Topic : How Porn Has Hurt Our Relationship

   Hi Gypsy

All porn brings negative results to a marriage. Child porn, however, besides being illegal is just too much for the most of us to wrap our brains around. Please do whatever it takes to make sure your children are safe. Your husband has a problem and needs help.    jljs

It makes me feel sick that your husband actually has been looking at child porn.  You need to act NOW.  It is good that you have contacted an attorney while your husband is out of town and also good that he doesn't know you know.  Get that proof to the attorney and let him turn it over to the authorities.  Your husband is a criminal.  Don't spend one more night in your home with him.  Get the proof reported before he gets home.  Don't let him see your children or you at all.  Protect yourself and them.  By giving the evidence to the police you will also be protecting other children.  You and your kids are going to need counseling.  Hopefully he has never taken that next step and molested them, or anyone else, but even if he hasn't, they are going to need professional help in dealing with the fact their father has been looking at child porn. 

 

Steps:

 

1.  Get away and stay away from this man, however you have to do so.

2.  Give the proof of his criminal behavior to the authorities.

3.  Get counseling for yourself and your kids.

 

Take care and be safe and know we have you in our thoughts and will be hoping you take steps to protect yourself, your kids and everyone else your husband could come into contact with.  Stay in touch here on the boards when you can.  Roxy

would someone please give me the link to the COSA website. i would like to read up on it. My therapist has always told me that i am a typical co-dependent and i would like to try and break this cycle of dependency. I do have this to say since i have thrown out all the porn our sex life is beginning to go back to what it used to be it is more exciting and definately more fulfilling. I pray to God everyday for him to get the help he needs and i need as well. so thank you all for being there to vent to when i need it.

hi

its www.cosa-recovery.org       A really good book on co dep is Codependant No More by Melodie Beattie.  good reading to you and let us know how you are.   jljs

Its a new day, and I am wondering how you are doing today? I know you are hurt, very badly right now and I am sure a lot of different things are running through your mind a mile a minute, right? Just know we are here for you and will be here for you. Please use this space if you need to because even though our society tends to make light of this issue, it is a very dangerous problem for many and it needs to be addressed. When you have children, you need to protect them and defend their rights. I wish you luck and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 Hey everyone, I am doing good so far this AM except for the blasting hangover that i have.  Anyway, i have to apologize that being in a stuper i realized that I missed typed the age i did not mean to type 5 years old, i meant 15 years old.  Sorry i guess i missed number. 

Anyway, i sent him a very matter of fact, letter and the only option that he has is he is going into counseling.  We have only been chating via email, but he stated that he will be getting help for himself, just like i am in the process of seeking help for myself.  And to make sure he gets help, and not just bluffing, i am getting him the DR. Appointment.

What is the link to SAA?  I would like to look at it again.

Thank you for all your prayer and support.  I will keep coming back. I promise.

 I would like to say something to you about this on the other board...if you wouldn't mind.

first I know that a 15 year old can be developed a look like a young lady where a 5 year old isn't....BUT

 

they are both still children and they both still deserve protection. So what this man is doing is still wrong and still breaking the law.

 

 

I agree. The point is they lack the mental capacity to consent to sexual acts.  Both are perverted kinds of porn.