Topic : Is This Normal?

What long post? have you read any of mine? :-P I just have a busy schedual at the moment that's all... can't really make sense if I'm really tired...

Well you say that his career takes up a lot of time now, I know that that might feel unjust to you that he displays his interest while he doesn't have the time. But love happens to men so a man won't think if it is the right thing at that moment but he just want's to get to know a beautifull woman he sees. Instinct can be very strong at times.

Well then you say you didn't ask him about the weekends. Why don't you? Men often aren't that thoughtfull and see that it seems as if they are hiding something. He might just feel that the trip was to boring to discuss. And yess not many men are into opera but there are some who are into it and not all are gay as the stereotype suggests.

How did the call go btw?

And I don't think that playing games is the best way of dating but he probably won't mind you driving him nuts though... (I know that was just a fantasy of you though sorry I hooked in so seriously)

Still I think that you should let him fill in the blanks in steads of you it makes things a lot easier for the both of you. (if he still avoids answering you can always draw conclusions from that...)

Well strictly biological speaking he doesn't need a (full) erection to get an orgasm. you can still stimulate his penis to the point of orgasm, though he might not like you touching his penis when he can't get it up. (most men feel it is part of there manhood you get the idea)

the other thing you can do is a little bit more adventerus, but it is not for everyone. You could try to stimulate his prostate and give him an orgasm that way. Only thing is that you will have to reach it via the anus. you can do it either by hand or buy a sex toy designed for it. In any case take it slow and use lots of lube to avoid injuries. (some women also prefer it so you could try it aswell.)

But also the sex in itself is more important then orgasm both men and women feel that way overall so just being there with him might be enough for when it doesn't go up.

I'm at the library, and I'm about to lose my time for the computer..so, I'll answer it either tonight or tomorrow ok?  thanks for reading my posts..and don't worry, I understand

Dee

Thank You for your posts, and yes I DO read EVERTHING!  every word..Anyway, I didn't get together with him..and yes, it was my hurt feelings/angry talking..I know me, and I know I wouldn't of done anything about it..Even, though I'll tell you...there's times when (and I'm sorry) but, some GUYS certainly do need to be taught a lesson, because of how badly they treat women..and I know it works both ways..just, I'm a woman..and I've too many things happen to me lately..

What I honestly feel now, what happen..Now, that I'm over this..Is he liked me..and we talked, and I ask him about this older woman..because, we belong to the same site..and he said, that they broke up in

Dec..that he wanted to meet someone and marry one day..and the older woman, didn't want to get a divorce..so, they ended things.and SHE SAID TO HIM, to go date others..so, I thought he would of told her he did..ME..but, aparently he didn't because, thats one thing I ask.....after he said, it's over..(after that weekend)..and from now on, ALL The weekends are for us..that he doesn't even find her interesting..she's MUCH MUCH OLDER..and that it's ME he wanted to be with, and discuss where our relationships is going..but, I told him ok...then, did YOU tell her this?  did you tell her, that YOU have met ME..and that you want to see where this is going??  he said   NO........... he didn't tell her that?  what the heck???  he doesn't want to hurt HER?  or what?  wants to keep her on the side, just in case WE don't work out??  that's WRONG..well, to me that's wrong..and I told him it's wrong..that YOU and HER are being intimate and she's still married..UNDER the law and GOD..

Anyway, he basically knows what he did to me..and I won't be hearing from him again..and like I said, he told me what can HE DO now..to win back my trust?  to make it up to me..I said, "what you need to do is go away, and search deep into your soul, and see what YOU want"...IF it's this woman..then, perhaps you need to just accept the fact..she doesn't plan on getting a divorce..it's better that way financially for her..I said, HE needs to figure things out..

Dee

Well then I think you made the right decision. If he isn't really over her he can't start a relationship with you. Don't give up hope though there a still a lot of fish in the sea and most of em are good guys. I wish you luck with your next catch :-D I hope that he'll be good to you.

xx Oet Gäöl

Oh and yes some men should be thought a lesson (not that all women are innocent either though :-) )

You're right, not all women are innocent and does a lot of hurtful things as well..I'm not sure IF he's over her or not, I'm just thinking he is messed up or something..but, that's not my problem..and I didn't hear from him, I'm thinking (and this is just my feeling) he's afraid to call me now..because, how I slam him on the phone..I told him EXACTLY what kind of person he and his woman is..but, when he told me what can he do for make it up to me..All I said, is to go and figure what exactly he wants for his life..and although, I DO feel 'some' men deserve some 'pay back', just to teach them that it's NOT right to treat another person like this..but, in the end..I know me, and it's just not worth it..I've moved on  :)

But, I admit it would of been 'fun' doing what I had planned to do..but, I know now, that by doing that..it would keep me in that same place..for which, I want to just move forward..But, it certainly does make a woman afraid to even talk to another man..but, I think, I've learned SO MUCH and smarter for it..just to me, I would like to keep some friends along the way..and I thought at first, I could with him..because, he did have some really good qualities that I liked..and who knows, maybe I"ll give it time..and IF he ever contacts me (because I'll never contact him) perhaps, I'll talk and listen..and maybe, we can go back to being JUST FRIENDS..(of course without benefits lol)...but, I'd like to think I can keep someone as a FRIEND ONLY..so, that would mean..that there's NO holding hands, NO being affectionate..and NO kissing.maybe, on the cheek only..I wonder IF he could do that..I could...   :)

Dee

There is not problem. You can have orgasms through sex, Sex is more then the penis entering the vagina. Clitoral stimulation is a part of sex as well, and a very important part at that. It is not you it is women all around. Only 30% or so of women can orgasm through vaginal stimulation by the penis. So really you don't have a problem nor is there any medication for it.

I suggest you make clitoral stimulation part of your regular sex routine. You can do it yourself or have your partner do it. You can do it by hand mouth or use a small vibrator. This will help you get orgasms when you have sex with your husband.

It is unfortunate that the myth exists that you can orgasm via stimulation of the vagina by a penis. It can be traced back to the victorian era in which a lot of women displayed signs of a disease called "hysteria." In that time the only form sex allowed was the missionary position. So a lot of women (around 70%) would not have an orgasm. There for they became sexually frustrated, and started to display the symptoms of hysteria. Recovery was that a docter would stimulate the clitores (untill they orgasmed.)

So don't worry you are not sick weird or otherwise strange. It has frustrated a lot of women in the past and still the present day. Just work in the clitoral stimulation and then you can have an orgasm with your partner aswell.

Good luck,

Oet Gäöl