Quote From: christiemThis situation is such a good example as to how EXTREMELY important it is for us, as mothers, to continually tell our children how much they are loved and how important and special they are to us. I was adopted when I was 3 days old and even though I wasn't their blood, my parents didn't miss a day expressing how much they loved me. My mother, who passed away in '99, was my best friend. Her death has been the most horrendous thing that has ever happened to me and I miss her deeply. We talked about everything and she instilled good morals and values into me at a very early age. She explained to me that my body was MINE - and not something that you just give away to anybody. Sex was supposed to be special, and you shouldn't be having it until you are married....(a little old fashioned, yes, but it stuck with me). I'm not trying to say that I was a perfect child, by any means, in fact, I was far from it. I lost my virginity in high school after my boyfriend and I had dated for 6 months (on our 6 month anniversary to be exact) - BUT I intended on marrying him and having a little house and kids, you know...the whole nine yards. He was also a virgin...so it was extremely special to both of us. We dated all through high school UNTIL he wanted to see "what was else out there". I found out about it - COMPLETELY DEVASTATED -and I kicked him to the curb.
Meanwhile, all my girlfriends were horizontal with different guys at every possible opportunity.
After we broke up, I didn't really "sow my oats", but I did go through several 3 and 4 year relationships and a few others in between.
My first love always tried to stay in touch and then on Nov 6, 1998, he came to see me and we've been together ever since. We were married and now have two of the most beautiful and amazing children. We've been there, done that, and know what we want and don't.
I know I'm rambling and I'm sorry. My point is just this: I never felt like I needed to sleep around for acceptance. I felt important and simply didn't need to find love anywhere because I had it from the very beginning. I got it from my PARENTS!!
My girlfriends are all on their 2nd and 3rd marriages, with kids going through the divorces right along with them.
My husband and I didn't get married until our 30's, neither one had kids from a previous marriage, etc. I feel very fortunate. I don't feel like I'm better than anyone else, so please don't think that is what I am trying to say. We've got dysfunction, just like everyone else!! I simply wanted to give my personal story to show just how important constant love and attention is when given to a child. It's VITAL to them. So moms - go hug your babies and tell them just how important and special they are!! And do it EVERY SINGLE DAY!! Over and over and over!!! And don't forget to pray...we all need the prayers, and the practice!!
...with a mother like yours, loving and doing her best to guide me on a moral path. Where you followed her advice, I did the worst I could starting at 14. Promiscuity made me feel like a grown up and I ended up lost to my family for 6 years. I was hanging out in nude bars and with prostitutes and dealing drugs in DC at 2am on whatever street corner looked good. Mom never called the cops once to keep me from sneaking out, but she always knew when I was going to. She would say I was destroying my self, that what I was doing was filthy and an abomination to God. I believed her, but wasn't scared, after all I knew what I was doing, right? So, here I am now, blissful wife, mother of three, one grandson, back in college with an honors student on his way to UNC. I sometimes wonder what may have happened if mom had been tougher then, all I know is I'm happy now and have been for years all because my mom believed in the power of prayer. No matter what kind of mom Alex has, I know from experience that God can save anyone. If we have no guilt over what we do when we know it to be wrong, how can God find us to save us? Making Alex feel helpless and shifting blame to anyone but herself is wrong. This "if it feels good, do it" attitude society has now confuses me to no end. She needs to own what shes done and do a 180 and head in the other direction. Shes too young to understand what shes going to lose behaving this way.
The story continues of a 14-year-old girl whose family feared she could end up dead if Dr. Phil didn’t intervene. Alex had been running away, stealing and prostituting herself to men nearly twice her age. Dr. Phil moved Alex; her mother, Kim; her aunt, Enza; and her grandmother, Jeanette, into The Dr. Phil House for this teen intervention. Cameras capture Enza having an inappropriate conversation with Alex, and then starting a fight with Kim in front of the teen. Is the family dynamic the cause of Alex’s behavior? See what leaves Dr. Phil speechless. Next, Alex is sent to a health clinic to be thoroughly tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Dr. Phil and Alex have a one-on-one talk before her test results are revealed. Will Alex’s test results be her wake-up call? Then, Dr. Phil sits down with the two fighting women and shows a video clip that leaves Kim shocked and looking to her sister-in-law for an explanation. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
