Topic : 06/22 Settle This!

Contrary to the old, over-used, stereotypical feminist thought, we women are not always victims. These mothers are making choices for their young girls knowing full well what the message being given off is. Are the boys correct in their assessments? Probably not. But should it be expected since they are immature, silly human beings not fully grown? Of course.

In reality, often the way a woman dresses does INDICATE her sexual proclivities/preferences. Go to any bar on a weekend evening and it's quite obvious who is looking to go home with someone. Everything we say (blatant) and not say (our clothing, our movements, our eye contact, etc) sends a message.

We women want respect, but then don't have a clue as to how to go about getting it (in many instances). These young girls are probably unknowingly sending a message that is FALSE about them. But their mother knows exactly what message is being sent.! She apparently finds that acceptable. The father has a RIGHT to disagree since they are his girls, too.

Contrary to your opinion, we women ARE NOT dumb and we DO KNOW what we do (and the messages we send). We make the CHOICES,, so we must agree to accept the consequences of those choices.

I am SO TIRED of women being portrayed as victims; we should OWN our choices!

We seldom agree, but you are CORRECT on this one.

However, messages are sent by the way adults and children dress and we adults need to acknowledge that we DO send messages thru our speech, actions, clothing, activities, etc. Young boys (and girls) often lack common sense, they think fast (and not often enough), and they have learned (from terrible TV, videos, etc) that girls are sex machines who want sex with multiple partners. Young boys lack the maturity that adult males have (or should have) so their assessment of the skanky dressed girls may be wrong, but it seems right to them.

Children that young do not choose to look sexy or slutty, etc. It's the mothers (and sometimes fathers) who CHOOSE that message for their innocent girls. Then they don't like the response they sometimes get!

Clothing manufacturers for young girls/pre-teen girls offer little but grunge and skank. They want our girls to grow up fast so they will fall into the trap of wanting expensive clothing, wanting to keep up with the ever-changing style, etc. This means more $$$ to them, which is always the bottom line.

It's our job as parents to make sure our children follow the rules, have self-respect and show respect. Good kids can dress poorly and can be the nicest, best kids around (and bads can wear conservative, designer clothing), but we ALL need to ADMIT that what we wear sends messages and we shouldn't be surprised that people make judgements. We're all human, even the little boys with the loads of testosterone!

I have just become a stay-at-home mom after having our first baby.  My husband works, and now I agree that it's "my job" to do the cleaning around the house, since I stay home.  However, I do still believe that every person in our family, husband included has the responsibility to pick up after themselves.  Like I told my husband, I don't mind washing the clothes and the dishes, etc. But he still needs to pick up after himself and put his dirty clothes in the hamper and the dirty dishes in the sink.  No, he thinks I should pick up after him too, since "that's my job, now."  His lazy ways are driving me crazy!  And he did it before I stayed home too, but now he's just using this as an excuse, in my opinion.  Someone, Settle this for us!

In the BIG scheme of life (and marriages), the age-old toilet paper dilema shouldn't even be on the radar!  Sadly, stupid little things like toilet paper are allowed to end marriages. After 17 years of marriage, my husband has finally given up wrestling w/ me to put the toilet paper on MY way. So, what does he now do? He just NEVER EVER changes the roll! Got to admit...we both won that one!

When the little issues are allowed to dictate the happiness or unhappiness in a marriage, the marriage has HUGE problems. It's time couples stop talking toilet paper and start talking to eachother and with professionals (counselors, pastors, etc).