Quote From: steel2wolf You take your child out of school, they are safe you cry in relief, but they haven't learned the lessons they needed to learn. The ONLY lesson you have taught them is to run and hide, and to let their friends suffer in their absence. You have taken your child away from everything GOOD that school offers, friends, puppy love, sports, and being part of a community, to hide them in a closet.
The run away and hide option works only for now, what about tomorrow? If you join the army they call bullying "hazing" there. Are you planning on home military training? Or if the gangs move to your neighbourhood, are you planning to tell them to attack the people next door, because you did home schooling?
Or are you hoping that the people like me who learnt the hard lessons will protect you? If so, forget it, becaue the very next lesson I learnt was the "I'm With Him Lesson." Where the cowards picked on the bullies from hiding and put the blame on me.
You have to learn the lessons sooner or later, there is no hiding or escaping
So what does a parent do? They explain the right lessons to the child, HELP them to learn, and they wipe away the tears and heal the bruises. Just good, loving, solid support.
The hard lessons in life ARE hard, but once learned they can save a lifetime of hardship
I am sorry but I have to completely disagree with you.
So let me answer your questions:
First of all I am a former Marine, My husband is a Marine, so home military training?? I don't think so my daughter is a child, not an adult. What they do in boot camp is break you down to build you back up into a Marine. Children do not need to be broken down. They need to be encouraged, supported and loved, they need to know they can always fall back on a soft place at home.
"Or if the gangs move to your neighbourhood, are you planning to tell them to attack the people next door, because you did home schooling?"
What? I don't get it? Why would I tell someone to go attack someone else? Hopefully I will never have to live in an area where a gang is. We will probally continue to live on base until we get out, then it is deffinitely back to the country for me. I hate living on top of other people. And umm, what does homeschooling have to do with gangs??? I homeschool so my daughter can learn in a safe, supportive enviroment.
"Or are you hoping that the people like me who learnt the hard lessons will protect you?"
I have been discussing current events so far but obviously we'll have to go back to when I was in third grade. First of all I was lucky enough to never be bullied. However, it doesn't mean I have never witnessed it. I moved alot when I was little, however, I always made friends quickly. When I was in third grade, at yet another new school, there was a little boy that everyone picked on, it made me sick to see it, I was a sensitive child. So I ask him to play with me and another little boy who was also new in our class. He did and when the other kids came over to ask him to play, so they could pick on him, the little boy and I told them to go away, that he was playing with us and that we didn't need friends like them. They left him alone and when I moved later in the year he wote me a note on my last day, in purple crayon, that thanked me for helping him and standing up for him. I still have that note. When we later moved back to our home town and I was faced with even more vicious little girls, who told me that they really wanted to be freinds with me but they couldn't if I continued to be freinds with a little girl who's parents "didn't have money" I remembered that little boy and I told them they could be freinds with me or not I didn't care, they backed off and left Angela alone and didn't ostricize me. So no, I don't need help from you.
I do not associate with people who bully other people and I never have. Neither will my daughter. I have told her the story of Randy. She stood up for other little girls. However I will NOT tolerate my daughter being bullied while she is struggling to learn. I will NOT leave her in a situation that is detrimental to her future education. I did not run and hide. If I had she would not still be in Girl Scouts, AWANAs and other community events with the little girls that made fun of her. She would not be standing up for herself now against them in other enviroments. I gave her a safe place to learn, which in turn gave her the self confidence to stand up to them in other places.
Bullying has been making front page news and causing outrage across the country. It’s a dangerous trend that has grown out of control. Dr. Phil plays a disturbing video that has been broadcast all over the Internet and news. Three high school girls brutally pummel a young girl while a video camera captures every slap, punch and horrifying kick. Steve Levy, the Suffolk County Executive, joins Dr. Phil via satellite, to discuss the vicious attack. Then, Natasha is a 15-year-old bully who admits that she has no problem pushing, hitting and cursing out any student who doesn’t do what she says. Natasha faces off with Sarah and Dory, two girls she continually taunts at school every day. Will Sarah and Dory retaliate by resorting to “mean girl” behavior, or will all three come to a compromise? And, Dr. Phil’s son, Jay, has an empowering message for the teens. Plus, the school principal and the parents of Natasha, Sarah and Dory weigh in. Have you been the victim of a bully? Share your story here.
