Thanks for coming up with this board Skwirl! Now, we just need to have more 'men' come join us...Ti I do find what you say, interesting...Your question #1 - Finding someone, by interviewing does seem unusual to me..but, you know what? Sometimes, different is good...So, don't worry about it, if what you're wanting to do turns anyone off...I mean, it's your life, and sure there's going to be some that would find something wrong with doing it that way...but, to me, there's all kinds of different ways of meeting ppl...and if this is how you want to do it, it's your right...I have to admit, af first hearing about your idea, made me wonder...but, then I thought some more, and think now perhaps it could be a 'logical' way of meeting someone...I mean, one can go to bars, clubs, etc..but, I myself can't see how one can think they can 'find someone' that way...Just my opinion...So, then how else does one do it then? Well, for me and maybe this is just from a woman's perspective, but I find that one shouldn't HAVE TO try that hard...Maybe, it's that old traditional thing, that men are the ones that have to go out looking and asking a woman out...When, we as women, just wait till it happens...I don't know...but, for me I never went out looking...is that because I'm a woman? Like for instance, what do I do on New Years Eve? sit home? yeah, maybe...if I want to...do I go out, just for the looking? no....I just go and do the things I love doing...meet ppl, talk to ppl...not with the intention in finding someone...if it happens, it happens...I just like to meet enjoyable ppl, ones I can truly feel comfortable with and enjoys what I have to say, just as much as what they have to say...ppl are going to think what they think Ti, about your approach...don't worry about what others think...I think you just are tired of not meeting the 'right one' for you....you won't/can't seattle, and that's good...I myself, don't like men that wears a business suit either...(but, too if that's their job...and I like the person inside that suit, then clothes don't matter) but, as far as taste...I'm with you Skwirl, I really like a guy with jeans and t-shirt, and comes home from work alittle dirty...it's sexy to me lol...and I like those ones, that have a day old beard...I don't know why you feel you attract the wrong type of women...because, I don't know you either...but, it doesn't matter really...it's who YOU are attracted to, that counts...for instance, IF I were to attract the wrong type of men...I would just say to myself "well that certainly isn't my type'...call it a day...and as far as the moon-eyed stares from gay men, well I don't know where you hang out...but, I think not to take that seriously, I mean I'm sure gay men are just looking themselves...for the one...and I'm sure you get stares from 'straight women', perhaps you just don't it? OR aren't the ones you want to look your way...I always say, just be yourself...don't try to win ppl over by what all you have, but the person you are...because, if you do that...the right one is certainly going to come your way...I think sometimes too, location could play a part in it...just my idea...Like, if one hangs out in certain places OR does certain things for their entertainment, then that's the ppl they will surround themselves with...I'm a nature person myself, and I love the mountains...I go to a place called Wrightwood, and I just love the lay back feeling it gives me...You don't feel that L.A. feeling and the rush, rush of life..the town is small, and the ppl are friendly...but, they aren't there necessarily, to pick you up...I mean, you can go to one of those outdoor things, and have a beer or wine, and just sit and enjoy nature...ppl just relax and talk...So, for me, these are the places I like...no one is getting loud and drunk...just casual talk, and no worries about someone trying to 'hit on you'...I don't think you send any visual clue ti, so don't worry about it...just be yourself...let us know how that 'interviewing things goes'....I know for me I'm curious now, I'd kinda like to participant in doing that..sounds interesting.... Dee
