When I saw them last week, I couldn't believe the woman filming them just let Misty shoot up for the 1st time. I was lucky to see what was happening to my friends who shot up & I made a promise to myself that I'd never ever shoot up. That was w/o a doubt one of the best decisions I ever made in my life & that was over 25 years ago. I'm so glad I made & kept that promise to myself. Many I knew are dead because of shooting up drugs. I know someone who watched a friend die while shooting up & all she did was shoot up the rest. That happened many years ago & she still struggles w/ her addiction. As far as know, she only gets clean is when she gets put into jail.
I had found an old friend thru one of the class websites. Had I known they shot up, I would have had no interest in seeing them. But they chose to keep that to themself. So I had no idea when I saw them that they'd come so close to dying. I really think they would've died one of the two times that they stopped breathing. At least I was there to keep them breathing. They didn't drink usually so having a few beers w/ me was enough to make their normal amount used a life threatening situation. Oxys are very powerful drugs in pill form let alone being shot up & had this not been a rather tall & stout person, they would have died. I know that w/o a doubt. It was very scary to witness. After the second episode, I talked about many issues I have worked past in my life. Finally I got them to open up to me as to what they were doing. It was a very intense conversation that lasted for a few days.
I had a very bad upbringing so I knew the mental things that go through you're head when you're mentally abused & unloved by a parent. Well, their upbringing was even worse than mine. Their Dad was never in the picture as far back as they could remember & their Mom (who does not even deserve to be called a Mom) would leave for days to a week at a time & when she returned she would come into the house screaming at them for no reason. For a bunch of teens, their house was always kept immaculate. Now I can see why. They were terrified of her. And, when she came home, she never even brought food for her kids. I'm sorry but that is just such a cruel thing to do. Kids should not have to fend for themselves. My own Mom would have given me food for them had I known but teens did not confide in each other @ those kinds of things 30 years ago. No wonder they ran away from home. I have been on my own since I was 15. I ran away from home too. but somehow I was fortunate enough to "get it". That was 27 years ago. Unfortunately, we had lost touch during one ofthe many times I ran away from home. I was told they had moved to another state. Here their Mom sold the house & moved away. Not them.
Now they live near her & they still seek her love which she just won't give or doesn't know how to give. Sad that such a good person hurts so badly inside because they feel unworthy of being loved by either of their parents. People, do not have kids if you don't plan on doing what's needed to raise them properly.
They had quit using & were doing okay for awhile. But they started using again. And to look at them, you never would have suspected any use especially the amount they were using. Their habit cost over $600+ a week. They were a very functional addict who looks great. Another addiction they had was physical fitness. So I outed them to a relative of theirs who I felt was the best person to help them. I have no idea whether it helped or not. But I was not about to enable them. I know way to many people who have OD'd or committed suicide.
So if you know a kid w/ a poor home life, try to help them. You won't be able to save them all but sometimes all it takes is for someone to care about them, show them that they do matter & that you believe in them. I know that for a fact because I helped their nephew turn his life around. He was headed down the same road but now he's on a new path. Maybe my old friend can see how happy their nephew isin life & may come to the realization that is whatthey want for themself. But maybe not. As another freind told me, you can't save everybody. But I still try because being on my own since I was a teen made me very thankful for my friends. They meant more to me than family. Actually, they were my family. And if you can help a teen now, they won't waste theri lives trying to escape themselves. And that's impossible unless you use so much that you're comfortably numb or commit suicide. And, I was almost successful at committing suicide when I lived at home. No one even knew there was anything wrong unitl 2-3 days had passed. That's how much they noticed.
But that has helped me to help others who have never found there way. And I'm sorry but if you haven't lived it, there will be things that you just don't get. And if you don't believe me, go to a runaway shelter & volunteer to help the kids. It won't be easy because they have a hard time trusting others. When you get treated like dogshit, you'll see why they don't trust anyone but their friends. I've lived w/ kids who were mentally abused, & others who were kicked, punched, burnt, thrown down steps, etc.... So how do you trust people when nothing in your life goes according to the way that they are supposed to? It's hard - that's why they need someone who truly cares about them & believes in them.
So stop worrying @ givng toys. They need to be loved & cared about & that's priceless to a kid.
Dr. Phil continues his work with twin sisters who are addicted to heroin and crack cocaine and were spiraling out of control. A few days into her detox, Sarah begins to emerge from her haze of drug use and painful withdrawal symptoms. Is she committed to the work involved with getting clean? Dr. Phil questions their mother, Cindy, about her own history of alcohol use and how she is sabotaging Tecoa’s sobriety and the health of her unborn baby. Then, Dr. Phil tracks down the sisters’ long-lost stepfather, Perry. They say his disappearance from their lives played a significant role toward their decline into drug use and prostitution. How does Perry explain his absence from their lives, and does his appearance bring closure for Sarah and Tecoa? As the twins begin to take their first steps toward a new life, Dr. Phil informs them that their paths of sobriety will be separate. Will they agree to go to different rehab centers to learn how to stand on their own two feet? Share your thoughts here.
