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Young moms have a million questions about their little ones, from, “How do I stop the temper tantrums?” to “What do I do if my child just won’t eat?” Dr. Phil enlists the help of a family of experts in the field of pediatrics: Dr. William Sears and sons, Dr. James Sears, and Dr. Robert Sears. Collectively they’ve written 50 books that cover anything and everything a mom or dad could ever want to know. Together they field questions from young mothers. First, Angela says her 3-year-old daughter, Ellie, has been a screamer since the day she was born. Could Ellie’s temperament be the result of Angela’s feelings toward her at birth? Then, Robert and Wendy argue over what to do with their baby’s night crying. Robert claims Wendy runs to their 4 ½-month-old son, Ethan, at every whimper, sigh and cry. Wendy says Robert just doesn’t get it -- and why would he? She says he just sleeps right through it. Plus, Lisa says she’s terrified of germs and takes every precaution to keep her kids from getting sick. Her husband, Michael, says “Enough already!” Who’s right? Learn the answers to these and other parenting dilemmas and share your own concerns here.

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January 25, 2007, 11:13 am CST

01/19 Young Moms Ask the Experts

Quote From: mustbecrazy

Although I am lactose intolerant, I can eat certain cheeses and yogurt, and I do eat them on a regular basis.  My soy milk is calcium-fortified, plus I take a calcium supplement that has magnesium and viatmin D.  I love my veggies and fruits.  Calcium has been discovered to help prevent a lot of things...not just in milk, but in a variety of foods.  I am allergic to nuts, so cheeses and meats are my main source of protein.  Healthy eating begins as a child...moms be a good example to your babies, and eat healthy.  Encourage healthy eating for your child as he/she grows through the various stages of feeding.

 

In spite of all this, I still ended up with breast cancer and pre-cancerous colon polyps.  The point of this statement is to emphasize the importance of breast self-exams, pap smears, stool occult tests, mammograms, and the like...ladies, don't neglect your own health while caring for your young children...eat healthy, and visit your doctor regularly.  Although diet definitely affects all aspects of your health, genetics plays a big role too.  Again, be sure to take care of yourself...your child needs you to be healthy. 

 

Have you ever heard of quinoa?  It is a "grain" (really a seed) that cooks up with a consistency similar to cous cous or millet.  It is a completen protein source on its own!  That may be another protein option for you.  Of course, eggs are good sources as well, but they are a common allergen.
 
January 25, 2007, 11:14 am CST

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Quote From: faeryedark

Same here, esp. after having Tristan by emergency c-section. The nurses took him back to the nursery every so often ( I was in for 3 days)  so, I could rest..they had me so doped up..so it was a relief to know he was in good hands.

I was really worried about him stopping breathing too, so, I know all about not gettting a full hour's rest

I had two cesarians and both were great experiences.  Sure, there were little disagreements, but for the most part, it was great, my kids were healthy and taken care of.  I was actually lookin forward to my second cesarian, not only because I would see my daughter, but I was looking forward to the rest! LOL  My son was 2 1/2 at the time. LOL
 
January 25, 2007, 11:49 am CST

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Quote From: kobbers

My 3month and 3 day grandson died Dec. 19, 2006.  We buried him on Dec. 22, 2006.  For Christmas Eve we the whole family (33 of us) Went to Kody's gravsite just up the hill from our house and all lite candles and everyone said something that they would remember about Kody.  We could see the lite of the candels from our house.  This is how we spent our christmas this year.   My questions is why in this day and age that they can't find and answer for SIDS.  I hope Dr. Phil will have a show about Sids and How it effects the family.   Kody soar with the angels.   My angel baby Kody Lane CObb

Okay, one more, I promise.  I'm still trying to find the post with the research, I forgot about it and I really want to read the information given....I LOVE to learn anything!

 

I wanted to reply to this and say how sorry I am to hear about your grandson.  My best friend lost her son in 1991 at the same age.  He was NOT in a bed, he was in the babysitters arms (according to her, a preacher's wife).  She was rocking him and noticed his skin color, took him down off her shoulder and he wasn't breathing.  She was CPR trained but it didn't work, the ambulance arrived soon and tried some more but he was gone.  It's so sad, I know.

