Topic : 02/02 A Difficult Reunion – Part 2

"CONS", as in Convicts:(self-definition) a respectable term used by felons about certain felons(Murderers, violent Criminals) based on the world of prison's rules. That's a good "title" in prisons and a code of conduct amongst Offenders. They use words like po-lice. individuals, and have more subtle excuses than anyone  to avoid taking HONEST, FULL, RESPONSIBILITY for their offenses. Liars.

Murderer Dad is lying to himself and his daughters and ex-sister-in-law.

I write this waiting to hear whether my ex-husband is going to get a "Repeat Offender" sentence for his third felony in a year. He has spent 15 years, two-for-one on a thirty, for Burglary with bodily injury(against an elderly man who walked in on the burglary)  in prison. Six months on a year for domestic violence against me and my two children. Two and a half years for Rape. A domestic abuser, as well, he has been convicted of violent crimes for over 40 years. Lies can sound like truth and their manipulation techniques are honed skillfully.

I feel very compassionate towards these women. My heart understands and sees down a very hurtful, long road. It might just as well have been my ex-husband speaking because they sound just the same. Act just the same. It was spooky and opened my eyes. Please take care, ladies. The ever-so-convenient excuses of being drunk or stoned and "I didn't do it on purpose" turns my stomach. Cuts to the core of my humanity. Sickening. I understand their needs but I also understand the real need that is unrealized in them. There are other ways to meet this need! Good luck!!

Erica,

I commend you for being brave and wanting to have a relationship with your father.  I’m not sure how I’d react to this situation were it my own.  I am very proud of you for taking the steps you felt necessary in seeking closure and moving on with your life by going through this experience.  I’m confidant that your father is truly remorseful for his actions and hopefully in therapy he confides within himself exactly what he did and own up to it.  I don’t think you owe your father one iota and by giving him this chance your showing your true colors.  I personally feel that no matter how much therapy, treatment, etc., that you or your father goes though, this tragic event will always remain with the two of you.  With that said…

It is my prayer that this process does not complicate the situation anymore than it has already.  I am also praying that somehow your sister Rachael comes to grips with her anger, frustrations, feelings though your process and one day will desire to reunite too.  To the person whom called your father a “sperm donor” above, you’re cold because if you watched the show, you could feel that he truly loved his wife and surly love his daughters.  He said he was committed to doing whatever was necessary.  Please give them a chance to work this out.

Erica, may god continue to bless you and your family and you make the very best of what you have.  This story has touched me immensely because of the tragedy that you have been through and your willingness to have a relationship with your father.    

Please keep us posted on the status of your relationship with your father.

We love you (and don’t even know you)!

P.S.  If you want to reach me to keep in touch, contact Dr. Phil, my contact information is in my profile.  Good luck!

People need to think about what they are saying.  YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEIRPAST WAS......I'm sure they both loved their children but things got out of control the horrible days 20 years ago.     The daughters have been conditioned to believe one side of the story fine the man was an ass.   Like I said there are two sides to every story.  I know from my past life experience i was not perfect nor my husband we were young dumb though twe knew it all and we knew ****