Topic : 01/19 Young Moms Ask the Experts

Well i'll tell you what worked for me when my son who is now 4 yrs. old had colic for a brief time. I used "Red Onions". What you do is boil the onion for about 15 minutes then pour in bottle with a tsp. of sugar, you might want to add a cube of ice to cool faster and serve to baby. It took a couple times to do with my son but "GUESS WHAT" it took that pain away. Try it and see. Red onions is all natural. I'm a young mom too and expecting my second child, so i too had to seek out and find the info. as well. Hope all works well for you. :)

Wow, just finished watching the show here in New Zealand, I wonder about the experts??!! I know every parent and child is different, every relationship within the family is different, some of the advice that pertains to "every" child is not great in my humble opinion.

You should "never" let a child cry? Wow. You should obviously right off a good nights sleep then! Soooo many people I know subscribe to that school of thought and havent slept for the last 6 or 7 years! But that is what they are told to do and that crying will scar their babies forever. I have a 7yo, 5yo and 2 yo. Each of them had a small period of time when we needed to let them cry to get back into a good sleep pattern and then low and behold, they slept! and judging by the fact that all of them are great kids (i'm not saying they're perfect but they are awesome) and they don't remember crying a little bit in the night when they were 9 months old, it worked for us.

I think part of our problem these days is our "here and now" attitude. Lets eat this yummy food now, worry about the excess weight problem later. Lets spoil the child, get up to them everytime they cry, buy them a toy everytime they ask for one in the shops to avoid a tantrum, that just deals with the current issue but builds up a huge range of issues to deal with in the future. Spoilt children expect the world to revolve around them, doesn't work so well when they get to high school or into the work force. Getting up when they cry doesn't work so well when they're 5 and starting school or 8 and still getting into your bed along with your other children aged 5 and 3, giving them a toy to avoid a tantrum teacheds them that they make a big enough fuss and they get what they want. Rather than deal with these issues in a "here and now" way, try the slightly harder but better in the long run approach to parenting where you can raise a well rounded child by long term planning of what will work best in the long term scheme of things.

And yes, I totally agree with many people on this board, do what feels right for you and your family, question what you've been told, think forward to the possible outcomes if you do or don't do something and you ultimately need to accept the decisions you made and commit to them 100%. Half doing something won't work, inconsistency doesn't work. Babies need to know a predictible outcome so if you're happy to get up every time a baby cries, do that, baby will be happy even if you are sleep deprived. But if you do decide to let the baby cry it out, don't just try it for one night and say it doesn't work or go in sometimes and not others because that confuses the baby. Just make sure you stick with what you've decided and give it a good go!

And tantrums (yes we had those) do end eventually, sleepless nights can be a thing of the past and well mannered, well rounded, fun to be with kids can be here to stay!

I HAVE  AND 18 MONTH OLD ADOPTED BABY THAT WE GOT WHEN HE WAS 2 DAYS OLD.  HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THE SWEETEST BABY.  SO LOVING AND FULL OF LOVE AND CHARM.  HE HAS SUDDENLY STARTED HAVING VIOLENT TEMPER TANTRUMS.  IS THIS SOMETHING THAT COULD BE IN HIS GENES?  OR IS THIS NORMAL.  I HAVE NEVER SEEN THIS BEFORE.