Topic : 12/04 Heroin Twins: The Intervention, Part 3

i agree with you that he wasn't wearing the pants in that relationship.

Since there was so much blame put on the step dad, I would like to know what happened to these girls biological Dad?  What role does his absence play in the picture?

To the Dr Phil Twins, Staff and Dr. Phil:

Seriously thank you so much for all you have done for the girls Sarah and Tecoa. They really look much better now and i really really like the twins i side with Tecoa on her decisions with HER baby. She was an addict and you cannot blame an addict really for some of their addictions when they are addicted to the drug. Im not saying that when they made the choice to start on the drug its not bad but as a teen with a "bad" childhood, (i know) you dont really care and you are young and are pressured sometimes into doing drugs and stuff i guess and you look and think its fun and stuff iunno how to explain it but its way different highschool now and probley in Sarah and Tecoas highschool time to when a 40yr old was in highschool yu know. Iunno but i really just wwant to say to Sarah and Tecoa that i TOTALLY am proud and i really feel like i know them i actully like its all i can think aobut i am SO sad that the show is over i dont really know but i just talk aobut the twins all the time. Sarah and Tecoa are doing the best that they ca and for everybody who is focusing on when they started to become addicts well you know what just nvm that part its honestly not important because what is really important is that they are getitng help and Want the help and are trying their BEST to get better and sober. i actually am obsessed with them my dream and my one wish is to actully meet them like they i guess you can say are my idols and they have been from the very first episode with them. and i know some people are going to come and reply to this against me and how i idolize them but you know what like i do and it can be a good thing iunno. just to sarah and tecoa-YOU GUYS ROCK AND KEEP IT UP AND YOU  GUYS ARE MY ACTUAL IDOLS SERIOUSLY LIKE I CANNOT BE MORE SERIOUS AND IM NOT JOKING SO KEEP IT UP!


ALSO to dr phil staff and dr phil- you guys are so great and i cannot thank you enough for all you have done for them and keep it up!! thanxx!

dear dr phil the story about sarah  and tocoha just touch my heart. the girls are very blessed that you came into their lives. i think perry and his wife excuses why they excluded the girls out of their lives is a bunch of crap, there is no excuse for it what would they do if their daughtor start giving them problems are they going to do the samething to her. the girls are better off with out them. i do a news letter for my chruch we have a section called the preyer chair we put peoples name in it for preyer. i will be putting their names in it. good thing their mother didnt give up on them.

i am hopeful that dr. phil will be able to help these twins.  They need to keep up the good work, and do everything they are doing.  Great job girls.  My heart goes out to you

Ditto.  Although I think that it was a good idea for the girls to confront their father as they obviously have a whole host of issues with abandonment, I'm surprised at the lengths that Dr. Phil went to be sure he felt guilty.  Mom was the one who raised them after dad left and played a far bigger role in the path those girls took.  And to say that they were doing normal teenage things is just passing the buck.  She did not do her job as a parent in recognizing the problem. 

 

I by no means condone dad leaving the situation.  But that is not why the girls ended up where they did.  In fact, I was almost offended by the blame being put on him.  My biological father and mother abandoned me, although at different times.  I, too, have abondonment issues but I turned out completely different.  I made something of myself and have a successful and happy career, marriage and family.  No thanks to my parents.  I made my own choices.  I chose to rise above what my parents laid out for me.

 

I'm impressed with the work that Dr. Phil has done with them and I wish them well in their recovery.  Hopefully, at some point, they will realize that they need to "own" their behaviour and stop trying to blame others.

I think these twins are so lucky to have Dr. Phil in their lives.  I have a son that was on Heroin and did a lot of bad things and is now in Jail for the past three years.  This really has been a blessing for him because now he is straight.  Doing drugs has really changed the person he was and has caused a lot of hurt in the family.  The kids today just don't care about what they do to their parents by choosing drugs.  We care but it's such a terrible world we live in.  We try to give our kids the things that we didn't have and I think it changes the kids to think they deserve us going into debt just to satisfy their needs.  I think the problem is we don't have control over our children and they can walk all over us or accuse us of terrible things if we don't give them what they need or don't need. This is a selfish world and money makes power and kids today think the way to get money is to sell drugs and live a dangerous life.  I also believe that most people don't care about others and that is why there are so many problems in the world.  People are individuals and think for thereselves and shouldn't think people have to be the same and have the same religion and want to kill if your not that way.  I also believe because the world is the way it is the kids get into a rut and try to escape the real world by doing drugs.  I wish the twins the best of luck and it has to be something they really want to do, not what someone wants them to do.  My son said Heroin is the worst drug you can do and it's the hardest to stay off of. 

It took a lot of courage and will-power by Sarah and Tecoa to begin the long road of recovery and rehabilitation, but I believe that Dr. Phil's determination literally saved their lives!  If not for his intervention, they likely would have met a terrible and untimely end.

but the most important step has indeed already been taken, they addmitted they had a problem and trhat problem was greater than eather one of them are,but first they must get to the rehad center,these girls didnt place blame for there deeds on any of us,they both know they chouse the drugs, and now they have made a much better choice, they chouse to get clean, and are we to falt them for having to seek help in getting off drugs,rehab will put them intouch with the very feelings that led them to the streets in the first place, but re4hab will teach them to deal with those feelings in a more positave manner, and keep them moving up, not down its way too soon for any one to want tio hear these girls stand up and say hey every one we owne what we did, as if they owed it to any one but themselve in the first place,they owe no one but themselvs!!!

I am so sorry, but the mother is more to blame.  If we want to play the blame game.  The man would not have left the home if the "wife" was doing her part in the marriage.  She had problems while married and she failed to get help for the four of them.  Yes, the exact same message goes out to the "husband."  Their mother admitted she "allowed" behavior that was not in the best interest for her "children."  For an "adult" to jump in on the "band wagon" when the girls expressed their feelings of seeing their dad.  The mother said nothing to help the girls to heal.  What I saw missing is the word "forgiveness."  The girls will need to "forgive" themselves and then they will have to "forgive" their parents.  Once "forgiveness" is shown the healing process will proceed on to a brighter place for everyone concerned.  Stop bad mouthing and start speaking of peace and joy.

God be with you all.