Quote From: ceildh1In defense of the kids these days, they have much more to deal with, usually, starting at home.
Have you ever read some of these childcare books ? "Don't trust your instincts " seems to be a big thing, trust the book, whichever one happens to appeal to you the most, so unlike even my parents in the seventies and eighties who depended on their instincts and parented us, this days we are told that is WRONG, and the book will tell all, parents become confused about what top do and the conflicting advice and "evidence" we are innundated with is incredible.
Children are told as early as kindergarten that if Mommy or Daddy touches you in a way you don't like, tell us and we will have CPS or Social Services come see what's going on, even a teacher can get in trouble for patting a student on the back for a "Good Job".
Parents have given their power away, why I don't know, but we did.
Kids are coming from more broken homes now than EVER, Mom and Dad are BOTH working to make ends meet, it's NOT always a CHOICE whether or not to stay home now, and it makes it even harder for parents to keep a close eye on their kids, now kids being kids, especially teens, think back to that time, if you don't keep on top of things well we can a figure out where that can go.
There are kids who are going home to Mom or Dad passed out drunk or stoned on the couch, or Mom and Dad being "TOO BUSY" to talk give the kid some money and snd them on their way.
There are kids being badly abused at home, and lash out at ANY authority figure that they KNOW can't touch them.
Parents do have to take back their power with their kids, I agree, but where is the line ? What constitutes abuse and what constitutes discipline, I've heard some saying that GROUNDING a kid is abusive, what is that all about ?
When Brittany Spears and Christina Aguleria (?) have become our children's role models, or those horrid Bratz dolls that advocate being a fashionista instead of smarter than the boys, or how about the sports stars that have been charged for drug possetion or those rappers that glorify gun violence or the rock stars ( Marilyn Manson comes to mind) that glorify the evil in the world, we were in trouble.
Parents allowing their daughters to go to school dressed like hookers in the name of fashion and freedom ? Give me a break. Or allowing their sons to walk around with their underwear hanging out, how about letting your teen get tattoos and body piercings whether you like it or not?
Did these parents LISTEN to that young woman last week ? She wanted to hear the word "NO" she wanted limits, children NEED them, so we as parents have to STEP UP and take our power back, I truly belive the really rotten kids are the MINORITY,lets start focussing on the MAJORITY of kids who might be just lost and confused, a lot like us parents at times.
I have lots of questions for you. Why do you find it necessary to talk about a childcare book or books and not give any quotes or name these books? Maybe you could help someone by swaying them away from those books that have false information or information that may be making their situation worse.
Instincts have nothing to do with parenting in my opinion. Having preset morals and values are what I believe parents should be equiped with by their parents. Parents should be held accountable for not providing such things. How? You might ask. By having someone like a school phycoligist come and offer assistance for the family. Which I think it would be very benificial to both of these ladies and the families involved on todays show.
I have had 2 of my 3 children go through kindergarten thus far. Each of them brought home a paper asking my permission for my child to participate in a program that will be teaching then about improper touching. I signed that paper both times giving my permission. When they came home they had a coloring book that had all the information I needed to help me talk to them about it also. I did just that. Parents have to get involved and build trust and moral values to let each child know that this behavior is wrong and they can trust you to protect them from it. Education is part of that protection.
Can you provide a news paper clipping or other form of evidience that supports your statement, "even a teacher can get in trouble for patting a student on the back for a "Good Job." ?"
You say, "it's not always a choice whether or not to stay home now." Are we as parents not the ones who make the decisions of how the family budget is set?
Are we as parents powerless when it comes to limiting our kids accessability to the down falls of our society?
My answer to both of those are NO NO NO!
Parents have to be held "accountable for allowing thier daughters to go to school dressed like hookers."" By the school not allowing it. Sending the student home is not the answer. Calling the parent at work and bring it their attention is what has to be done. If that parent is lacking parental strength, then help must be offered and available. Also if that parent is uncooperative, then that parent(s) have to find another school for their child to attend.
We have to be willing to step up and stand up for all, not just one.
Kids across the country are playing pranks and harassing teachers. Tericka, a high school science teacher who loved her job, lived in fear of her scandalous past catching up with her and getting her fired. Students eventually found out about her shocking past and the news spread throughout town like wildfire. Are other teachers taking her side, or do they feel her punishment was justified? How can she move forward? Then, Anna, an assistant principal, was harassed on the Internet when two students created a fake MySpace page alleging to be her. She says they completely attacked her character and need to be held accountable for their actions. Was this just a practical joke gone bad, or were these students out for revenge? Find out what Anna did to show these kids that some jokes just aren't funny. Could the mischief your kids get into end up costing you thousands of dollars? Talk about the show here.
