Topic : 06/12 Marriage Deal-Breakers

A trial marriage? No way! He's already looking at failure as the outcome. Too negative!

And the other couple? If he's already thinking of getting out before the marriage, then she should cut her losses and dump him. That's too much pressure for a young marraige to survive.

The acid test for a good match is that things flow smoothly between the two people in love.

If there is one major psychological problem that needs to be answered, solved...then don't marry until the horizon is full of light and happiness.  Any and all of these major issues (doubt, anorexia) need to solved.  In the case of the "trial marriage" ultimatum, I would seek an anulmment immediately. 

The best way to survive a relationship crash is to end it. 

I do not believe that love cures all.

Nikki,

You answered your own question.  You said you don't want to stay in a 'trial' marriage -- what's up with that!  No such thing as a trial marriage, you either are or are not.  He's stringing you along.  Do not let Shane make the decision for you.  It's your decision to make.  Make it.  I'll be watching for your decision.  Best of luck. 

Okay, I'm looking forward to this show....my (now ex) husband left after our short 10 month marriage, and he had a girlfriend after 4 months of marriage.  Why bother getting married?  Why committ?  I just don't see why he would say in front of all of our family and friends that he loved me and would be with me forever and hen run off, as if he were single, only a few months later. 

And, yes, we HAD premarital counseling.  He's just a really good liar, I guess.

THIS episode will be a definite MUST SEE for me.  :)

trial marriage where the hell did he ever come up with that.. shane needs to be dumped now.. nikki don't go through a year of a trial marriage.. if he wasn't sure he didn't love you then he shouldn't of got married..  what an idiot.. get out of it now

 I think for young ones these days its all to easy......Marriage is all to easy to get into, and if u dont know the person from inside out, and really know them ...dont take that chance as soon as u get married and the rings on the fingers, people will change, there not about to, it doesnt get better, as it doesnt  having a baby to bring your marriage closer.... i think u both did the wrong thing, we all get caught up in the hype the pretty dress, the organizing a wedding, and its so expensive these days, u get an instant mortgage before u even buy a house.....

YOu both still have a lot of growing up to do, we may say its all the mans fault for stringing u along, but u kept hanging on lol,,,, be kind to each other, have the marriage annulled, or get a quick devorce, in another state, in austalia we have to wait 12 mths before we can devorce, u have it easy in the usa.....either devorce and stay friends or get mature , and say nice knowing u and move on, there can be no rules or trials, or use one another in marriage, its all about love, committment, supporting each other thru trials and tribulations and what u can bring to each other in  a unit between 2 people, not what u can take from it, its bookends lol, that work together, flexibility, and above all trust, communication and dignity......keep looking, keep growing and one day that great Love will hit u like a ton of bricks, then u will know what true LOVE really IS

God Bless

Shane sounds like a jerk from Hell!  Nikki doesn't need to wait 6 to 12 months for him to make up his mind, she needs to go ahead and put his ass out on the street now.  Nikki, you need to get this self-centered idiot out of your life!  RUN FOR YOUR LIFE GIRL!  Don't wait until he has ruined your self-esteem and you end up on antidepressants and a Psychologist's couch.  Mental abuse, which I have been through, is one of the worst things that a man can do to a woman.

NCHorseLady

I'm not sure anything about love is simple!