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Created on : Friday, January 05, 2007, 10:50:16 am
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(Original Air Date: 1/10/07) Dr. Phil takes on a different kind of moocher … the Mega Moocher! Not only do these extreme freeloaders refuse to work -- decades at a time -- but they expect you to support them and their entire family forever! Connie says her 33-year-old son, Richard, is so lazy and selfish that he actually found a way to put her out of her own home, so he could move his family of five in. Connie and her husband, Rick, say they have paid over $30,000 in the last 18 months to support Richard, and they have had enough. Is an eviction the only way to get him out? And can Connie live with the guilt, knowing it could leave her three grandchildren homeless as well? Then, Janelle wants her brother, Jeff, to stop mooching off their 91-year-old grandfather, who has been supporting him for 18 years. Jeff says he has no need to work because he doesn’t have kids. Will this be the day these guests put an end to their family members’ freeloading ways? Tell us what you think!

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March 18, 2007, 3:01 pm PDT

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I just wanted to tell you I am pleased that you seem to be doing less of the shows at "Dr Phil's House"  It is boring to listen to constant bickering between the participants.  The background music was fitting for the occasion, however, who needs more additional tension to an already tense event.?

Also I would like to say I love the show, and particularly those where the problems are common ones.

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March 18, 2007, 3:09 pm PDT

They're doing it because they CAN.

If someone is a moocher and someone else allows them to get by with it, then of course they're going to take advantage of it. It's one thing to help someone, but it's a whole different story to just rely on another person for all of your needs. Either kick them to the curb or let them take advantage of you and stop complaining about it.
 
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March 18, 2007, 8:12 pm PDT

Moocher relatives

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       I also have a 31 year old son that has mooched off his DAD AND i SENCE HE WAS 16, WE ARE BOTH TIRED OF HIM USING  US AND WE HAVE TOLD HIM AS MUCH, BUT HE KEEPS ASKING FOR MORE AND WE ARE LIKE THE ONE WE DON'T WANT TO SEE OUR GRANDDAUGHTER LIVE IN THE STREETS. HOW DOES ONE STOP? BY THE WAY I LOVE YOUR SHOW AND I WATCH IT AS MUCH AS I CAN BUT MY DISABLE HUSBAND AND I TAKE CARE OF MY 90 YEAR OLD FATHER THAT HAD A STROKE IN 2003. HE CAN'T TALK OR WALK. SO I DO EVERYTHING CAUSE MY HUSBAND ALSO HAD A BRAIN TUMOR REMOVED IN 1982  AND IT AFFECT HIS WALKING ALSO. SO MUCH FOR THAT. I WOULD LIKE TO STOP WITH OUR SON. PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. THANK YOU LOVE TO  YOU AND ALSO ROBIN I LOVE HER TO PIECES. I HAVE HER BOOK WONDERFUL SO FOR.

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I would have booted all the freeloaders out of my house a long time ago. Helping a person is one thing, but supporting them after a yr or so out of high school is another. As far as the people who don't want to see their grandkids in the street, TAKE CUSTODY of the kids and let the bums get a job. You would have a good case since they are NOT trying to support themselves, let lone a child they brought into this world just so they would have an excuse to freeload more. You are enabling them by giving in. Kick them out NOW or quit bleating about it. You all ask for advice and when it is given, you ignore it. It will NEVER stop unless YOU stop it.  It makes me angry to even reply to stupid stuff like this. You KNOW what you must do. Quit being spineless and do it.
 
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March 18, 2007, 8:15 pm PDT

Kick them out....yeah

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If someone is a moocher and someone else allows them to get by with it, then of course they're going to take advantage of it. It's one thing to help someone, but it's a whole different story to just rely on another person for all of your needs. Either kick them to the curb or let them take advantage of you and stop complaining about it.
Finally, a person with some sense. Doesn't it make you nauseaus to hear about someone mooching till they are over 30 yrs. old and the stupid parents letting them get away with it and complaining all the while. MY sentiments exactly....Throw them out or shut up.   AMEN
 
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March 19, 2007, 6:26 am PDT

Mega Moochers

These situations are not easy to cope with. I've learned from personal experience that in order to get my power back I need to take the time to discover what role I play in the situation.  I need to be  willing to take the bull by the horns and  correct my behavior. Take responsibility for the enabling on my part and stop being a victim.  Stop blaming. Get counseling if you're not able to do this alone, it's not about the other person. I know this can be difficult to swallow.

