Topic : 200 Pounds or More to Lose

I know how you feel about the comments.  I lost 50 pounds and then went to my hometown to visit my family during the summer holidays.  The first thing my brother (who hadn't seen me in months and should have noticed a difference) said was "you really need to start losing weight".  So, I can totally relate to how you feel hearing those comments.  I hate hearing them too, especially now that I'm a "work in progress".  I want to scream "oh ya, you should have seen me months ago!!".  But I don't.  It's my journey and I'll get there....and so will you. 

  

I, too, have the spell checker underneath the subject line.  Maybe it's a Canuck thing Lou! LOL     

  

I hope you all have a safe Halloween.  I'm going to make the kids take my favourite Reeses candies up to my mother's now so that I'm not tempted..... 

  

Stef 

cannot spell? Lol 

  

Welcome Woody, that's what is so wonderfully about this site, we all can relate to what has happened to you.  This time it is different, this time I am doing it for myself only, the only negative words that impact on me are the ones I say to myself and I am learning to turn the negative into the positive.  I will succeed, I started on July 8/05 and to date have lost just over 29 lbs, not a major loss but a comfortable, for me, loss.  This time I will make it, this is my mantra, when I make bad choices this phrase is what stops me and this phrase is what makes me carry on. 

  

Halloween, I have had the candy in the house for several weeks, it didn't even tempt me - but tonight I have been a very very bad girl BUT - THIS TIME I WILL MAKE IT, so will carry on from here. 

  

Only had 5 little goblins tonight - and none of them took me up on my offer of free mousers - the cats even obliged by lining up four in a row on the railing near the door, oh well, one person thought they knew of someone who needed some mousers for their barn, keeping my fingers crossed.  Need to clear out a few animals before winter really sets in. 

  

Well, here is hoping more kids come - otherwise I will put the candy in a bowl and Grandpa can eat it all, lol, he is 85 years old and eats candy like a little kid, stuffing it in his mouth, his pockets, anywhere he can put it, lol, I never have trouble getting rid of it - of course I have three "kids" in the house also. 

  

Goodnight all. 

  

Lou 

I was quietly reading posts when I got to the end of Linda B's post.  The beautiful blooming person or blooming idiot?  And out came the milk!  Laughing out loud here!   

  

Halloween went well and I didn't overindulge.  I'm happy with that.  What surprized me was my friends next door neighbour was I swear hitting on me.  Maybe it's because it was dark, maybe it's the weight loss.  I have been trying to wear clothes that arn't sacks lately too.  So maybe it was a combo of  all those things.  Either way it shocked the heck out of me.  One he's a nice guy.  Two he has a house, car and well paying full time job.  He knows who I was married to.  Overall tonight was a shocker.  I don't know if anyone else has been in this situation before but it blew me away! 

  

I hope every had a happy and safe Halloween and I'll talk to you all soon.   

  

Hugs from Dee! 

HI everyone! Trying to catch up on posts, we have been busy with giving influenza vaccinations so have just been coming home and dropping! lol    

  

Autumn it was good to hear from you! Glad that you are holding your own. I have been doing that too. Juggling five pounds. Know what I need to do but letting everything else get in the way.  

  

Woody, glad that you posted. I had to laugh at myself, I practically wear a sign that says I have lost 60 pounds so that no one has an opportunity to say anything to me. It's kind of like my name is Cindy and I have lost 60 pounds so don't you dare say anything to me.......lol   I have experienced that anger and hurt, sometimes it has been a catalyst to make me work harder and sometimes I have gone backwards and ate the hurt away.   

