuOpen=10  and this dutch institution also has info on it (seccond hyperlink in the main frame) http://www.rutgersnissogroep.nl/rutgersnisso_groep/rng/digitaal/BrochuresPDF

I hope this will help you,

xx Oet Gäöl

Hello

     It depends really on his reason for wanting to stick with the condom/pill combo. Maybe he is worried the pill wont work and just needs some education.  Before I got married I told my husband we were going to use both, but I found my attitude on it eventually changed once I understood the facts. Some men may also worry the heightened sensitivity may cause performance problems. That tends to work itself out pretty quick though. The key really is to find out what his issue is. It doesnt matter if its normal, it just matters you are both happy , healthy, and comfortable.

My husband and i were going at and all of the sudden i heard a loud snapping noise, then a loud cry came from my husband! His dick had gone to the side and the blood vesssels almost seemed to snap..... He now is afraid to have sex because when he gets an errection his penis is funny looking and we dont know what to do. Please help us Dr. Phil........

                                                                               Love,

                                                                                           Rosetta

Well after reading your message I had to wright something back and tell your what I was thinking. This is from my side of things and in no way is this to tell you what to do, But. I think your hubby is gay or is going through some kind of mid life change or just does not want to be with you that way. If you asked him about love he would probably tell you that he loves and does not want to leave and he is probably telling the truth.

But he is ok with what it is and that is comfort for him and safe.. But you need to get your feelings out and get them heard.  Love is like A muscle and if you don't work it out it goes away!!!!!!!!!

yes, it is. Just as normal as it is for men to masturbate while in a relationship/marriage.(or maybe a bit less normal but it should be as normal)

oh and it doesn't make you a bad sex partner or so, but sometimes you just want to get off quick without the fuss of having to please your partner aswell. And well since you know your own body best, it is quicker than if someone else gives you a handjob for instance.

Besides you do benifit from it since she knows her own body better which helps you please her better.