Topic : 12/04 Heroin Twins: The Intervention, Part 3

I couldn't agree more. I think that Dr. Phil has saved these young ladie's lives. I just sat and cried today as I watched the girls so excitedly go off to rehab in expectation of turning that very difficult corner and really start to learn how to live happy and productive lives.

To Sarah and Tecoa, I also wish you both the very best (although you already have that in Dr. Phil). As you went off in the separate cars today, I said a prayer for you both to give you all of the support that you will need to get through this. As Sarah said though, I think that the worst is over. Now you'll just have to learn how to keep it that way, and I know that you can do it! Even after everything that you have been through, I can tell that you are both wonderful young women. You have many people pulling for you out here! I will continue to send prayers, warm thoughts, and support your way! YOU BOTH CAN DO IT! I have complete confidence in you!

Jen

I thought they were very hard on the "Step" father, they kept calling him that even though he legally adopted the girls.  In the state that I live in after a divorce the non custodial/ non residential parent has "rights" & "responsibilities".  Rights are the designated visitation times and responsibilites are the support payments.  That is all!  All decisions related to the raising of the child belongs with the custodial/residential parent.  If that parent chooses to discuss issues with the paying parent that is their decision but they don't have to disclose anything.  Supposedly the paying parent has rights to medical information and such but that is very hard to get if the residential parent chooses not to disclose the doctor's name.  If you can get shared parenting then everything is open to both but that is only given when both parents agree on that at the time of divorce.  My point in this is that from personal experience, you can only do just so much when you have no control.  I'm sure the "Step" father made his share of mistakes but if the mother wasn't cooperating and might have been contributing to the problems in the making what do you do?  Unfortunately divorced Dads feel no other option than to check out.

Father and I say father not step father or adopted father because when he adopted them he takes the place of the the absent birth father should hold much blame on his shoulders.  What he did was very very wrong. HIs and his wife excuse is that they did not want the girls to be around his daughter.......did you get that not his OTHER daughter but in his words his daughter.  Who says you can't get in your car and go see them or even pick up the phone and call even if your new wife does not like it? I speak from experience. I did not adopt my step-daughter but, even after I divorced my husband still was a huge part of her life and still am! I would till this day take a bullet for her and she was not a easy child to love and was in much trouble but, she needed me and I was there.  I am sick with all the treads saying that poor father.

IF you dont want to step in crap walk around it you dont have to trun around!

Did Dr. Phil forget his velvet hammer today?    How could he let the twins mom off without a fight.   Dont you think she needs an intervention herself?   Why not send all 3 to separate treatment centers.   Maybe he has something else in mind and does not want to upset the apple cart----but that woman is destructive.

While I initially felt those stuffed animals an inappropriate gift for teens with that much baggage, I liked what the sentiment behind them was.

Did your blood boil like mine when mom blamed step dad for abandoning them.   It was wrong wrong wrong to leave them like that, but it seems he thought he was doing the best he could with what he had.   Mom was the true abandoning person-she knew what was happening and sat there and let it happen.   She could have, and should have called in the troops, including dad to help her save them years ago.

Nice to see the girls getting happy and looking good today.