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(Original Air Date: 1/10/07) Dr. Phil takes on a different kind of moocher … the Mega Moocher! Not only do these extreme freeloaders refuse to work -- decades at a time -- but they expect you to support them and their entire family forever! Connie says her 33-year-old son, Richard, is so lazy and selfish that he actually found a way to put her out of her own home, so he could move his family of five in. Connie and her husband, Rick, say they have paid over $30,000 in the last 18 months to support Richard, and they have had enough. Is an eviction the only way to get him out? And can Connie live with the guilt, knowing it could leave her three grandchildren homeless as well? Then, Janelle wants her brother, Jeff, to stop mooching off their 91-year-old grandfather, who has been supporting him for 18 years. Jeff says he has no need to work because he doesn’t have kids. Will this be the day these guests put an end to their family members’ freeloading ways? Tell us what you think!

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June 10, 2007, 1:09 am PDT

MY THINKING

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Boy do I know one of those.  I have a son in law who has been mooching off his mother all his life.  He works periodically, more for a hobby, than to support himself.  My daughter has been with him for almost 3 years and he has not worked a single day.  He talked his mother into paying for mechanic school, which took 1 1/2 years to complete. He has been out since August , graduating top of his class, and still does not have a job.  According to him, the only job he could find was changing oil at Jiffy lube.  Not only did she pay for school, but she bought him a house to live in, and pays all his bills, including buying him a new car, along with several expensive toys.  He will "buy" expensive gifts for my daughter and she will tell everyone they are from him, when we all know that he did not pay for them.  The worst part is that I have a granddaughter who is not his biologically, but she calls him daddy.  He hangs out at home all day while my daughter goes to work and takes care of her daughter and the house. 

It is hard to have any respect for a 37 year old man who has done this all his life.  It is even harder to watch my daughter live with this man, and make excuses for him.  He comes off as being very clean cut, and mild mannored, but I feel like he is a time bomb waiting to go off.

Not my life, right?

 

what I would do is kick the low down stinking bum out on his keaster, As can automachanic he could run his own shop and make $50 to$ 75 per hour.   these kind of people make me sick . I have a stepson who is a union carpenter making $35 per our and will not work.  He goes from church to church begging for money and he is so cleaver that he has profected his hard luck story.  They move from state to state when their welfare benifits run out and now he lives close to me and has lied to the government about a knee injury that supposed to have happened while he was in the ARMY that he got kicked, out after 1/2 of his enlistment. This injury  to his knee happened when he was 14 playing baseball!!   he got a misconduct discharge but because of his fake injury he is enjoying the benifit of  a honorable discarged Vet would recieve!! he was kick out because he would not go to his assignment duting active duty--Lazy-Lazy-Lazy!!!
 
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ptawillis

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June 10, 2007, 1:16 am PDT

I protected her!!

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Dear Dr. Phil,

 

I know without a doubt that YOU, Dr. Phil, will have these infadels running for cover!  I know that youknow the Holy Bible and are familiar with its contents.  Paul the Apostle made a statement that goes something like this:  "A man is worthy of his hire", "If a man is unwilling to work, then he should not be fed, but treated like an infadel (or a dog)"!

 

There is NO EXCUSE for people to act or treat their relatives in such a manner.  This type of behavior is what tears families apart and if it is serious enough, it may be a cause for someone to shed blood.  A FAMILY FUED!  When these types of situations arise SOMEONE needs to stand-up and do the right thing, which is to report this behavior to the local area Social Services Office, especially when there children in the mix!

 

As always, GOD Bless you and your family, AMERICA and those who CONTINUALLY and BRAVELY serve and protect HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 i am a Honorable discharged Viet-Nam ERA Vet who would die to protect my country and be a guardian of the law and LOVE GOD with all my heart. My father also a very decorated wwII vet and was my brother mike and a sister Phyllis who are also ARMY VETS. We did what we were called to do,  Protect my country do the death if needed so!!!! Lazy no good bums who mooch off of their parents makes me sick!!
 
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June 10, 2007, 6:14 am PDT

Been there, done that, burned all the T-shirts!

