Topic : 12/13 Holiday Horror Stories

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The holidays are here, but some households never experience “peace on earth.” Dr. Phil’s guests refuse to embrace the spirit of the season, and say Christmas is the worst time of the year! Joyce has been married to Rick for 27 years, and has hated the holidays for 26 of those years. She refuses to put up a tree, decorate her house or listen to Christmas carols. Rick says Joyce even flipped out when he tried to dangle some mistletoe over her head!  Joyce has succeeded in ruining her family’s joy, but is she about to destroy her marriage? Then, Val has 11 kids, but says her three daughters stop at nothing to wreck the holidays. One daughter even resorted to breaking her sister’s finger on Christmas day! The constant fighting has pushed Val to consider something drastic. And, find out what special event Robin and Dr. Phil hosted to help celebrate the true holiday spirit! Talk about the show here.

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December 13, 2006, 11:09 am PST

12/13 Holiday Horror Stories

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Germany is credited with starting the Christmas tree tradition as we now know it in the 16th century when devout Christians brought decorated trees into their homes. Some built Christmas pyramids of wood and decorated them with evergreens and candles if wood was scarce. It is a widely held belief that Martin Luther, the 16th-century Protestant reformer, first added lighted candles to a tree. Walking toward his home one winter evening, composing a sermon, he was awed by the brilliance of stars twinkling amidst evergreens. To recapture the scene for his family, he erected a tree in the main room and wired its branches with lighted candles.

Most 19th-century Americans found Christmas trees an oddity. The first record of one being on display was in the 1830s by the German settlers of Pennsylvania, although trees had been a tradition in many German homes much earlier. The Pennsylvania German settlements had community trees as early as 1747. But, as late as the 1840s Christmas trees were seen as pagan symbols and not accepted by most Americans.

It is not surprising that, like many other festive Christmas customs, the tree was adopted so late in America. To the New England Puritans, Christmas was sacred. The pilgrims's second governor, William Bradford, wrote that he tried hard to stamp out "pagan mockery" of the observance, penalizing any frivolity. The influential Oliver Cromwell preached against "the heathen traditions" of Christmas carols, decorated trees, and any joyful expression that desecrated "that sacred event." In 1659, the General Court of Massachusetts enacted a law making any observance of December 25 (other than a church service) a penal offense; people were fined for hanging decorations. That stern solemnity continued until the 19th century, when the influx of German and Irish immigrants undermined the Puritan legacy.

In 1846, the popular royals, Queen Victoria and her German Prince, Albert, were sketched in the Illustrated London News standing with their children around a Christmas tree. Unlike the previous royal family, Victoria was very popular with her subjects, and what was done at court immediately became fashionablenot only in Britain, but with fashion-conscious East Coast American Society. The Christmas tree had arrived.

By the 1890s Christmas ornaments were arriving from Germany and Christmas tree popularity was on the rise around the U.S. It was noted that Europeans used small trees about four feet in height, while Americans liked their Christmas trees to reach from floor to ceiling.

The early 20th century saw Americans decorating their trees mainly with homemade ornaments, while the German-American sect continued to use apples, nuts, and marzipan cookies. Popcorn joined in after being dyed bright colors and interlaced with berries and nuts. Electricity brought about Christmas lights, making it possible for Christmas trees to glow for days on end. With this, Christmas trees began to appear in town squares across the country and having a Christmas tree in the home became an American tradition.

Did you know there's astory about lights for the tree (I'm not sure of it's veracity) but supposedly an early switchboard operator dismantled a switchboard and took the lights to decorate his tree.
 
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December 13, 2006, 11:31 am PST

12/13 Holiday Horror Stories

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Did you know there's astory about lights for the tree (I'm not sure of it's veracity) but supposedly an early switchboard operator dismantled a switchboard and took the lights to decorate his tree.
no i did not know that but it interests me greatly thank you.
 
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December 13, 2006, 11:36 am PST

yes you are correct, and i respect your views, heres another reason i dont see a tree as a pagan god!

