Topic : 07/03 Big Love

Most people pick on large people because they have their own inferiority complex.  Are these people afraid of the rolls coming to their waists?  Or, is it that you were picked on as a child and decided that you do not want to be around people you once had as friends?<--- That is my sister, actually.  She was a nerd until high school and hung around the fat and unpopular.  Once she broke the glass ceiling and became popular, she decided that hanging around "inferior" people was not something to do and would damage her reputation.  This attitude has followed her into adulthood just like many other people.

For me, I don't care whether a man likes me or not.  If he thinks I am disgusting, that is OK.  I prefer not to associate with stupid people.  Truly intelligent people assess a person for what is inside and what is in the brain.  Actually, some of the most ugly and fat people in this world are the most beautiful on the inside and brilliant.  These people are so involved in what they enjoy that there is little time for boyfriends/girlfriends, dating, exercising, and eating right. 

These are the type of people I prefer.  People that have a life doing something other than living their small lives with the opposite sex and breeding like rabbits.  Let me ask this group of people something...how many people are going to remember you after your dead?  Think about this...do you know your great great grandmother's first name?  The exception to this are the kids...you might actually know your great great grandmother :).

Fat people like myself...it is OK.  Worry about the weight only for your health vs being married and having children.  There is so much more to life than being married, having children, and dealing with a big mortgage.  For the people that are concerned about being alone, there is hope as you saw on Dr. Phil's show.  So, if you are worried about finding a guy, just hang in there.  For me, I have too much life to live to be concerned with such small problems.

I was wondering how Paul and others felt about pregnant women? Pregnant women may be small to start with and then gain more weight than expected. What would these men do that love their small women do if their size 2 wife became pregnant with twins and put on bed rest and put of 50 pounds.
I am just curious if they still feel the same weigh or consider that "fat" okay. I am a small woman and know that I may gain weight as I age or as I have children. I am comfortable with the possibility of no longer being petite as is my husband. I just hope men like Paul would still love their wife if she gained "too much weight" when she was carrying his child.

In case anyone wants to know the truth: No man, and I mean NO MAN wants a morbidly obese woman. There are some insecure guys who are in relationships with unattractive women simply because they don't have the confidence to score with a truly sexy girl and are fearful that another man would be too much competition for them with a sexy girl.  But if you watch these guys, every time a really sexy girl passes by, their eyes are fixed on them. I've seen it a hundred times! A REAL MAN wants a woman he can lift in his arms.

 I hope the situation never arises where their house catches fire and the fat woman passes out from the smoke and these "fat worshipers" are left with the task of carrying their 600 pound beauties to safety. 

 Any man that says an obese woman is what he wants is lying to you and to himself. All of you who want to reply with your heartfelt opinions, please feel free to chime in, but the TRUTH has been spoken.

 Tune in next tme when I speak the truth about the unhealthy, pathetically thin, anorexic "Twiggy's" that are on the other side of this coin.

Peace

I have to say after watching this particular episode I was pretty disturbed.  There are many reasons why people are overweight.  Society is so very narrow minded.  I have always been full figured, and not obesely so.  I thought I was so fat and ugly because of all the societal messages that are thrown at us. I couldn't imagine why a guy found me attractive in my rebenesque form.  When I would see a real heavy person (esp. a woman), my self esteem was so bad I would say I'd kill myself if I ever got that large.  It seemed unsightly and gross to me.  I started battling severe depression about 18 years ago.  Weight gain started at that time.  I was in a very troubling marriage, that mimicked a very troubled childhood.  As a child I was sexually molested, as an adult I was stalked and sexually assaulted. (Not uncommon for childhood survivors) I had a nervous breakdown after my seperation, got my life back on track long enough to go to college, as a single parent with 3 children.  I had a great job that I loved.  In the course of one year I had two car accidents, caused by the other drivers mind you,  (One reared ended me, one ran a red light and totaled my car)  After the second accident I had to quit my job.  In the two years following I have had 4 surgeries on my arms and shoulders, and still have medical problems.  My neck has three herniated discs and my back has herniated and bulged discs.  Needless to say I have to pace myself and still require pain meds for a comfortable daily life.  Now for the good part.  I can't even look at myself in a mirror because I have gained about 120 lbs. that I'd love to lose.  It's hard as medically it hurts.  I intend to join a gym as soon as I am financially able, but  I am sure the going will be slow.  I think back to my earlier size and would LOVE to be there. 

The moral of this story is IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU.  I never thought I'd be here in this fat body.  Given the stigma of mental illness (depression) and obesity ~ I would pick depression.  Society seems to shrug off the first, and is brutal to the second.  It is not a choice.  Sometimes it is a circumstance that is not self created.