 

I wanted to reply to this:

 

<<<My questions is why in this day and age that they can't find and answer for SIDS.>>> 

 

I often help my friends daughter very often with her college research work.  She was studying to get her masters in Child Psychology or something like that, I can't remember - she's since changed.  Anyway, my first thought after reading your post was "because they are too busy researching viagra - that's why".  All sarcasm aside though, look into what is being researched and what is getting funded and why.  They are researching SIDS but only to the extend that the funding allows.  Some scientist are researching breast implants and sex enhancers because those subjects were funded.  We do research on drugs used to cure or prevent a disease instead of researching the disease itself.  It's mostly all political.  It makes me sooooooo angry!!! 

 

Anyway, just wanted to share my thoughts.

 

 

 

 
January 25, 2007, 12:13 pm CST

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January 25, 2007, 1:12 pm CST

Not at all...

Quote From: eribeck

So because studies were done ten years ago  showing the benefits of breastmilk, those studies may not be correct now?  I haven't done the research here, but I am sure that all breastmilk studies haven't be halted for ten years.  i am sure it is continuing to be studied.  it seems to me that you are thinking that once more studies are done, using better technology or whatever, that breastmilk will be shown to be not as nutrition for infants as we think... and that formula studies are going to show it as being much closer nutritionally to breastmilk.  Correct me if I'm wrong, but this is what it seems that you're claiming in many of your posts.

One thing that can never be duplicated, though... breastmilk is a living food.  The living cells in it change daily according to the infant's needs, and the mother's body creates immunities to whatever she is exposed to (and the baby as well, if they are together most of the time), passing them through the milk to protect her baby.  The milk is essentially tailor-made for each baby.  That is factual information, and formula will never be shown to do the same.

Well, I would trust a study that came out six months ago that says that breastmilk is good for reason X and disproves Y over the study that came out ten years ago that says the breastmilk is good for reason Y.  I think that there's a lot we don't know about formula yet, but i don't think that it will ever be the SAME as breastmilk, that's all.

 

Yes, the immunoglobulins are designed to protect the child's underdeveloped immune system.  There's a lot we still don't know about breastmilk (although a plethora of things we do).  Findings are always changing, and what's good today, may not always be.  The babies in this generation of breastfeeding my have specific problems or benefits later on in life over ff babies.  That's all i'm saying.

 
January 25, 2007, 4:34 pm CST

Your baby's teeth

The issue of breast feeding versus formula will be a hot issue of debate for years to come.  Really, either method of feeding your baby is fine...there are benefits to both.

 

An issue that matters more is the care of your baby's teeth...I haven't seen this issue addressed on this particular board.

 

A baby's teeth start coming in somewhere between six and nine months..some earlier, some later.  Keep your baby's teeth clean.  When the baby has his/her first teeth, clean them after each feeding.  Use a damp, clean wash cloth, and gently wipe the teeth.  When the baby has more teeth, you can switch to a child's toothbrush...they make them special for babies and toddlers.  No toothpaste is necessary for young children.  Ask your doctor about fluoride drops too...your doctor will have a chart showing whether there is already fluoride in your tap water. 

 

Also, DO NOT put your baby to bed with a bottle of formula or juice.  If your baby needs a bottle to go to sleep, put warm water in it.  The natural sugars from formula or juice will damage your baby's teeth, causing rampant decay.  This is called "baby bottle mouth".

 

Continue to brush your child's teeth until they are 5 or 6 years old.  They can learn to brush their own teeth much younger than that, but they don't have the manual dexterity to properly clean their own teeth at a young age.  Let them brush first, then follow up by brushing their teeth.  As kids get older, you can ask the dentist for disclosing tablets to check up on how well they are brushing, but this is not for young children. 

 

I used to work in dentist and pediatric offices and have seen a lot of decayed teeth in children.  Little kids have to be put under general anesthetic (most of the time) to fill the cavities and remove badly infected teeth...not a pleasant experience for anybody.  (I'm not a dentist or anything, but it was part of my job to teach proper oral hygiene to parents of children of all ages, and to adults.)

 

GOOD ORAL HYGIENE WILL FOLLOW A CHILD FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE...HEALTHY HABITS NEED TO START EARLY.

 

Did you know that according to recent research, there is a direct correlation between gum disease and heart attacks?  Best to take care of your own teeth too...it's good for your overall health and sets a good example for your children.

 

I HOPE THIS IS HELPFUL TO YOUNG MOMS EVERYWHERE.

 
January 25, 2007, 5:01 pm CST

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Quote From: gwarrior6

Well, I would trust a study that came out six months ago that says that breastmilk is good for reason X and disproves Y over the study that came out ten years ago that says the breastmilk is good for reason Y.  I think that there's a lot we don't know about formula yet, but i don't think that it will ever be the SAME as breastmilk, that's all.