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We are all welcomed to believe what we want.

When Christ was on earth, the dogwood grew

To a towering size with a lovely hue.

Its branches were strong and interwoven

And for Christ's cross its timbers were chosen.

Being distressed at the use of this wood,

Christ made a promise which still holds good:

"Not ever again shall the dogwood grow
To be large enough for such a tree, and so
Slender and twisted it shall always be
With cross-shaped blossoms for all to see.

The petals shall have bloodstains marked in brown
And the blossom's center a thorny crown.
All who see it will think of me,
Nailed to a cross from a dogwood tree.

Protected and cherished this tree shall be,
A reflection to all of my agony."

 
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December 13, 2006, 11:37 am PST

"CHRISTMAS"

It's so sad to hear such negative thoughts about one of the nicest times of the year.  I understand when it's hard for people to move on at Christmas after they have lost a loved one at this time of year.  I too lost my Grandfather 18 years ago at Christmas, yes it is a long time ago, but we were very close.  He absolutely loved Christmas time, so as hard as it is, I try to make the best of it for him and my family.   

 

I feel so many people out there lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas, THE BIRTH OF CHRIST is what it's all about, we should be together with family and friends to celebrate this glorious time.  Who cares about the gifts, food, wine, etc.... that's the reason so many people do not enjoy this time of year.  They may not be able to afford all of those things, and then "Oh my gosh, what are we going to do?? the holidays are ruined." Too much commercialism and not enough from the heart and faith. 

 

My husband came from a poor family, at Christmas time there wasn't enough money to buy presents for all the children.  His dear sweet mother ( God rest her soul) MADE home made Christmas gifts for all of her 7 children.  My husband has commented that they were the best gifts they had ever received.  NOW THAT IS THE SPIRIT OF CHRISTMAS.

 

We have so much to be thankful for when we are healthy and are actually alive to be celebrating Christmas.  I think if we all thought in a different way Christmas would be a much brighter and happy holiday as it should be. 

 

Merry Christmas and God Bless!

 

 

 
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December 13, 2006, 12:05 pm PST

i think i found the artical you were refering to.

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Did you know there's astory about lights for the tree (I'm not sure of it's veracity) but supposedly an early switchboard operator dismantled a switchboard and took the lights to decorate his tree.

A BRIEF HISTORY

The world's first practical light bulb was invented by Thomas Edison in 1879, (CLICK HERE to see the patent) and it was to be only three years later that an associate of his, one Edward Johnson, electrically lit a Christmas tree for the first time. The tree was in the parlor of his New York home, located in the first section of that city to be wired for electricity. The display created quite a stir, and was dutifully recorded by a reporter named Croffut in the Detroit Post and Tribune:

Last evening I walked over beyond Fifth Avenue and called at the residence of Edward H. Johnson, vice-president of Edison's electric company. There, at the rear of the beautiful parlors, was a large Christmas tree presenting a most picturesque and uncanny aspect. It was brilliantly lighted with many colored globes about as large as an English walnut and was turning some six times a minute on a little pine box. There were eighty lights in all encased in these dainty glass eggs, and about equally divided between white, red and blue. As the tree turned, the colors alternated, all the lamps going out and being relit at every revolution. The result was a continuous twinkling of dancing colors, red, white, blue, white, red, blue---all evening.

I need not tell you that the scintillating evergreen was a pretty sight---one can hardly imagine anything prettier. The ceiling was crossed obliquely with two wires on which hung 28 more of the tiny lights; and all the lights and the fantastic tree itself with its starry fruit were kept going by the slight electric current brought from the main office on a filmy wire. The tree was kept revolving by a little hidden crank below the floor which was turned by electricity.  It was a superb exhibition."

