How do you deal with a husband that does not participate during sex. He does not want to initiate it, that is up to me, ("to show me that you want to"). Sex is ALWAYS the same, he stands in front of me until I ask what he wants, he says "Sex, unles you dont want to", then I have to wait while he showers, then he lays on the bed flat on his back and waits for me to get on top, do all the work (when I say all the work I mean kissing, touching, moving, etc.) while he lays there and does nothing, not even lifting his hands. He does not try to kiss me, touch me, or even move. I have asked him if he is going to participate and he says he thought he was. Then we finish with me giving him oral sex, as soon as he is finished he jumps up and cleans himself off. He does not insert his tongue in my mouth when kissing me. He does not give me oral sex, he does not participate in foreplay. He wants to "peck" at me all the time but most of the time he misses my mouth and when he does hit my mouth he barely kisses me. I have talked to him about all of this over and over and he just says that he doesnt know what I am talking about. I have asked him to do ANYTHING different in the bedroom, because I have a problem with my having to do everything. We are currently at a standoff regarding sex. We have been married for 5 years, it is the second marriage for both of us.
We have both been married once before, me for 21 years and he for 13 years. I was divorced for 4 years and he was divorced for 10 years.
