Topic : 07/03 Big Love

Quote From: busty_tracie

I am a big woman and when i saw that program i was so pleased to see that there are men out there who love big women.  I was even more excited when i saw the atmosphere from club bounce.  I wanted to jump on a plane and come there just to get away for a week or two and be myself.  We are humans like everyone else just we have more of everything to give and more love to share.  Big Beautiful women are so loving and sexy and have so much passion. All we need is someone to share it with.

Quote From: msvivace

It sounds to me like chubby chasers are just a different type of player. They are objectifying fat women and being attracted to them for purely physical reasons. Personality, character, brains, etc. are left out of the equation. Instead of the more common type of "arm candy" they've chosen something more voluptuous. It's still icky. Don't women want to be truly loved for who they are?

Quote From: bungeecord

 They call it a fetish because they don't view it as the norm. Unfortunately it is the norm, more than half the population of America is overweight.

 

I agree with all the posts saying people should like people for who they are. Sadly that isn't the case, people will like or dislike what they see before they get to know a person, in some cases they won't even get to know the person because of what they see.

Quote From: swchick

 You wrote: "So someone that takes care of themselves, and is on medication that makes them gain weight via water retention and appetite triggers, so obesity under those circumstances says something about you"

Obesity ( which, FWIW, has a medical definition, and which can be distinguished from "water weight" or a few extra pounds) is not just an external wrapping.    It is, in fact, part of the whole package that represents characteristics of the individual.   And you are deliberately mischaracterizing my carefully worded post, cine you must understand that I mentioned the reality that  obesity is a (sometimes unconsciously registered) sign of underlying health problems AND/OR genetic problems AND/OR emotional problems or character issues.  (And secondly,  do you not see the irony of your protest?  "Please overlook my signs of poor health, because, um, I have a chronic medical condition." )

We have evolved to prefer mates with certain characteristics that indicate health and youth  and acess to resources that maintain health- men in particular are drawn to these signs of  fertility and the ability to successfully care for children produced by the union...  Its natural, when given a wide pool of applicants, to go for the ones you find attractive and start looking for the best "character" and emotional match among that screened pool.