Topic : 01/03 Meet Your Match

Dr. Phil -- come on now.  You managed to find a date for a thin, blonde, twenty something white girl.  OOOooohhhh.   A real challenge.

Why not find a date for a chunky girl?  Or a middle aged lady?  Or a handicapped person?   That would be worth making a show about.  Cutie Patootie blonde girl has three guys who want to date her.  Film at eleven.  I'm sorry, but that is a snoozer.

You are always telling us to get real.  Why don't YOU get real.  Girls like this have NOOOOOOOO trouble finding a date - in real life or in cyberspace.  Why don't you help someone who needs help???

I'm a forty something chunky redhead .  Find me a date.  I dare you. 

Yes, all online dating services have done is prove what we already knew:  Older women or women without good figures are invisible to men.   You know, I played the field when I was young and am also a bit shallow.  I, too, like exciting, attractive men, and that didn't change for me when I got older.  I'm not attracted to bald or boring.  I stayed looking really good and young until I was 40 and still saw some action, but what I noticed is that once you're over 30, really, action is ALL you're going to get.  You are written off as a potential mate - no matter how old or young the guy is.  It really is true that they are all looking for stacked and/or blonde women in their twenties, until they go to their graves.  They may compromise if they can't get them, but who wants to be someone's consolation prize?  Lucky for me, I wasn't anyone who really wanted to marry, so I haven't let this phenomenon ruin my life - but now that I'm too old and dumpy to attract anyone I'D be attracted to, that part of my life is over. 

A few years ago I got looking really good again.  I was nearly 50 but most people thought I was mid-30's (still too old for most men).  I looked up an old flame and I was still attracted to him.  We had a little fling and then it fizzled.  Why?  Because he was still reasonably attractive and was a professor at a university surrounded by 20-somethings all year round, some of whom he was able to snag.  You just can't keep a man's focus unless you're the prettiest filly on the lot.  Me, if I ever loved them, I still do, even if they have aged.  I still think of them how they were.  That doesn't seem to be the case with men though.  I have become so cynical that I just laugh out loud when I hear a man saying they're looking for a soulmate or "the girl next door" or some such nonsense.  What they mean is they're looking for a 23-year-old with a wicked body who is willing to have sex with them and won't kick them out for not picking up their own socks.  And while we're on the subject, men complain about women who are out for money (I hate these women as well), but I have never seen any evidence that this really bothers them at all, considering that they keep strip bars and prostitutes in business and often like to be the sole breadwinner so they have the power. 

Well, as I said, I'm cynical to the point where I laugh at the notion that a man is even sincere.  I've had them stare in my eyes and convince me they loved me only to turn around and sleep with my best friend.  So at this point, they're right, I got baggage - and they're it!  While I may be cynical, I am not unhappy about being alone.  I was never willing to be mild enough to be someone's wife, and I don't think I could ever believe one truly loved me as much as I loved them.  I've just seen reality too many times. 

I agree with you!  Let's challenge Dr. Phil to see how good his matchmaking is with women who aren't "barbies." 

I'm a just barely 40 something chunky blonde....Find me a date & treat me to an all expensive paid date like you did the others...

LOL!  It's not going to happen...as much as I love Dr. Phil, when he does shows like this he always has a certain image type (his son married a Playboy Model for goodness sake) and people like you and I don't stand a chance of being on Dr. Phil, and in reality we don't stand a chance on the internet dating sites. 

Like I said in an earlier thread, maybe I should create a false profile & lie, I'm sure I'd get some responses if I did....but no I play it straight, I'm honest, and well its gotten me zippo when it comes to men.