Topic : 12/04 Heroin Twins: The Intervention, Part 3

I don't normally disagree with Dr. Phil but I was SOO mad today when he blamed everything on the father. He could have done a few things differently but the comment about once he had a biological daughter on the way he threw away the twins - what a joke! My sister has problems that our family has to in ways separate her. I have made the decision not to talk toyou to protect my son.

I wish everyone had such a perfect life, with perfect kids - he has no idea!! I'm so disappointed in him!

You know on this story I agree nodbody but the girls themselves put the needle in thier arm.  But maybe with a little more family support things would of been different.  Yes the girls can be mad at thier dad.  HE ADOPTED THEM they didnt adopt him.  He was thier father and he should of tried a little more with them.  But all he cared about at the time is his new family and bioloical child  .When they were underage the mother or father should of taken to the next level.  Like I said nobody is to blame but the girls themselves.  But family is family and things MAY have turned out different if they had a mother and father to turn to.  That is were a dorviced couple should think about when they have children.  They should put thier feelings aside and be civil to each other for the kids or at least until they are grown to young adults.  

Boy I'm am really getting tired of hearing young and old people blaming  others for the choices they make be it good ones or bad. I don't know any one that had a " perfect childhood" I know I sure didn't I was sexually abused by a close relative but I never went to drugs or alcohol no I went on to make hard decisions in my life at 18 I ended up pregnant not married so in the 60's that was a no no so I thought long and hard to give her to a loving family. We are since reunited and only to find out her life was a fairy tale I'd thought she would have Thank God we now have each other and her 5 beautiful children and to the bastard she married he's in " a program" for spousal abuse what a crack that is he hit her and the kids broke her arm 2 months after giving birth to number 5. 2 months after that he stabbed her with a fork and blacken both eyes all with her in a full cast holding a 2 month old baby. As we are dealing with the after affects he's all comfy cozy in his rehab and out in under  10 months demanding his rights to see his kids 1 day a week. He hit them as well but because of deal making his 10 yr. felony was knocked down to 5 months in a country club. My daughter gets 1,000.00 a month from the state her rent for a 2 bedroom condo is 1400.00 guess who has to pick up the rest and only 500.00 in food stamps we live in CA and the cost of living is so high. Between running the kids to counseling and school and to the courts with gas at what it is you can guess what isn't being done for the true victims here. Now on to the drugs GIVE ME A BREAK PLEASE  I had my right arm ground off in a meat grinder in 76 but did I make the choice to sit back and say oh poor me .hell no I got married to a wonderful man helped him raise his 5 children and we were married to Christmas Day 1997 when he died at the foot of our bed in a massive heart attack and even then I never went to drugs or blame.

To this day I am disabled by a nerve disease that is very painful and I do need lots of pain medication to make it possible for me to do the things that need to be done. I should take 6 pills for pain a day but hey I have kids to feed clean up after and watch over so I stay in pain till they go to bed then I take my medication again no blame game things happen get over it I don't see Dr. Phil helping 5 young kids get over seeing their Mom hit many times by their Dad or the fact the the oldest at age 9 has already been kicked out of 1 school we are trying to do the best we can tell them they are loved and they can do anything and that they are special and none of this was there fault. CHOOSE PEOPLE WE HAVE FREE WILL MAKE THE RIGHT CHOSE.......CHOSE YOU CHILDREN CHOSE LOVE NOT BLAME CHOSE YOURSELF

MICHELLE

Run in such a way to get the prize. (1 cor 9:24). The girls are taking responsibility. Maybe for the first time. We have all had our hearts broken for one reason or another. The paths we take will not all be the same. there are too many variables that make up a person and the choices they will make. But TODAY, they have been given hope and help. They will receive tools that they had not before possessed. And they can become amazing human beings. I for one support them. I used heroin and cocaine for many yrs. I did all the same dirt they did. I have been hospitalized several times. Suicide attempts. complete void of hope. This is not the life these girls wanted for themselves. They had dreams like everyonwe else. I will be praying for them. I now have a sweet life. I have 3 beautiful children, I am married to a wonderful man of God. I am a leader in m y church. I now help other people who want to recover from drugs. My life has been So blessed. I threw away any guilt or shame from the past. Realizing it was only a cancer in my life to allow those feeelings. Regret, sure. These girls are precious. they just need to learn that themselves. And hopefully one day soon, They too will have an awesome testimony and pass it on. This time will onyl become a reference point in their lives. They have to face their demons head on, and keep their eyes on the prize. They will have to reach down deep inside for the soldier in themselves, and battle up. Because this will be a war for their very lives. They can come out victorious. It is not the size of the dog inthe fight, but the size of the fight in the dog.