My husband and I moved into a very large 2 story home in 1999...he is the step-father to my 3 sons.  At the time, only my oldest son (21 at the time) and my youngest son (17 at the time and still in high school) were living with us.  The oldest was in electricians' school and working.  We had already given him several months of rent free living before we moved to this home.  Once we moved, we asked him to begin paying rent since he was working.  We only asked for $300/month which was a pittance considering he and his younger brother had the entire upstairs portion of the house (approx. 1800 square feet).  We didn't ask my youngest son to pay rent because he was in high school and wasn't working.  Then, #2 son asked if he could move in as well...btw...he asked this in front of his girlfriend and wanted her to move in also.  I admit that I WAS an enabler so I agreed against my husband's advice.  Guess what!  The girlfriend became pregnant!  Not just pregnant but PREGNANT with twins!!!!!  She wasn't working at the time and had no insurance or OB.  We were able to get her signed up with Medicaid and I took her to my OB.  Needless to say, she was considered "high risk" and saw the doc every 2 weeks...had an ultrasound every 2 weeks also.  I took her to every appt except one (had to be out of town that time).  My twin grandsons were born at 37 weeks gestation and did very well even though they spent 2 days in Neonatal ICU.  They came home, to our house, after 4 days.  All 3 boys, #2 son's wife and the twins continued to live with us.  I remember my mother saying that no house is big enough for more than 1 family and she was absolutely correct!!!  We were paying for the mortgage, the food, clothes for the babies, etc., etc.  Guess who got up with the twins during the night?  Not Mommy and Daddy!  Oh no, they were sleeping upstairs while my husband and I were downstairs with the babies who were sleeping in portable cribs.  I'm sure there are several parents reading this who remember the days of changing diapers and fixing bottles in the middle of the night while half asleep themselves.  This situation would most likely continue today except that my husband and I ran into some serious financial difficulties (gee...I wonder why!) and we lost our home to foreclosure.  By this time #2 son, his wife and the twins had moved to an apartment so it was just #1 and #3 sons living with us.  My husband and I found a small townhouse way across town and told the boys that they were on their own as to finding a new place to live.  I know this is very long but the net net of it is that I LEARNED MY LESSON!  We are now in another home very far away from #1 and #3 son (#2 son is in jail and will be for a long, long time).  The boys are welcome to VISIT anytime as long as it fits our schedule but they know that their days of living with us are OVER.  They are now almost 30 and almost 26 which is definitely old enough to make their own way.  They truly are doing so.  Fortunately, our ex-daughter-in-law and our 6 year old twin grandsons live in the area so we do get to see the little boys on a somewhat regular basis.  The point is...as a parent, you raise them the best you can and then you send them out into the world to make their own way.  I truly learned this the hard way.  Letting an adult "child" live with you and bleed your dry is NOT the way it was meant to be.
 
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June 10, 2007, 1:41 pm PDT

I'd like to add my 2 cents.

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I just wanted to tell you I am pleased that you seem to be doing less of the shows at "Dr Phil's House"  It is boring to listen to constant bickering between the participants.  The background music was fitting for the occasion, however, who needs more additional tension to an already tense event.?

Also I would like to say I love the show, and particularly those where the problems are common ones.

Anita Avery

alavery@cytechusa.com

I loved the DrPhil houses the 1st time around. I'm not interested in seeing them in reruns. Everyone probably doesn't feel this way. Oh well...
 
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June 10, 2007, 6:54 pm PDT

young ignorance

I have a 18yr old niece who is letting her "so called" friends mooch off of her and she doesn't have the money for it. This one male friend of her boyfriend has no job, got kicked out of the trailer that he was living in and is now staying in a camper or tent not sure which in a park. She takes him to lunch, lets him shower at my mothers (where she is staying), and watches his young child when he needs her to. It is so sickening. We've tried to tell her that he is just using her but she will not listen. What a friend, just a couple of months back her yelled at her called her some choice names and now everything is all ok. I guess she is just used to it, since that is all her mother has done to her.  She borrowed money all the time, even stole money and my niece gets mad for a couple of days but then is ok in the end.
 
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June 11, 2007, 5:49 am PDT

Just A Wee Bit Pompous

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Dear Dr. Phil,

 

I know without a doubt that YOU, Dr. Phil, will have these infadels running for cover!  I know that youknow the Holy Bible and are familiar with its contents.  Paul the Apostle made a statement that goes something like this:  "A man is worthy of his hire", "If a man is unwilling to work, then he should not be fed, but treated like an infadel (or a dog)"!

 

There is NO EXCUSE for people to act or treat their relatives in such a manner.  This type of behavior is what tears families apart and if it is serious enough, it may be a cause for someone to shed blood.  A FAMILY FUED!  When these types of situations arise SOMEONE needs to stand-up and do the right thing, which is to report this behavior to the local area Social Services Office, especially when there children in the mix!