  

I have kind of different circumstance that I am dealing with. Someone I work with has really put on the weight and can hardly do her job because she has to walk.  At first, everyone was bringing everything to her and then slowly it dawned on them that if she doesn't move she will get larger. I have invited her to work with me, she was excited but as we all know it has to be your motivation not me pushing her.  I have thought about myself many times and why did not the people who were in my life say something to me when I was putting on ten pounds a week when my brother died.......if I was on drugs they would have said something!  What would have been my reaction if they did?   Does anyone have any suggestions?  I'm not the poster child for "healthy" so maybe I'm not the person to talk to her. I just care about her and see myself in her.  Cindy 

Welcome to the Board. You gave some concrete steps that you are taking in your weight loss approach: personal trainer, nutritionist, "dusting off Dr. Phil's book," etc. Each of those strategies are reinforcements of your determination to find the victory in this critical health issue. .................................................................................................................. I think anything outside the norm is an open invitation for comment by some people ... short people, tall people, over/underweight people, big-chinned people, pointy-nosed people ... I am sure at one time or another they have heard less than cordial comments. We just have to learn not to let someone else determine what kind of day we are going to have. I think what people say reflects more on themselves than on the person the comment is about. All that said, cruel words still hurt. That old "sticks and stones" ditty is a crock ... names do hurt us. But each time we refuse to claim the comments from someone, the stronger we will be. I had a kid at school one time tell me I am fat. I said, "You know ... you're right! I AM fat ... but YOU'RE UGLY ... and I can go on a diet." I don't advocate that approach. I am much less defensive nowadays and usually won't waste my energy responding. When I DO respond, I try to keep it light-hearted. For example, the last time I responded to the "You're fat" informer, I asked them if they had a mirror. She pulled one out of her purse and handed it to me. I looked in it and said, "Oh, my gosh, you're right ... I AM fat. Thank you SO MUCH for telling me ... that must be why I have to buy size 14 underpants. Mystery solved!! Thanks, again, so much ... and here's your mirror back. Have a nice day ... and God bless." I felt great instead of defensive about the whole exchange. ................................................................................................................... OUT OF TIME ....... LINDA B.   

It was so good to read a post from you. I know that sometimes life gets in the way of our plans and "good intentions" get pushed aside. I am just glad to know that you and your family are OK. ................................................................................................................. I have to share with all of you another story from the "hallowed halls" of school (I haven't taught in over 34 years and so that tells you how old I am [60]). I was walking down the hall one day and a little 1st grader was sitting in the hall being punished. As I passed her, she said, "You know what? My sister says that you are the ugliest teacher in the whole school." ... "Did she?" I said light heartedly as I continued on my way. ... In the faculty room at lunch I told this to her teacher and SHE got really upset (much more than I did). ... I said, "You don't understand. I didn't tell you this to upset you. It just tickled me that she said what she said." ... The other teacher replied, "No, YOU don't understand. That little brat is an ONLY CHILD!!!" I laughed so hard I thought I would pee my pants. I truly admired that little kid's quick-thinking cleverness. If you don't understand the humor in this, your mind probably isn't as demented as mine. At the time, I probably weighed 175 pounds LESS than I do now. Maybe that little kid was a psychic and could see my future and how big I was going to get. LOL. ................................................................................................................... Make it a great day. LINDA B.

  

  

WELL LASTNIGHT TURNED OUT WELL TO GO OUT AND TREAT OR TREAT,KIDS DID GREAT AND SO DID I....I DID END UP EATING A MINI TWIX AND A CARMAL BUT I CHOOSE TO HAVE IT AND I ENDED UP GETTING A HEADACHE ...FROM IT..(LAUGHS)  

  

OTHERWISE TODAY WAS WEIGHT,MEASUREMENT DAY...AND GLAD TO SAY I HAVE LOST ANOTHER 7 POUNDS AND 9 INCHES...AND 6 OF THOSE INCHES WERE FROM MY HIPS..AMAZING  

  

WELL LIFE GOES ON AND WITH THAT SAY,MAKE THOSE CHOICES AND MOVE AND RESULTS WILL HAPPEN,JUST DO YOUR BEST EACH DAY!! 

  

TRISH(AKA WALKIN WOMEN)NEVER GIVE UP ON SOMETHING YOU THINK ABOUT EVERYDAY!! 

  

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It is nice to share with people that understand. I appreciate everyone who responded. It makes me feel like you all just understand--and thats nice. The news of the day is that I took a really big step in my weight-loss journey. It turns out that my trainer had the idea of calling a couple of the local papers and see if they would be interested in my journey. I admit that at first I didn't think it was such a good idea. I mean who wants to hear someone who is overweight talk about how they want to lose weight. After I did lose some weight I started thinking about being accountable and admitting were I am at. You want to talk about getting real - I couldn't believe that he actually got an interest from our local paper The Plymouth Observer. It must be because of all the weight loss shows on TV. 

