Quote From: godiva35My brother in law (26) is also a big moocher. He mooches not only off of my husband an I but his other sibling's. My mother in law is ill with emphasyma and can no longer work (not that she really ever did anyway) My husband and his sibling's have supported her for 15+ year's. She also collect's Social Security and a check from welfare along w/ food stamps. My BIL resides with my MIL. He will not work and sleeps most of his life away when he is not sleeping he is drugged up on my MIL sleeping pill's and beer. Yes, he is also an addict! MIL gives BIL every dime of her check for drug's and alcohol leaving her penniless for the month and unable to buy her medicine let alone any other neccesities (beer) they may need for the month. So, needless to say MIL feel's that we should pay for her meds. and all of their neccesities(beer). We already pay the house payment all of the bill's and maintain yard ect. My husband has started to drag my BIL to work with him so we can get something out of him. Husband is fortunate enough to have his own biz. so that is not an issue. If my husband didnt literally drag my BIL to work he wouldnt function at all. My husband says he has to completly retrain him on every job because he is so whacked out on narcotics he cant seem to remember how to do his job efficiently. He is more of a burden to say the least and does not deserve a job with my husband. I believe that my BIL should go get a 9-5 like a normal person and not just expect a job and a paycheck (which no doubt goes on more pills ect.) . I tell my husband he is not helping him but hindering him as does his mother whom refuses to boot the bil out of the house. She says if he goes, so does she. She has no where to go and not a dime to her name. Not to mention , she is also sick and on oxygen. I say (screaming) emotional blackmail, verbal manipulation? something is def. wrong with that picture. She know's we will not put her out on the street because of her med. issues. Don't think I dont want to though! She has recently informed us our children- her grandchildren are not welcome there. They help us maintain the yard, garden, and take care of our animal's (we own exotic bird's). If they didnt it would never get done although BIL is quite capable of cutting the grass or pulling weed's or just simply picking up his beer can's. Did I mention we own this house and the 8 acres it sits on and we also pay all of the bill's. I go to the house daily to take care of my bird's and my BIL comes around the corner and asked what I was doing to his bird's!!!!! on many occasion he has asked my children what they are doing on his property.... Talk about a sense of self- entitlement! I just want him to leave- move out, go to the ymca or something he is 26 year's old and he is totally useless. My children and I despise both their grandma and their uncle. They are good kid's and dont deserve to be treated the way they have treated them. It really makes me sick and is really becoming a burden in my marriage. My husband's sibling's have finally stopped supporting my MIL because they were sickened by the drug abuse, alcoholism, and self serving issues. The electric or water could be shut off and the bil would sleep while everyone is counting their pennies, and putting in extra hours to get her utilities turned back on. It's not right!!!! I could go on and on with more example's but Im afraid I may bore you all to death...any suggestions for a peaceful resolution would be wonderful!!!! Thanks, God Bless, GoDiVa35
Can't realtives be a wonderful addition ? Actually, yes they can but some are much easier to like than others.
Have you considered an eviction notice on your BIL ? Unfortunatly its her choice to support him, and you get stuck paying for the Meds that she needs, but she dosen't NEED beer, that's not a necessity, do either one of them smoke ? That in itself can be a fire hazard with her being on oxygen.
Is she capable of making decisions for herself ? Talk to her Doctor, see if maybe she needs someone to take over her finances for her.
Just throwing things out, I went through the same thing with my FIL, take my word for it though, sigh, as much as youmight want a peaceful resolution, chances are it won't happen she'll rant, rave and play the health card, and the "Why do you hate my baby boy ", and she will try to manipulate, and blackmail you into seeing things her way.
What happens to her son when she passes ? Will your husband and you be willing to let him stay in the house, and bleed you dry ?
I would suggest getting him out first, then work on the MIL.
I feel your pain.
(Original Air Date: 1/10/07) Dr. Phil takes on a different kind of moocher … the Mega Moocher! Not only do these extreme freeloaders refuse to work -- decades at a time -- but they expect you to support them and their entire family forever! Connie says her 33-year-old son, Richard, is so lazy and selfish that he actually found a way to put her out of her own home, so he could move his family of five in. Connie and her husband, Rick, say they have paid over $30,000 in the last 18 months to support Richard, and they have had enough. Is an eviction the only way to get him out? And can Connie live with the guilt, knowing it could leave her three grandchildren homeless as well? Then, Janelle wants her brother, Jeff, to stop mooching off their 91-year-old grandfather, who has been supporting him for 18 years. Jeff says he has no need to work because he doesn’t have kids. Will this be the day these guests put an end to their family members’ freeloading ways? Tell us what you think!