 

As always, GOD Bless you and your family, AMERICA and those who CONTINUALLY and BRAVELY serve and protect HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can appreciate your feelings about so called "moochers", but I'd appreciate them more if you were more focused.  This issue can be readily dealt with without a bible thump or a wave of the flag.  Do you really think these things make your position more valid?  Oh, and for the recored, the word is "infidel".  It's interesting that you chose a word so commonly used by Moslems.  And, what is your problem with dogs?  Do you really think dogs should not be fed?

 

"Stand beside her, and guide her throught the night with a light from above."!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

And God bless president by God Bush!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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June 11, 2007, 9:10 am PDT

Mega Moochers

I can relate to the mega moocher complaint.  I January, my son and his girlfriend had the misfortune, of the house, they were renting burn down.  I, trying to be a good Mom, sympathetic and understanding, let them move in with me. 

 

It is now the middle of June and they are just now getting ready to move into an apartment.  However, during this time, they have not helped with one thing, except to buy their own groceries.  After watching today's show, I guess, I should be glad they did that.

 

But.....During the course of this time, my son quit his job and so far has not found another one.  In the beginning, after quitting, he did go out and look for work, but now he just stays home and does nothing.  When I ask him, how he thinks, he is going to pay for all his little luxuries, he says, "That's what I have you for."  Well.....needless to say, I blew my stack. 

 

I feel that I have done enough, with providing them with a place to tive for the last six months. I thought I was doing the right thing to help them out, but now I'm not so sure.

 

However, I did tell him, just this morning, that if things don't work out or something happens that should need a place to go, it will not be here.  They can do what other adults do, in tough times.  I am tired of being a Mommy.  I told him I was no longer his Mommy, I was his Mother and should be treated accordingly.  It is no longer my job to provide for him, he is an adult and it is time to fend for himself.

 

Am I wrong?

 

 
 
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June 11, 2007, 12:56 pm PDT

Mega Moocher

Our daughter is 25 & supports a 34 year old man. She works 2 jobs & is barely scraping by.

We are outraged!

We have watched her with this guy now for 5 years. We thought if we didn't interfere, she was a smart young wooman & would get rid of him, but the situation just gets worse every year.

They lived with us for 18 months when we owned a resort. He was supposed to do lawn & yard work, but usually only mowed the main yard - about 8 hours of work a week. The rest of the time he was on the couch watching satellite TV. She worked a full-time job & helped with the business. Most of the rest of us were working at least 60+ hours a week & could have used his help.

Last year he would do lawn work for neighbours, just enough usually to get a case of beer!

This year, he doesn't even do that. He even remarked to my daughter 1 day that she was lucky because she got to go out & go to work!

He always has some ache or pain, a headache, a backache, and just can't do anything. They don't go to visit friends anymore because even his friends give him a hard time about her working so hard, while he is a lump on the couch.

This man is also very controlling of our daughter, and tells he that she is fat & ugly & stupid & no other man would want her! This really outrages me, and I have wanted my husband to have some words with this man, as our daughter is very beautiful & very intelligent. She was always a leader & a self-starter & it is very hard to believe that she allows him to control her life.

I asked her why she puts up with all this & she just can't answer. I believe she doesn't know how to get out of this situation.

I hate to see her waste some of the best years of her life with this man.
 
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June 11, 2007, 1:22 pm PDT

Say what?

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Dear Dr. Phil,

 

I know without a doubt that YOU, Dr. Phil, will have these infadels running for cover!  I know that youknow the Holy Bible and are familiar with its contents.  Paul the Apostle made a statement that goes something like this:  "A man is worthy of his hire", "If a man is unwilling to work, then he should not be fed, but treated like an infadel (or a dog)"!

 

There is NO EXCUSE for people to act or treat their relatives in such a manner.  This type of behavior is what tears families apart and if it is serious enough, it may be a cause for someone to shed blood.  A FAMILY FUED!  When these types of situations arise SOMEONE needs to stand-up and do the right thing, which is to report this behavior to the local area Social Services Office, especially when there children in the mix!

 

As always, GOD Bless you and your family, AMERICA and those who CONTINUALLY and BRAVELY serve and protect HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm familiar with the passage that says a workman is worthy of his hire ( in other words, pay him his wages), but that bit about not feeding a person who doesn't work is a new one on me.

A search on Biblegate shows no such passage. In fact the only time Paul mentions feeding people is when he says, "Feed your enemy."

Be careful about mis-quoting the Bible. Some people already think that Christians are judgmental and harsh, don't make us sound worse than we are. Jesus was about love and forgiveness not starving them.

(I'm not talking about today's show. Parents do need to teach their children responsibility.)
 
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June 11, 2007, 1:22 pm PDT

tired of reruns...

cant stand a rerun of any type and i watch dr. phil every day of my life.  how long does this last?
 
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