As a side note here, let me address a question that I often get about the first electrically lit Christmas tree. There is another story that has been frequently reported that credits Ralph Morris as the inventor of electric Christmas lights. The story goes that Ralph, seeing his son push a candle over on a Christmas tree, nearly set the tree on fire and ended up singeing his hair. Ralph came up with the idea of pulling the lights from an old telephone switchboard and wiring them on a tree, and thusly "inventing" the electric Christmas tree lights. This incident is actually true, but it happened in 1908. Up until the early 1930s, Mr. Morris' family truly believed he had invented electric lighting for trees, totally unaware of Edward Johnson and his parlor tree. I have seen this story, in various versions, presented on the internet and in published works as the origin of electrically lighted trees. But this incident happened more than 25 years after Edward Johnson displayed his tree.
Since public distribution of electricity was not yet common, those living outside of a major city who desired one of these wonderful trees had to supply their own electric power, typically from household generators. In addition, the services of a "wireman" had to be obtained, as few people were willing or even able to undertake the job of hand wiring all of the lights on the tree themselves. Electric socket outfits had not been invented, and it was a tedious task at best to wire all of the lights necessary to illuminate a room sized tree. Although intrigued, the public was not yet convinced of the practicality of electric trees.
In 1895, President Cleveland proudly sponsored the first electrically lit Christmas tree in the White House. It was a huge specimen, featuring more than a hundred multicolored lights. Finally, the general public was taking notice, and it was not  long afterward that members of "high society" were hosting Christmas Tree parties. They were grand events indeed, as a typical lighted tree of the early 1900s cost upwards of $300 (more than $2000 today), including the generator and wireman's services. Still out of range for the average American family, smaller and less expensive battery-operated lighting strings were decorating the trees of those adventurous enough to do the wiring. In fact, an article in Popular Electricity Magazine had an piece for children, explaining how to light the family tree with battery-powered electric lights. The back pages had instructions on ordering the necessary wire, sockets and light bulbs. General Electric even offered miniature light bulbs for rent in some cities, as an alternative to an outright purchase of the expensive lamps. But electric tree lighting was not to be truly practical until the General Electric Company came to the rescue in 1903. That year, GE offered a pre-assembled lighting outfit for the first time. Still quite expensive at $12.00 (the total weekly wage for an average worker and the equivalent of about $80.00 today),  many department stores in the larger, electrified cities would rent outfits for the season for $1.50. Called a "festoon", the outfit consisted of eight green pre-wired porcelain sockets, eight Edison miniature base colored glass lamps, and a handy screw-in plug for easy attachment to a nearby wall or ceiling light socket. The set was suitable for a table-top size tree:

circa 1905 Rental Christmas Tree Lighting Outfit

 

Below is a transcript of the contents of a colorful booklet put out by General Electric in 1903:                                                                                                                                                                 READY MADE ELECTRIC LIGHTING OUTFITS FOR DECORATIVE LIGHTING

General Electric Flyer No. 2134

"In electrically lighted houses, the use of Miniature Incandescent Lamps renders possible most attractive effects and gives an added charm to all forms of decorations. Such lamps, by their small size and inconspicuous shape, are especially adapted for table, foliage and general house decorations. Having no flame, they are clean and safe to handle. They are instantaneously lighted by the touch of a button, and they will burn for as long as desired without attention. The only drawback to their general use has been the trouble and expense of wiring them so they could be connected to the lighting circuit. This difficulty has now been overcome by a completely wired outfit, in which miniature sockets and flexible cord are connected together, all made up and ready for immediate use.

This outfit consists of a number of feet of flexible cord with a regular attaching plug at one end, and branch festoons, each having eight miniature pendant porcelain sockets wired thereon. With the outfit is supplied the necessary  number of Miniature Decorative Edison Lamps, plain and in colors.
To arrange the lighting decoration, it is necessary only to screw the attaching plug into the nearest regular lamp socket, drape the wires over the table or object to be decorated, screw the little lamps into their sockets, and the decoration is complete!
The outfit is simple, flexible, thoroughly constructed and perfectly safe. It is neatly packed in an attractively decorated wooden box and forms a most useful and serviceable device, which should be in every electrically lighted home. It is useful as a general house decoration for the dinner table, for the ornamentation of walls, columns, balustrades, chandeliers, and for decorations of flowers, foliage, etc.
The full cost is low, considering that the Miniature Lamps are included, and an outfit once purchased will last for years and can be used repeatedly with little trouble and no additional expense.
The outfits will be supplied for eight lamps and multiples of eight; that is 8, 16, 24, etc. lamps. The junction plug is so constructed that extra festoons can be connected, and thus the size of the outfit in number of lamps may be increased or reduced as desired."

