Topic : Ask The Opposite Sex

If it ain't feeling right for ANY reason then it just ain't RIGHT!!!! Maybe it's a learning experience, maybe the time isn't right because their are so many things that need to be learned about ourselves? Who knows? I believe everything happens for a reason, whether you recognize that reason or not. Your emotions tell you what is right and what's not, no matter how hard you try to talk yourself out of it OR into it for that matter. Pay attention to your EMOTIONS!!!! When it's right, it feels good, when it's not, it feels bad, it's that simple. We are all meant to feel GOOD!! Learn from your negative!!! You are feeling negative for a reason!!!! Why are you feeling negative? Cuz something ain't right! Listen to your insides! Do what you are inspired to do to make yourself feel better! It's all about being happy! Don't you just wanna be happy?

I fully agree with you! I do want to be happy, & sometimes it's hard to be happy & people become bitter when people keep betraying them, using them, etc (just like it happened to me throughout my life when lots of people did that). I just feel that people like myself need to work on themselves to do whatever is necessary to have a happy life & meet the right people.

 Hey Penny. Just snooping around the boards before I have to get ready to go.  Still level headed I see.

and wanted to comment on this post...Penny, what I consider disrespect from ANYONE no matter  who they are...is someone saying to me..or a COUPLE...that OUR relationship IS disrespectful...(not appropriate because of being intiamate BEFORE marriage)...and also, when someone tells us, me, or him...that he's focusing on ME too much, and not GOD...and telling ME, that she won't correspond with ME, because I'm NOT the spouse...even though, I spent lots of time with THEIR daughter...and more things like this...  Dee

I just found it last night, and have read the whole thing.  Very entertaining, and then some good discussion too.  Do you even remember that you started this whole thing with a question about makeup?  My husband thinks any noticeable amount of lipstick or lip gloss is yucky.  When he watches chick shows with me they always have makeup commercials, and you know in lipstick commercials thay wear LOADS of very red, very shiny lipstick... it never fails to draw a negative comment from him.  I don't always wear makeup, but when I do I do include some on my lips, b/c I really like the way it looks.  But if I have it on and go to kiss him, he leans away because he doesn't want me to get it on his skin.  Sometimes I laugh and kiss him anyway, then if I got any on him I wipe it off.

My husband likes to play with my breasts.  It usually doesn't turn me on or turn me off, but I like him to enjoy himself, so it's good.  But once in a while, I don't know why, but the skin of my nipples is extra extra sensitive that day, then when he does it is such an intense sensation that it is unpleasant.  When I was younger, I was too self conscious to put this into words, so I'd say something like "I'm ready."  I meant that as a hint for him to move to another area of my body, and if he didn't take the hint and move, then I would feel annoyed.  Annoyance is something you guys REALLY don't want your woman to experience for long in the middle of sex, b/c it drains the arousal right out of us.  My advice would be ANY time your partner even seems to be hinting that you shift your weight or move to a different area, cheerfully make the switch and don't even worry about it.  Believe me, if the switch isn't what she wants she'll probably exclaim "Wait! come back!" and then you will know she was into what you were doing and you can go back.  On the other hand, she might have a reason she doesn't feel like announcing, for reasons of not spoiling the mood.  If you take the hint and move, then you are being a great lover and she will appreciate it.  You can ask her later or the next day whether it's always she doesn't prefer that, or just that time or what.  That way she will know you care to understand her better and we gals just LOVE that.

 Haven't seen anyone on this board for a while.  Took a break from the Dr. Phil, but I have a question.  Ok, but maybe it's not exactly ask the opposite sex..but, a question anyway.  How long do you think one should or could be upset/hurt, (without talking things out) when that other person, really hurt you?  I don't men those little things, but something bigger...You always hear that statement 'never go to bed mad'...but, recently I read where that's just a 'myth'...that, sometimes it's unavoidable.. because, I tend to (when I get really hurt or upset) I go into my shell.  I might show him how upset/hurt I am..then, I go into the room..and even want to lock the door, to be alone..and sometimes, it's the whole evening?  Is this right?  I just close up, when certain things come up and I'm SO hurt..any ideas?  thanks  dee

    Well, I believe that if the men you talked to were in the advertising or make up business they would say they liked women who wore a lot of make up. 

   For me, maybe a little if it makes them feel good.

    When someone ticks me off about something I forgive them right away.  By doing this they loose their handle on me and I can go on my way.

 Gee, no one has been here in a long, long time..and I think this is one of the best boards...so, we can learn more about the 'thinkings' of the opposite sex...Anyway, about this 'forgiveness' thing..I think what you said, drill is perfect..but, I can't seem to do that..wish I could..I even read books on this subject, and it's help..but, still helps..because, then that 'hurt' comes back all over again????

Time I think is the best thing...but, you know, it doesn't always work that way..I mean, some ppl are very important or just are going to BE IN YOUR LIFE NO MATTER WHAT..then what???  What I do, and IF they're important I try my hardest to talk to them..I'm not perfect, but I feel I've always tried my hardest to hear them out..with an open mind too..admitting my faults..but, as I mentioned, WHAT IF that hurt is JUST TOO BIG?? and you don't really feel that person is really sorry??  deep down into my soul, I just don't feel they're sorry..then what?

But, you do have a point there in what you say too...but, in this book I've been reading they say "there's some things, one just can't forgive"....and forgiving is just up to that person..it's FOR THEM...not necessarily for the other person...and yet still, there's some ppl I still can't forgive???  and I know that's not good for me..

Would be nice if both men and women, could come back here.. 

Dee