Topic : 200 Pounds or More to Lose

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Oh I wish that you lived closer too, so that you could be a patient or at least your kids anyway! I would love to spend the day with all of you!

I can't really talk about the "sex thing" because I gave that up a few years ago since I'm not in a relationship.  But my question would be to you, is that not negative self-talk to call yourself disgusting.  That is just not a word that I would ever say to myself without stopping and giving me a talking to! 

Before I started on this program, I probably didn't spend alot of time in front of the mirror. Now I will look at myself and don't particularly like what I see but I see so much more than I did. I do see that my thighs have even more loose skin and things seem to be hanging more south than they were before.  But I see me, I see someone that because of good friends and lots of hard work is making a difference in her health. I also see a happier person.

When I go out in public, there is not a person there who is seeing my lose skin and I don't think that anyone looks at me or did look at me and think disgusting. I think people looked at me and thought I was overweight and they were and are right, I am.  I also think that I did and still do project a lot of thoughts on people that they are not thinking.........I did that with the swimming aerobics, remember! And not one person ran out of the pool screaming!

So I have to agree with your husband, not a word that I would use to describe you.  How can we help you not use that negative self talk?

I agree with you about the scales. It really is a motivator for me! So it just goes to show what works for one person may not work for someone else and that is what is so good about this program we have to tailor it to fit our needs.  I know I can't eat any flour and lose weight.......others can eat sugar and flour and lose!   We just have to keep working at it!

Stacie, hang in there I just know that you are going to do well. We all are pulling for you!  Did you see Megan's pic with the two cats! lol

Megan, please don't give my cat any ideas, her is already so spoiled and he would love a massage!

Brenda, did you survive the storms?

Rebecca, glad to see you, everyone at sometime writes a lot so feel free to let it all out! Changing thoughts and patterns are difficult. I have to work on stinkin thinking and hearing my mother's dos and don'ts constantly.

Dee, thanks for the words!  We just have to keep practicing and working toward having our healthy minds and bodies.

Jen, Just the title, "Christmas in July" made me think of sugar!  I was shocked today when I went to Hobby Lobby, the place is full of Christmas decorations. Every year it just seems that it gets put up sooner and sooner......oh my! I do sound like my mother!  I am glad you have found a walking group. I don't know much about Australia is the weather there as hot as it is here right now.

Jan, oh my! I'm so glad you kept going and got the car fixed. I know it was a real hardship for you guys but better than being in a car wreck. That bike will wait...you can't ride it if something bad happened.  I'm also glad that you are still getting some vacation! And glad that I could help out.  Do you get money every time I write a review...because I haven't written one in awhile... or just when I signed up?

Bev, my fellow used to be Oklahoman.......gosh it was good to see you! You picked the right month to have a birthday....lol!  Dr. Phil left us, kicked us to the curb but Jan and Autumn picked us up. Don't let this go to your head though.........we missed you more than we missed Dr. Phil! lol   Can't wait to hear about your month!

Okay does anyone have staciegator's email address that I could get. I'm afraid we have lost her! And some of the others. Cherie was going to look for everyone but I bet she hasn't had time. Bless her heart there is no way I could go with two hours sleep........just couldn't even function!

Everyone have a great day.  Wendie I hate going to picnics because of the chairs and I don't do well with people I don't know either but my friends would say that I work a crowd like no other. So maybe I don't see myself clearly! But I don't like it! lol

Forgive me..it was something that sort of got lost in the shuffle of us coming back here, i think...I keep forgetting to tell you congrats ob your promotion..hey a promotion is a promotion!  I know someday you WILL get a job you love:)

Rebecca...you post as long as you want...I do...you should cathc my novels in some of the archives sometime.  We need to get things off our chest sometimes

I'll catch up with the rest of you guys later...oh and Megan I LOVE that pic!! I think i may print it off and use it somehow in one of my brocures or something..LOL...if it is legal.

Stacie

Of course you're right about the negative self talk.  In the beginning of dr. phil I really worked on this.  I haven't touched it in quite a while.  Time to re-visit.  Also, I was thinking after I wrote to you that I don't have to take all those people to bed with me, so why should I care what they think?  That was a helpful thought.

I'm glad you feel about weighing the way I do, Cindy.  If it ain't hurtin', why fix it?

Dee, I think Beverley will go over the results on Monday to make a determination.  I don't see how anyone can touch Jan, though.  Wow!  What a job she did!

Love,  Millie