  

The photographer and one of the writers came out. I was kind of nervous at first and then I just started talking about everything. I guess they are interested on following my weight loss journey. On one side it is such an opportunity to help myself and others reach there goals. On the other hand I had to reveal everything like my weight and what I used to eat. It was like one big therapy session I have no Idea how it will turn out. They stayed for an hour and I have no Idea what they are going to use and how they will tell my story. They took my picture with a 45lb weight in my hands to show how much I had lost so far. All I can say is it was crazy! 

  

You can sure say the cat its out of the bag. This just proves that there are emotional changes going on as well as physical. There is no way 12 weeks ago I would have told anyone what I weigh. Now everyone will know. There is no turning back I will reach my goals.-wood 

Hello Woodman!  Welcome to the board! :) 

  

Cindy!  It's been proven time and time again that more people succeed in weight loss and exercise when they buddy up.  Your offer to your co-worker may change both your lives! 

  

Ok, I indulged in the Halloween candy but trust me it could have been worse.  I'm glad it's over.  My toddler was adorable, she went as a fairy godmother!   Next year I'm letting her go to one of the local Halloween parties instead of door to door.  I'm having vision issues.  Over all it was a great night though! 

  

I hope everyone had a happy Halloween and I'll talk to you soon!  Hugs from Dee. 

  

Beverly  I am doing my best to follow your advice.  I did mess up with the candy but I'm working on things.  I  haven't thrown in the towel.  Thank you.  Dee. 

I don't even know how much I weigh.  The last time I was weighed (about 2 years ago) I weighed 419 pounds.  I know I've gained since then.  I weighed 10 & 11oz  at birth and it went straight up from there.     At 11 it was 168, at 15 it was 315,  and by 26 it was 375.  I had a gastric bypass 24 years ago, in 1981, long before it was popular.   It was also a much more serious surgery then.  A patient who had the surgery a few hours before mine died on the operating table.  The incision was 18 inches long.  I developed a abcess which drained for 3 months.  The hospital at that time was not prepared to care for large patients.  Nothing fit, of course, and some of the staff were downright rude to me.   I  was forced to waddle through the entire hospital following a nurse (one of the worst) into the basement to be weighed on their industrial scales.   Talk about embarrassing!  No coulseling was offered before or after the surgery.  I saw the surgeon only once in his office for a few minutes for an office visit before the surgery.   I lost 126 pounds in one year and slowly gained it back (plus more) over the next 5 years.  Now I have a GIANT hernia and the surgeon won't even consider surgery until I lose down to 350 pounds.  The hernia severly restricts my activity.  I can't stretch, bend over, lift over 25lb, etc.  About all I can do is walk, and not very well at that.   

  

I went through a very dificult time in 1995 (the OKC Bombing, the death of a cousin to bone cancer, the death of two pets I had had for 13 and 16 years, etc.)  I decided at this time to try diet pills.  This time I lost 145 pounds in 11 months.  The only problem is that I became annorexic (believe it or not!).  I actually got to the point that the smell or sight of any food was nearly intolerable.  I ended up in the emergency room and after some blood tests, I was told that if I didn't start eating I would be put in the hospital with feeding tubes.  SO, I forced myself to start eating; and I never stopped.  Also, when I was at my lowest weight since Junior High, I was accosted by a total stranger late one night in a Wal-Mart parking lot.  The things he said to me are unprintable and he looked just like someone you would not want to meet in a dark, empty parking lot.  I got away, but I was terrified.  I didn't realize how much until later.  I found that I was too scared to go anywhere by myself at night.  I'm still scared of the dark and I never was before that night.  I have wondered if this experience contributed  to regaining the weight.   Perhaps if I regained the weight I would not attract unwanted attention?    

  

So, I know what does NOT work; is there anything that does?   I have tried and failed so many times its hard to pull together enough courage to try again.  But, what is the alternative?  I have to try again.  And again.  Until I make it all the way.