Topic : Ask The Opposite Sex

I agree! When I ask a question "does my butt look big" or "does this color wash me out" or something like that, I ask it because I want an HONEST answer. But there are ALOT of women out there that are fishing for compliments when they ask that question. It could very possibly be a LOADED QUESTION!! They are looking for validation, so it can get really confusing for both sexes. Is this a woman that is comfortable with herself that is asking this question? Or is this a woman that lacks self-esteem and is looking to have sunshine pumped up her ass? 

Sweetie, I think your social skills are just fine! You are just being who you are! I have been accused of being tactless before, when I was only stating the truth as I see it. It's not your job to anyalyze everything that comes outta your mouth because of how someone else MIGHT interpret it. You know what your intentions were and that's all that matters!

It is good to know there is a female out there that agrees with me and does not think I'm just a big meanie.

And I am happy to hear that my social skills are not as bad as I thought. 

My husband always tries to make my blunt comments into a joke...his answer is always,"F them if they can't take a joke."   I always insist that I was not saying anything to make a joke but, just trying to speak the truth.     My hubby says my total lack of tact is what he found so attractive about me...lol...and I always thought it was my winning smile..lol. 

But like you say, trying to anyalyze my every word is just a pain in my butt. As long as my hubby does not mind the blunt tongue then I will let the truth fly.

I answered a couple of questions and would like to pose one of my own.  I am not sure if it is okay to ask this here - it is a question of a sexual nature.  I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, so if something like that would make you uncomfortable, please skip this post!   I'm going to be moderately graphic, so be forewarned!

So anyway - my question for the men (or hubby's/bf's of the ladies here) - is the orgasm a man has equally intense regardless if it is achieved through masturbation or sex?  Is that actually less a factor than timing (by timing I mean how long it has been since the last orgasm)?  I have already asked these questions of my hubby and his response made sense to me and I have no reason to disbelieve him.  I only wonder if his response is the norm, so that is why I ask. 

For me, as a woman - the timing is part of it - the longer it is between orgasms, the more intense they are.  My most intense ones come through intercourse, rather than masturbation.  Not saying that is true of all women, just me.  Roxy

OK here it goes...Why does a man, not really understanding 'us' female's feelings on things?  I mean, here's some example:  anyone, can answer if they want...just was wondering...

1.) When in a committed relationship...why does a man not understand that having a 'possible' old g/f (they almost were going to get involved..) call him in a 'strange' way...I mean she likes to leave texts message or voice messages only it seems...what's up with that?  yes, she does know I exist..once, she left a text saying 'she couldn't sleep'...and then, she called and when he answered she hung up..then, he called her and she didn't answer...then, she called to leave a voice message...it was a 'song' playing..and later he ask her (after I left) what it met? she said it reminded her of him...and I him, to tell her just don't leave messege...IF she wants to talk to him, just TALK...he said she said...she didn't remember the name of the song...Does anyone have an opinion or feeling on why she's doing this?  and then, I told him I just wasn't comfortable with her doing that...but, I didn't say they had to end their friendship..What do you all think?

2.) Then there's this other woman...there was something she did VERY disrespectful to him and I...(long story) well, my b/f said he wasn't going to contact her anymore..(they were just friends too supposely)...so, I just felt I needed to comfront her....just ask her why she did that?  I don't think she really had an excuse...so, I don't know why still...but, I told her IF she's sorry etc. etc...that I see no reason why we can't be friends...she said, no that she decided she wanted to end the friendship..because, she's friends with HIS EX...so, I said ok...BUT, she is STILL calling him...I felt she lied to me...What would you all do about that?

3.) SISTER (1) - once we were in Vegas, and his sister knew...anyway, she called him up and ask if he would go with her to Texas...he said he couldn't because he's with me...she said 'ok be like that, and hung up'...and she never really said sorry...What do you all think about that?

4.) SISTER (2) - again I was with him, and another sister called...they talked a bit..and said he needed to go, because he and was going out...now, they did talk for about 1/2 hr...I encouraged him...but, when we had to go..she said 'so you'd rather go with me than call his mom'....and he said it was ONLY a joke....but, I'm just getting this feeling it isn't...What do ou all think?

5.) What would you do with a daughter that's 24, divorced now, (wasn't at the time of the disrespecting) with 1 child...that calls her father (my b/f) SEVERAL times in 1 day?  wanting this or that...EVERYTHING....she almost broke us up in the beginning...but, she convinced me she was sorry, etc. etc..well, things kept getting worse and worse...she would say FU to my b/f (her dad)...she said SHE should be MORE important than me?  a person he said he loved, and ask me to marry him????  she comes over invited, IF he doesn't answer his phone..she even bangs on the door...comes around to the bedroom window, and bangs there too...she EXPECTS him to ALWAYS help her out..whether be lend her one of his cars....and yet she trashes it...and when he says he needs to switch, and to have it cleaned by that evening..(which that was in the morning) and when we get there, she still hasn't cleaned it out..and we ended up standing in the freezing cold...Once, she wanted to wash her clothes at his place...at first I didn't understand, why she couldn't go to the laundrymat.....he was working at the time, and I was at his place..and I decided that it was ok, and drove all the over to her work..and handed her the keys to the house...and then, she decided NOPE she doesn't want to now...and didn't even care to tell us or say thanks...We went to the Pastor, and he basically said we need to do the 'tough love' thing..and so my b/f did...What would you all do IF you had an adult child that acts like that? 

6.) HIS EX - I've never met another person as wicked as she is...it felt like she intended to break us up with the start...she has made comments like: "our relationship is not appropriate because we're not married...They share a 11 yr old daughter, and when he has her...He'll sleep on the couch OR I sleep in my camper...that way it gives THEM alone time...and then his EX says, that he is focusing too much on me..and not God...when she comes up to talk to him during a concert for their daugher, she won't even look at me...says NOTHING....she said also, she will NOT communicate with me..because I"M NOT the spouse...Does anyone have any feelings on this...? 

THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING THIS

Dee

So, question for men, since it's asking a quesion/questions for the opposite sex..but, anyone can answer...here it goes:

Why is it when a man says 'he loves you' even proposes you...gives you a ring, etc. etc..and yet, he gives up on the relationship, because I can't bend to his conditions or whatever it's called...for example, as in my previous post...why would he give up on 'us' just because I need respect from his family?  Does that mean he loves them more?  I understand he needs to get along with his EX, I HONESTLY DO...but, why does that mean she also can disrespect me, us???  How does this all work..?  I understand that when one ex, is really difficult and for her a B....he even said so himself...that sometimes we have to put up with it...but, is that true?  IF he says he doesn't let her get away with saying things..well, what if she feels she doesn't have to stop...Hope someone can answer this for me..because, I'm having NO CLUE about this...thanks

Dee