 

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March 19, 2007, 11:50 am PDT

This is very common

 I am a supervisor at a very large package shipping company. I am in the HR dept. Our benifits for all (F/T&P/T) are the same. I was taking notice at the small amount that was taking part  in these. of the 64 employees that I interviewed 63 where living home avg age 28 yrs ( all males) avg income 33,000 per yr  Looks to me that they want all the toys without the payments of a home . Took this even futher at our local Church it looks about the same. Again all males in my time ,how would one be abel to date a woman and still living home. The woman that work at my company as well as my church are all out of the home with a degree and own a home , or at least a place of thier own. These are Moochers as well, in a different  way. I ask my self as I get into my car in the parking lot why  my car is the oldest and I make more $ then they do. Mom/Dad coming home.
 
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March 19, 2007, 1:38 pm PDT

MEGA MOOCHERS

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If someone is a moocher and someone else allows them to get by with it, then of course they're going to take advantage of it. It's one thing to help someone, but it's a whole different story to just rely on another person for all of your needs. Either kick them to the curb or let them take advantage of you and stop complaining about it.
I agree to some extent, except for one important thing here.  Quite often there may be different circumstances that will not allow a person to "kick them to the curb" in order to feel "Safe" in their own Home too.   I myself was in a previous Domestic Violence situation, I had no money, lost my job, I had major surgery for Breast Cancer and did not want to burden my parents at their age by coming to live with them.  Then, I got back on my feet and he quit his job and told me it was time for me to take care of him!  He would not leave and threatened to have me hurt if I "kicked him to the curb" (so you say).  In other words, sometimes it is not as easy as it sounds!  If you have to spend most of your day looking over your Shoulder and the only thing you have in your possession is a piece of paper (Restraining Order) to "keep you Safe" - A person may just stay with this Moocher until they can save up enough money to get the heck out!  You obviously have never walked in those Shoes?
 
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March 19, 2007, 9:15 pm PDT

I have never walked in your shoes.

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I agree to some extent, except for one important thing here.  Quite often there may be different circumstances that will not allow a person to "kick them to the curb" in order to feel "Safe" in their own Home too.   I myself was in a previous Domestic Violence situation, I had no money, lost my job, I had major surgery for Breast Cancer and did not want to burden my parents at their age by coming to live with them.  Then, I got back on my feet and he quit his job and told me it was time for me to take care of him!  He would not leave and threatened to have me hurt if I "kicked him to the curb" (so you say).  In other words, sometimes it is not as easy as it sounds!  If you have to spend most of your day looking over your Shoulder and the only thing you have in your possession is a piece of paper (Restraining Order) to "keep you Safe" - A person may just stay with this Moocher until they can save up enough money to get the heck out!  You obviously have never walked in those Shoes?
You're right, I've never been there and that makes it easier for me to be judgemental. You said "previous", I hope things have worked out well for you.
 
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March 20, 2007, 5:33 pm PDT

enough is enough...

   when will they sop mppching off family?? when family puts an end to it..that's when..

 
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March 21, 2007, 4:28 pm PDT

In-Law moocher

My husbands older brother was in financial trouble so I agreed that he could stay with us until he got on his feet. My husband Joe went to get him down in Arizona & bring him here. He had no car, no job, no savings, no clean clothes & 2 girls that lived with thier mother. Our son was 2 at the time he came & we lived in a duplex for 6 years. It took him 2 months to find a job 6 months to get a car & 1 year to get us evicted from our house for fighting witht the neighbor. I learned he was drinking & doing drugs while he was living in our garage. My husband kept reassuring me he was gonna get his stuff together & move out. He kept telling me that he can't just kick him out cause he's family. I told my husband I am not moving with you & him. I am going with my son to my parents house. So my husband told him to get out & go his own way that he wasn't going to lose his family for him. I didn't even want him to know where we lived. It was hard for my husband but his own mother agreed that me & his son are now his family & we come first. That his brother is a grown man (42 yrs.old) & he's made his own mistakes & for my husband to let him fix himself. It put such a strain on our marriage, emotionally & financially, but I'm so thankful that all of his family agreed with me that the brother was just bad news. Today his brother is still around but lives in his van wherever. We see him at my Mother-in-laws house from time to time & we wish him well & I know it hurts my husband but there's nothing more we can do for him. As for me & my husband & my son we are doing better everyday. It's been 4 years & we still feel a lil of the reprecussions of that mess. At the time he was living with us I was so ready to cal Dr. Phil
 
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