Topic : 01/08 The Dr. Phil House: Teen Intervention

I just finished watching the show, and wow, all I hear is how bad the mother is.  Doesn't anybody realize that the aunt is just as equally abusive in her own way?  The teen's aunt does not  appear to be the loving and supportive person she would like  to portray.  The resentment and anger the aunt has  perpetuates the "drama" she dislikes so much.  The mother and the daughter have serious issues together and seperately, the aunt is toxic to their healing.  The aunt if allowed to continue her own abuse will definitely put a road block in a very important positive path that needs to be taken.   

   Enza is something, and it is not good! I cannot agree more with the idea that Kim needs to grow up and be more of parent and role model for this very confused and messed up daughter (child really) Mom, I have no doubt, has probably had a big part in messing things up in Alex's upbringing. She needs to really look at her own behavior and do something about herself.

   Having said that I have to tell you that Enza is absolutely appalling to me. I bet if we were a fly on the wall at Enza's house and her world we would see some really messed up s&*(. She appears to me to be the one who is probably the partier and the one who is making plenty of problems in her own life. The main difference is that she is much more cunniing and destructive towards others than some people who are just messed up and clueless. Enza I think is messed up, knows that she is, and will do whatever it takes to deflect from herself. I think that she has absolutely no place in this situation because she has plenty of work to do on her own problems.

  Dr. Phil, if you want to help Alex and Kim then you have to get Enza out of there. Nothing good will come from Enza. Is her name calling and judgemental behavior resolving anything?

Enza in a bit over the top.  I can become very opinionated about things myself, but I have learned that you have to present yourself in an intelligent and rational manor when you are expressing how you feel about an issue.  Otherwise people will dismiss you as a ranting crazy person as it seems many have with Enza, and you will not be able to get your point across.  My advise to Enza as person who gets very passionate about things is to tone it down a little so that people can focus on what you are saying instead of how you are saying it.

As for Alex I truly hope that she is able to get the help she needs and turn her life around.  She is so young it is just painful to think about the things she has gotten involved in.  I would die of shame if I ever thought about stealing from my Grandmother.   It seems that she has hit rock bottom, so fortunately I think the only place for her to go is up.  I wish her all the luck in the world, I hope she can learn to love and respect herself.

DR PHIL,

Granted ALL moms make some sort of mistakes( I know I have had my share even though my daughter is only 11), yes the mom needs counseling of her own for her own problems. But bringing the so called 'Auntie Enza' in, can I ask you this Dr Phil? WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?????? The Aunt is so far out of wack its isnt even funny, she 'thinks'  that she is there to help the 14 year old and in her bedroom while she was unpackingshe was saying'Im going to be kicking some butt'. Kick WHOS butt? If she really wants to help she wouldnt be worrying SO much about what the sister did wrong and try to HELP the 14 year old with her problems for the intervention. She has got NO BUSINESS even being there in the first place and all she wanted was to get her 'smirky' smile on TV. She really should keep her nose out of it, and IF she has kids, she should be at her OWN HOME tending to them. I think Enza has got it in her mind that she 'can do NO wrong'. Lets flip the tables on her and find out how bad she really is, I bet she wouldnt have that smirk on her face for long, and wont be doing the kicking butt. If I was you, Id be 'kicking her butt' right out the door and tell her to mind her OWN business. I for one dont believe this aunt and her accusations after I saw the previews for next weeks show, from what I can tell she is a backstabber, and the 'Aunt Enza' ISNT any better then someone walking down the street(In other words, no better then anyone else on this planet)

The mother is trying to do right (or at least try with Dr Phil's help). She came to you in time of help and had no where to turn(from what I understand exhausted all resouces to her). I give her credit for that. There isnt anything wrong with a person having a occational drink on weekends, or going out with friends. Im sure there are people out there who work very hard for a living and go out for a occational drink(I VERY RARELY drink, maybe 1 wine cooler every 6 months and I stay home to drink it, it also can clean out your kidneys if done moderately(a Dr told me this), excessive drinking like my father did 24/7 THAT IS A ALCOHOLIC!), THAT DONT MEAN IM A ALCOHOLIC. The sister HAD NO RIGHT to point fingers, and to her it was a 'slamming session' for her and will be 24/7 in the Dr Phil houseas long as the aunt stays there.

Then at the previews (from what I saw)for next Mondays show you catch her 'brainwashing' the 14 year old! IF that is the case the so called aunt should leave immediately, and let this mother and daughter work it out WITHOUT her there. She bad mouths her own sister, and stoops to a childs level to make her OWN sister out to be the most terrible thing there is to walk the earth.

IMHO, Get the 'Auntie Enza' OUT OF THE HOUSE SO THEY CAN BEGIN THEIR HEALING AND WORK ON THIER MOTHER/DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP!!

I am not trying to be mean but....What? I seriously doubt that Enza is on Dr Phil because she cares. I think that anyone who acts that way that she did is very self righteous, is arrogant and loves the spot light. Her ranting and waving her arms shows that she is totally into it and is getting a "charge" out of being there. She is waving her arms and using facial expressions with every word just like a very dramatic acting scene. I hope she does care about what is the issue and Alex but I seriously doubt it!