Quote From: reneenchuckHello everyone. This is Renee from the Show. Let me start this off by saying I have not read the posts and I dont plan on it, this is my last visit to the site. I was told by my friend that there was some nasty things being said and I dont consume my life with negativity. But, I would like to say a few things. First of all, we were chosen to be on a different show about relationships and being competitive. Due to a wedding in our family we could not make it. The producers then called us and said we have a show for ya. When we heard the title we were a bit skeptical. This show you just viewed was taped over 2 months ago. Since the taping and listening to Dr. Phils advice, we realized how stupid some of our fights were. Most couples are fighting over serious issues such as infidelity, finances, or children. When we took a step back and saw how much time we spent fighting over things that didnt matter, we realized how lucky we both were to have each other. If you notice not one time in the show did we boast about looks, physic, or material things. We have never once put anyone one else down. I am a person who compliments everyone. I always see something beautiful in everyone. My greatest accomplishments are not on the ball field or the basketball court. They are within me. I have 2 beautiful, intelligent well mannered daughters. I have a wonderful career that I struggled to accomplish by going to college full time and working as a single mother to accomplish. I am a nurse. One of the most unselfish careers there is. Chuck is also a wonderful person. A lot of the nice things I did say about him were cut. He is amazing! I admire a lot of the qualities he has. He is the most unselfish person I have ever met and an amazing father to my girls. We have such a wonderful time together. We have amazing friends and family who we adore first and foremost and would do anything for.
Thank you for listening to me ramble.
Renee
For Renee and Chuck:
I'm glad to hear that you were both able to take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship and what you want from it. I know from experience how difficult it is to manage the fragile loving competitiveness that exists with most couples. You are both lovely people, and it's nice to hear that you are together and happy with your family. If it's at all helpful, my ex and I (who are very close friends and lovingly raising our son), now see how we too had silly competitive fights where we were both wanting to hear from our partner those congratulatory words about how good we are at tennis, swimming, hiking (we almost killed each other on a cliff hehe), hell, even who read the fastest! We realized that we both needed those words because somewhere inside we were just not feeling 'good' about ourselves. Not completely but just a little insecure. We realized that it does make a difference to tell each other every once in a while how much you mean to the other person, to acknowledge the effort made by each other, and to praise each other. We also realized that sometimes you have to just trust in yourself or find this praise in other places or other people. Because your partner is not perfect and able to read your mind. Most likely your partner does feel these positive things about you, but you know how that competitive stubborness keeps ya from saying it (the 'dammit he should say it to ME' or 'she never compliments ME' stuff). It does help to laugh about it sometimes! One day he had me literally grunting while i hit the tennis ball (because i wanted to take his head off) and later I had to just laugh at how nutty it can become! Plain fact is, men are not good at this stuff - they can feel threatened by an athletic female. Also, we women tend to want our man to tell us how they feel (and they hate that), or how we want them to tell us how good we look after a new haircut (most likely they see the new look and like it, but they cant read minds about what we want to hear from them). I had to learn to play golf with my lady friends (so it was actually fun hehe) and that only certain games can be played with your partner. Unfortunately i learned a little too late how important communication is between partners. There is a fine line between talking about things and beating things to death, too. Sometimes it helps to just let things go. Men like to hear from us how good they look too, and it never hurts to notice how well they please you or seem to be the most intelligent of all our male friends. Be well and take care of each other. Renee go play with your lady friends and wow them...maybe we'll meet on a tennis court or golf course someday ;)
(Original Air Date: 01/23/07) Do you know people whose egos are off the charts? Dr. Phil’s guests take self-love to the extreme. Renee believes that she’s right all the time and even brags that her friends worship her. Her fiancé, Chuck, says Renee is confused because he’s the one who excels at everything. The couple says their ego wars are all fun and games, so why were the police recently at their house? Then, Desiree says her husband-to-be, Anthony, thinks he’s God’s gift to women. She says he won’t go to the gas station without putting on cologne, tells his family he’s “sexy as hell,” and he even puts on stripteases … for himself! Anthony says he’s not conceited; he just has really high self-esteem. Is Anthony’s big head going to cause big problems in his relationship? Plus, don’t miss the hidden camera experiment that Dr. Phil conducts on his audience. Do you know a snob? Tell us!
