Topic : 06/11 Mega Moochers

I too have a brother that has been mooching off my parents for 33 years.  They have provided him a free house, where he lives by himself all this time.  now after he lost lots of money in a business they gave him money to start,  he claims he is sick and can't work anymore.  They support him financiall monthly also.  My parents have always gone along with this crap from him.  He's a mama's boy,  53 yrs. old,  never been married and no children.  My mother rules the roost in their household and my father just has to go along with her to keep peace.  He's a wimp really.   My parents do not help me,  never have,  I'd made them a ton a money in a business they invested in that I had and they still consider me the red headed step child.  I have major health problems,  cannot work and haven't for years,  thank god for savings which has almost run out and because I brought up my feelings about this problem,   now my mother won't speak to me,  and my dad goes along with it.  They are old school Italian,  could this be part of the problem?.  I cry everyday,  live alone,  went thru psychatric counseling to deal with this for 30 years and I still have major depression and am bi polar and on meds since 1980.    After all these years I finally got my mother into a couselor of her choice for her and I,  all she did was lie to the counselor,  the counselor told her she had to treat her children fairly and she wanted her to put the same amount of money in my checking account each month to help me like they do my brother.  That was 8 months ago and I've never seen a dime.  she thinks I'm jealous of my brother but that really is not the case.  I'm just hurt. 

anyone have any suggestions for me to deal with the hurt?

That's pretty much our plan and we've already informed our kids (the two oldest anyway) of this.They know they can live at home for  a while after they graduate...as long as they pay rent and for their own personal stuff (a car etc.)

At this point my two oldest work odd jobs  to get money for extras and vacation money and my son has quite a work  ethic already

I really believe you have to start young...and I have to wonder about the people on this show

I'm from Texas, so i have a pretty good relationship with guns...all i'd need to do is build me an arsonal of shotguns and when my son tries to pull that crap on me- all trespassers will be shot!  Pretty good argument against gun control huh?  Ha ha ha.  All said in tongue in cheek.

My ex husband is this guy made over!  It's so strange to watch this guy make all these lame excuses when my ex did the exact same thing and was lying out his fanny too!  He used our kids as leverage to make his parents pay his bills.  We ended up foreclosed on in our first house even though I was putting entire paychecks to the bills and we should have had plenty of money to pay the bills.  I ended up living with my parents for eighteen months while this jerk "found himself".  He worked odd jobs so he wouldn't have to work a serious 9 to 5 job.  My car got repossessed and for a time we only had an old junker he found at a shady car lot to drive.  Long story short, after foreclosure, two evictions, three car repossessions and my ex actually losing our kids' Christmas presents in a storage building he stopped paying for, I left him.  Stupid me, I should have left a lot sooner.  He lived in his junker car for a while because his parents wouldn't have him; they knew better.

Right after I left him, things got so much better.  I lived with my parents again, but this time with a purpose.  I found Mr. Right and we are now going on four years of bliss.  Bills paid, our own home, MY OWN CAR and the kids are so happy!  My ex found another stupid girl to marry to work her butt off to support his lazy, lying self.  They have to park her car over at his parents' house; I suspect it's because he stopped paying the car payments.  But don't get the wrong idea; the ex now has to work a full-time job.  I have court-ordered child support, and you best believe he would be in prison if even one payment went amiss.  I think that court ordered child support is the best thing that ever happened to him; he now feel the torturous pain of actual responsibility!

If I was that mom, I'd have him kicked out and I'd have social services put those kids in her care until he straightened out.  Or just get rid of him because he's a menace.  But he has GOT to go.  He's a lying, low-life loser and she can't get rid of that turkey fast enough!  Don't cry for that bonehead; get him out right now before he ruins you!

I would just like to say , thank you ....thank you ... thank you!!!!  I applaud you for having the courage to take care of your mother. Alzheimer's is a devastating illness, that in my opinion is hardest on the family member's. I volunteer in a nursing home, and frequently see patient's family's leaving in tear's. It's really hard for some to have to introduce themselves to there parent's over and over. It sound's like to me that your brother's had an understandingly hard time, and wanted to remember their mother as perfect. And only from life experience can i say the following.... I think it is harder for men to watch there parent's deterierate. I think as women we assume the cargiver role with more ease. I know it's hard to not be angry & resentful, but try not to let the memory of your mother be contaminated with prickly feelings.

wishing you all the best from canada!!  

MOOCHERS mooch because they're ALLOWED to. They couldn't exist without us. If we start using our heads and close our wallets, they would either starve or work. So they'd work. I guarantee that!

What  a waste of a show. The moochers can't exist without their "victims." The "victims" get something out of what they do or they wouldn't continue to do it. Smarten up, People, and take the victim label off your foreheads!

I think your message is a little cinical!!! it absolutly mean's something to share DNA. My children are very closely attached to my heart string's & i would never want them to suffer. These problem's started long before these people were adult's. I don't agree with people mooching off family, but i do think they had a little help in learning how to manipulate. Have you ever heard that saying... " what we fear, we create" be careful. I trust that i am raising my family to be very self sufficient.

cheer's from canada