Quote From: mommy96My son has been bullied at his school since kindergarten. I didn't realize that it was happening until he started throwing up everyday before school. I finally sat down and asked him what was going on and he told me that several boys at school were beating him up at recess. I decided to go to the school myself to see if I could catch the boys beating up my son. I sat there for over an hour until the children came out for recess, no sooner did my son get on the playground the boys were running up behind him and threw him to the ground. I looked at the supervisors on the playground to see what they were doing and every single one of them were huddled into to groups talking. I got out of my car and ran over to assist my son, I had every intention on just taking him with me but I didn't want to get into trouble for taking my son off of the school property. I decided to then go into the school and talk with the principal about what I had just observed on the playground. The principal told me and my husband that their supervisors aren't paid very well so you basically get what you pay for! My son is now in the fifth grade and he still continues to deal with bullies on a daily basis. My son tries to make friends with other students but they turn him down and tell him that he cannot play with them. It is heart breaking as a parent to feel so useless in this type of situation. We've even tried to get the superintendant to meet with us and he replied that is unusual for him to meet with parents. I have discussed this issue with other people and they feel that I would have a strong legal case against the school but I would rather not have things go that far. I had wrote a letter to the Dr. Phil show and was given an invitation to be on the show with my son "Bullies Caught On Tape" but after discussing it with my husband he felt that it might alienate my son even more. We have taken our son to counseling but that doesn't stop him from being bullied at school. One day I asked my son to write down how he felt about school, these were his exact words:
It feels like that I don't want to ever go to school again. I just want to make them take those words back. Or I just want to go to a different school.
I have to deal with this every day of my life except for Saturday and Sunday. With people make fun me and my friends and hurting us just feel like making them pay back. And it frustrates me, makes me feel sad, and angry like I just want them to hurt until they can't take it anymore.
My heart truly breaks for my son and I'm not really sure where we go from here..........
Hello, I was bullied through out school also, I am 38 years old now, and still to this day, some of the things that was done to me continues to haunt me. My mom always told me "animals fight" and she didn't want me to fight to even stick up for myself, and I didn't until my sophmore year in highschool. Once I did fight back, I wasn't picked on quiet as much as I was before, there were still a few that continued, but if it was necessary, I would fight back. I never threw the first hit, I always let them, by saying something like, "if you feel froggy then jump." But, if I got caught at school, and I got licks or detention, or what ever kind of punishment they did to me, then I got double punishment at home. I wasn't just bullied by other students, I was also bullied by teachers. I can't count the times I came home crying because of what a teacher done to me, not because of another student, I just mainly ignored them. but the teachers should've known better.
Now, my oldest son, who is 11 years old and also in the fifth grade gets picked on, made fun of a whole lot. Not so much as bullied, but he tries really hard to make close friends, but doesn't have a single TRUE friend. I have told him of my experiences at school growing up also, but, I have told him that if it is necessary to fight then fight, I told him to try not to throw the first punch, but if they wont quit and you feel you need to then do it, yes, you might get your butt kicked, and yes you might get in trouble at school, but you wont get in trouble here at home, and if you get your butt kicked the first time, next time you will be more prepared, and more aware of what you need to do, and they will get their butt kicked. I am not approving of fighting, I want my kids to avoid it at all costs, but sometimes it takes fighting back for them to leave you alone.
If necessary put your child in some kind of self defence classes, and teach him to know when you should and shouldn't fight back. Also, I would go and talk to either your county judge, or a lawyer for other legal steps, since the school isn't backing you up. If you had've excepted to go on the Dr. Phil show, it would've probably stopped the bullies, put a national awareness of this schools neglect in not protecting our children, and given other parents from your school awareness of this happening. If our children don't talk to us, we wont ever know that there are problems with them at school.
Thank you and good luck,
Jodi
Bullying has been making front page news and causing outrage across the country. It’s a dangerous trend that has grown out of control. Dr. Phil plays a disturbing video that has been broadcast all over the Internet and news. Three high school girls brutally pummel a young girl while a video camera captures every slap, punch and horrifying kick. Steve Levy, the Suffolk County Executive, joins Dr. Phil via satellite, to discuss the vicious attack. Then, Natasha is a 15-year-old bully who admits that she has no problem pushing, hitting and cursing out any student who doesn’t do what she says. Natasha faces off with Sarah and Dory, two girls she continually taunts at school every day. Will Sarah and Dory retaliate by resorting to “mean girl” behavior, or will all three come to a compromise? And, Dr. Phil’s son, Jay, has an empowering message for the teens. Plus, the school principal and the parents of Natasha, Sarah and Dory weigh in. Have you been the victim of a bully? Share your story here.