"The following is a list of the sizes supplied:

Complete outfit, consisting of one festoon of eight sockets and ten lamps--six plain, two frosted and two red--$5.00


Complete outfit, consisting of two festoons of eight sockets each for a total of sixteen sockets in all and nineteen lamps--thirteen plain, three frosted and three red--$8.50


Complete outfit, consisting of three festoons of eight sockets each for a total of 24 sockets in all and twenty eight lamps--twenty plain, four frosted and four red--$12.00


Extra festoons, ready for connection to outfit, consisting of eight sockets and nine lamps--six plain, two frosted and one red--$4.00

GENERAL ELECTRIC COMPANY
Main Lamp Sales Office
Harrison, New Jersey"

 

 

 
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December 13, 2006, 12:10 pm PST

Bad Attitudes At Christmas Time

My gosh I just watched the show and can't tell you how disappointed I was in Joyce.  Joyce grow up and get over yourself.  Can't you try a little bit for those beautiful grandchildren you have.  You are very selfish and need an attitude adjustment.  You truly don't know the true meaning of Christmas.
 
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December 13, 2006, 12:15 pm PST

So Sorry

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I'm just so angry at the woman who's been making Christmas hell for her family since her husband bought her the wrong gift 26 years ago. My husband died in March, I'd give anything to have him here, and he could sure give a gift....he gave me a shop vac last year, a car buffer one year. But he was thinking of me when he bought the gift. He knew I'd been planning to buy a new shop vac, so he was listening. I knew I'd better watch what I said in the month or so before Christmas, my birthday, our anniversary. It was almost a game to steer him in the right direction. Sure I'd have liked a better gift.......She's lucky she still has her husband. My family is in pain this Christmas, the pain of Mike not being here. My youngest grandson ask 'How are we going to do Christmas without Grandpa?'  Nothing about gifts. She needs to shut up and be thankfull she has a family. Instead of the hell she's giving to them. She doesn't know what hell is.
You Mike sounded like a real gem!
 
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December 13, 2006, 12:16 pm PST

Dr. Phil's not listening

The woman who hates Christmas is hurt because for 26 years her husband has not bought her a present. Dr. Phil keeps talking as if her problem were that she took back a gift from her husband 26 years ago. Yes, she did and it hurt her husband's feelings. But now HE hasn't bought her a gift in 26 years! Come on Dr. Phil, she has reason to be angry about that!

 

Yes, she should argue with him about that in the background and make a nice Christmas for the family. That's what my mother did. My dad was thoughtless too and never bought my mother anything. She was kinder than this lady. But this lady has every reason to be angry with her petty, cheap, selfish husband.

 
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December 13, 2006, 12:16 pm PST

This is silly.

I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse that mostly happened around the holidays when I was around that person. I have managed to work through this and take my holidays back for mine and my family's sake. If I can do this you think these people could get it together and at least not destroy everyone elses happiness with there petty problems.Get real people!

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December 13, 2006, 12:20 pm PST

Poor Sad Joyce

 

 

How can Dr. Phil be so hard on this poor woman. If I spent 365 days a year doing for my husband and then did not receive a Christmas present from him in 26 years....I WOULD CANCEL CHRISTMAS TOO!!!!

 

True, it is not good for her grandkids and daughter to see her so upset every year, but why isn't somebody smacking him around to get the poor woman a nice journey necklace after all these years she's gone without? I'm sure that would snap her out of it! I would feel so unloved in her place.

 

 

 

 

 

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