Quote From: knitemistDid Dr. Phil say it was her fault because all the important events that have happened to her were cerebral? I was out of the room and missed a couple minutes of the show.
Couldn't it just be that men should stop sticking their tongues down our throats the very first time we meet them. Who needs it? Give ME a Break!!! I've put up with that my whole life and now I tell them before we ever get to that first kiss. But ususally I don't get a second date and I think its because I don't let me slobber all over me or let them gag me with their tongue. After getting to know them its a different story...then we can add a little tongue. COME ON GUYS! Isn't there such a thing as a passionate kiss minus the wet appendage wiggling around in our mouths??
Am I the only one who feels this way?
I think Dr. Phil made several important points...
1. It was striking that the young lady listed only "achievement" events as being significant in her life. No mention of "fun" things, dating, etc. Perhaps she had placed her life's focus on achievement, with little experience on emotional/intimate experiences.
2. The young woman needs to understand that she is an individual, with her own wants, needs. She is not comfortable with her lack of enjoyment of physical intimacy. Hence, his offer of short term therapy.
I think when she finds someone she really feels comfortable/safe with, she will begin to enjoy affection. On her terms, when she is ready.
I didn't get the impression he said it was her fault. He just observed that her "story" lacked much in the way of intimate experience, be it family demonstration of affection or sexual affection.
I also wonder if there was more to her story, perhaps sexual or emotional abuse that was not disclosed on air.
I think anyone who does not enjoy certain sexual behaviors, such as French kissing, should set limits on what is "OK". But at an appropriate time. If you are not getting second dates because you refuse "tongue" kisses, the guy is not worth the time of day. Anyone, male or female, usually picks up on signals, I think. Maybe telling someone you have just met that you don't want to kiss that way is "put off", not by your telling what you want or don't want, but because such an announcement on the first date seems a little out of place. If you get kissed that way, and you don't want it, turn your head away, and tell him you are not ready for it! If the guy likes you, he will respect your wishes and ask you out again....
(Original Air Date: 12/05/06) Dr. Phil and Robin answer viewer questions! Melissa wrote in because her boyfriend, Destin, believes gambling is his right because he’s the man of the house. But Destin’s hobby caused them to lose their home, and Melissa fears that their son will grow up without basic necessities. Robin shares her own personal experience with a father who had a gambling problem and offers hope for this family’s future. Then, meet a couple at odds over whether giving their children “kiddie cocktails” will promote underage drinking and glorify alcoholic behavior. Plus, a young woman who thinks affection is “gross,” a woman who needs more romance, and a special surprise for an inspirational woman devoted to changing the lives of young burn victims. Join the discussion!