 

Yes, the immunoglobulins are designed to protect the child's underdeveloped immune system.  There's a lot we still don't know about breastmilk (although a plethora of things we do).  Findings are always changing, and what's good today, may not always be.  The babies in this generation of breastfeeding my have specific problems or benefits later on in life over ff babies.  That's all i'm saying.

Well, I would trust a study that came out six months ago that says that breastmilk is good for reason X and disproves Y over the study that came out ten years ago that says the breastmilk is good for reason Y. 

But this has not happened, has it?  Everything we learn about breastmilk just adds to our base knowledge... no studies have said "Breast milk may prevent baldness later in life," and then a later study says, "Whoops, it has nothing to do with baldness... but it can help prevent some cancers."

I think that many people discount its known allergy and cancer reducing properties because it doesn't work 100% of the time.  There are breastfed babies who still have allergies, get cancer later in life, and so on.  But there are so many factors involved... it's not only breastfeeding that prevents allergies.  There is also the genetic predisposition, and probably what you eat as a baby has something to do with it, and environmental factors could play a part as well.  The words "may prevent x" are not a guarantee... but I doubt that a study will be done tomorrow with findings that breastfeeding in no way reduces or prevents allergies.  You don't disprove the benefits of breastmilk with newer studies... if anything, you find new benefits and add to them.
 
January 25, 2007, 5:45 pm CST

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Quote From: mustbecrazy

"I sure won't do it again"...famous last words...LOL

 

My first two pregnancies were very difficult, with preterm labor and bedrest.  With the second child, it took four attempts to get the epidural inserted correctly...very painful with each try...between very painful contractions.  After the third try, I looked my husband straight in the eye and yelled, "Our next child is going to be a CAT!!"  Well, a few years later, along came baby number three, with another difficult pregnancy, preterm labor and bedrest.

 

We have three wonderful boys, ages 18, 13, and 8, and all the pain and sleepless nights were definitely worth it.  I wouldn't trade any of them for a good night's sleep or less worry and stress.

 

All of you first-time moms will survive just fine.  If you use common sense, you will not do any permanent damage to your child...LOL  Just relax and enjoy the stars and seeing the many sunrises you would have missed had the baby not kept you up all night.

LOL, no I'm am very serious about not having more. My husband is getting a vasectomy  some time this year.  And our birth control is like Fort Knox to the third power...LOL

NEVER DO THAT AGAIN! LOL
 
January 25, 2007, 6:06 pm CST

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Quote From: mustbecrazy

"I sure won't do it again"...famous last words...LOL

 

My first two pregnancies were very difficult, with preterm labor and bedrest.  With the second child, it took four attempts to get the epidural inserted correctly...very painful with each try...between very painful contractions.  After the third try, I looked my husband straight in the eye and yelled, "Our next child is going to be a CAT!!"  Well, a few years later, along came baby number three, with another difficult pregnancy, preterm labor and bedrest.

 

We have three wonderful boys, ages 18, 13, and 8, and all the pain and sleepless nights were definitely worth it.  I wouldn't trade any of them for a good night's sleep or less worry and stress.

 

All of you first-time moms will survive just fine.  If you use common sense, you will not do any permanent damage to your child...LOL  Just relax and enjoy the stars and seeing the many sunrises you would have missed had the baby not kept you up all night.

Also, in retrospect, of COURSE you wouldn't give up any of your kids...but that doesn't mean that I am not fearful enough to prevent myself from having more kids.

I do not regret having my daughter, but, if I had known what I was to go through before ever knowing her, or before ever getting pregnant I wouldn't have done it. NO WAY.
 
January 25, 2007, 6:12 pm CST

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Quote From: elffie

I had two cesarians and both were great experiences.  Sure, there were little disagreements, but for the most part, it was great, my kids were healthy and taken care of.  I was actually lookin forward to my second cesarian, not only because I would see my daughter, but I was looking forward to the rest! LOL  My son was 2 1/2 at the time. LOL

Hi Elfie!

yeah, Julian was supposed to be a c-section (early on) then the Doc. thought I should try a "natural" birth.

Of course, half way out (and too late) they realized they should've stuck w/plan A. So, I ended up w/ epidurals (that did nerve damage) and a cracked pelvis and Julian had a broken collar bone from  the "natural" birth..give me c-section anyday! Actually my tubes are tied,the doctor admitted I'm just not built to have babies and, Julian was only 6lbs.

 
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