Topic : 01/08 The Dr. Phil House: Teen Intervention

I don't get a chance to watch the Dr. Phil show, but I had the chance on Monday. How sad!!!! A young teen who is so lost in life she feels she needs to sell herself.

 

As I watched the more I felt sorry for this young lady. Where is her father? There doesn't seem to be any positive male influence in her life.

 

When I saw the conversation between the mother and the Aunt I was appalled. All those two ladies did was scream at each other and point out all the faults the other on had. The hate and anger that I saw in the Aunts eyes and face was very strong and not healthy for the whole situation. I believe that the Aunt wants what is best for her neice, but she needs to put aside her feelings that she has towards the young girls mother and focus on the problems her neice is having.

 

I am not saying that the mother is not a fault here. She herself has a lot of growing up to do. She needs to forget about the drinking and the guys and focus on her children ONLY! When you are a parent your children should come first......NOTHING ELSE!!! The mother seems to take some blame, but also pushes a lot of blame off onto other people. She needs to take her eyes off of her own feelings and put her eyes on her daughter.

Enza  the  aunt  does  not  need  to  get  into  this  FAMILY  matter.  YES,  the  mom  needs  help  with  her  wild,  disrespectful  teenage  daughter  but  they  both  need  positive  influences.  Enza  is  a  negative  influence  and  is  NOT  helping  the  case.  She  accused  the  mother  for  dollying  herself  up  for  the  interview  when  her  daughter  ran  away  but why  did  Enza  agree  to  be  in  the  show,  she  wants  her  15  minutes  of  fame  and  then  some  at  the  expense  of  the  mother  and  daughter  difficulties.

Enza  needs  to  go  home  and  take  care  of  her  own  kids  and  family  (does  she  even  have  any???)

And  since  when  do  smart  people "copy"  someone  elses  bad  habits???  If  your  parents  are  alcoholics,  premiscuous,  thieves, cheaters,  killers  etc.,  etc., . . .   why  would  you  want  to  be  like  them??? Smart  people  know  better  and  know  how  to  behave  at  all  times.  If  they CHOSE  to  be "bad"  ...ITS THEIR  choice,  not  "all  they  know"!!!

Its  time  people  of  all ages  learn  how  to  take  responsibility  for  ALL  their  actions,  and  give  the  blame  game  a  rest!!!

 

Hopefully  Dr.  Phill  not  only  kicks  her  out  of  the  house  but  also  tells  her  all  her  faults.

 

Wish  someone  knew  what  kind  of  "angels"  her  own  kids  are  probably  NOT.  No  child  is  perfect,  neither  is  a  parent.  I  am  sure  her  kids  have  some  dark  secrets  they  keep  from  their  mom,  and  maybe  even  Enza  is  keeping  from  EVERYONE  since  she  gives  the  aura of  portraying  herself  as  a  perfect  parent  with  perfect  kids.

yup i could think of a new use for duct tape after hearing her mouth for 1 hr  lol

I agree, Aunt Enza is way out of line and I cannot understand how she thinks screaming and yelling will solve anything.  If she really cared about this misguided little girl she would have intervened in a positive way years ago.  Dr. Phil, you are amazing, I don't see how you keep your composure when dealing with this level of disfunction.  These situations do not happen overnight and are not solved in that time frame, either.  Good luck to all.

You are exactly right! I wouldnt waste my time with hereither. Seems she is to far stuck on herself and I say she needs to go also. But I also wish this family gets the help they need, and dont take any of it forgranted. We all make mistakes and Enza seems to think she is perfect!

I just dont know why Dr.Phil is putting up with her she needs her own intervention and I think she is doing no good there at the house running her mouth instead of being there for that little girl.

I agree. Everyone around Alex is wrapped up in their own drama, and have become blind to Alex's needs. She does need someone to model after so to speek. Someone that she can look up to and build a connection with, and I'm not sure any of the people involved can do that for her. Her mom and aunt fight constantly, always badmouthing eachother, and her father isn't in the picture, unless Dr. Phil changes that. That, I think, would be interesting.......

I think you took on alot and worried alot. When my mother did drugs I told her I loved her and I could not loan her money or a place to stay unless she wanted to get better, She would only much off me when she did drugs and I had to end it or she would keep coming to much, I didnt want her thinking I agreed to what she did and that it was ok so I ended all contact except talking. She knew were I lived though, It was hard I always worried and I had to give up my heart was hurting too much. You just cant help someone who wont help themselves, But I always said if you need a ride Im taking you to get help or something like that, I wanted my mother better. She got caught in a crack house and went to jail then rehab just a few moths ago. I can talk to her now and she actually talks back like a mother, but I just hope she can stay clean. I am an Aunt too, my husbands sister has kids that they pawn off all the time, they are getting fs and ds in school. I help them with homework because there parents wont, There daughter wanted to live with me and she did in the summer but now she is with her grandma because school is closer. My husbands sister cant take care of her five kids but is continously popping them out she lies to her husband about being on birthcontrol and gets pregnant, There house is dirty and they moved in other people with small kids that tell them to f-off and hit and kick them, I worry all the time but I have my own son and cant help people that want to much and not take care of there reponsibilitys. She calls me to come clean there house that they wont clean, I wont do it. Sometimes no is the best answer to make others get on there feet.