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Thomas has kept a dark and disturbing secret for 25 years. An overpowering obsession has nearly destroyed his life. His compulsion led to him being convicted of felonies and serving a total of 15 years behind bars. Thomas is an exhibitionist who says he has exposed himself to over 50,000 women. His guilt and shame caused him to sever ties with his friends and family, and he is finally ready to reveal his truth. Something agitates Thomas as he shares his story. Find out what. Then, join Dr. Phil and Thomas in the green room as Thomas reveals his past to the woman he says he wants to marry. How does she react to hearing the news? Tell us what you think!

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February 3, 2007, 9:54 pm CST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

I was flashed once...when I was 15. I actually laughed at the guy. He was caught later that week flashing cheerleaders at a high school football game.
 
February 4, 2007, 10:33 am CST

Me too

Quote From: prettypenny

I was flashed once...when I was 15. I actually laughed at the guy. He was caught later that week flashing cheerleaders at a high school football game.

I was flashed when I was walking home from school in the tenth grade. I just did a double take, and then forgot about it.

This guy on Dr. Phil needs something severed and it's not just ties with his family.

 
February 4, 2007, 12:02 pm CST

Flashers can be very dangerous!

If you want to see what "flashing" can escalate to, please read "The I-5 Killer" by Ann Rule.  It is one of the scariest non-fiction books ever written.

 

I was flashed twice when I was a little girl.  I hope both of those men were arrested before they could harm anyone else.

 

Sharon

 
February 4, 2007, 3:37 pm CST

Watch out!

Well, I have been flashed many many times when I was a child.  For me, this was just more fuel to the flame.  I guess this guy never realized how his behavior could do more harm to those who are also being sexually abused.  I bet he doesn't even know who they are while he is so proudly flashing another.  His behavior is harmful in many ways to the many he has flashed, and he needs to realize this.  He should face the fact that he should live a life without a mate.  He has a problem that  can not just go away.  He needs to remove himself from temptation.  I would not knowingly or willingly marry a man with such a problem.  I do pray for him.
 
February 4, 2007, 4:06 pm CST

WHY REPORT CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE IN 72 HOURS

Probably one of the most disturbing facts about child sexual abuse and incest, is that in 80% of reported cases, the mother of the victim was aware of the sexual abuse inflicted on the child, yet did little or nothing about it.  Just how responsible is a parent for failing to report or stop the sexual abuse of a child or family member? 

 

If the sexual assault has occurred within 72 hours of a physical examination, forensic evidence collection should be conducted.  A complete physical examination, including careful documentation of any lacerations, ecchymoses or petechiae, is critical. Physical examination of the oral cavity includes inspection of the hard and soft palate for bruising or petechiae, and inspection of the frenulum for any lacerations that can result from forced oral penetration. 

 

Rape evidence collection kits are available in the emergency department of most hospitals. Evaluation of acute sexual assault may be conducted in an emergency department setting or, if available, at a children's advocacy center. In nonacute cases, the office of the family physician has the benefit of being a familiar location for the patient.  The physician should maintain a gentle and calm demeanor and be considerate of the apprehensive child. It is helpful to explain the examination beforehand to the patient and caretaker.

 

Medical problems include anogential trauma, bleeding, irritation or discharge, dysuria, frequent urinary tract infections, encopresis, enuresis (especially after continence has been acheived), pregnancy, diagnosis of a sexually transmitted disease (STD) and oral trauma. 

 

Children may present with somatic complaints such as recurrent agdominal pain or frequent headaches resulting from the psychologic stress.  Sexual acting-out behavior is the most specific indicator of possible sexual abuse.

 

Child sexual abuse generally refers to sexual acts, sexually motivated behaviors, or sexual exploitation involving children. Child sexual abuse includes a wide range of behaviors, such as: 

  • Oral, anal, or genital penile penetration
  • Anal or genital digital or other penetration
  • Genital contact with no intrusion
  • Fondling of a child's breasts or buttocks
  • Indecent exposure
  • Inadequate or inappropriate supervision of a child's voluntary sexual activities
  • Use of a child in prostitution, pornography, Internet crimes, or other sexually exploitative activities

Sexual abuse includes both touching offenses (fondling or sexual intercourse) and nontouching offenses (exposing a child to pornographic materials) and can involve varying degrees of violence and emotional trauma.  

 

The most commonly reported cases involve incest, or sexual abuse occurring among family members, including those in biological families, adoptive families, and stepfamilies. Incest most often occurs within a father-daughter relationship.  

 

Mother-son, father-son, and sibling-sibling incest also occurs. Sexual abuse is also sometimes committed by other relatives or caretakers.  

 

Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the child

  • Has difficulty walking or sitting
  • Suddenly refuses to change for gym or to participate in physical activities
  • Reports nightmares or bedwetting
  • Experiences a sudden change in appetite
  • Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated, or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior
  • Becomes pregnant or contracts a venereal disease, particularly if under age 14
  • Runs away
  • Reports sexual abuse by a parent or another adult caregiver

Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the parent or other adult caregiver

  • Is unduly protective of the child or severely limits the child's contact with other children, especially of the opposite sex
  • Is secretive and isolated
  • Is jealous or controlling with family members 

The presence of a single sign does not prove child abuse is occurring in a family; however, when these signs appear repeatedly or in combination you should take a closer look at the situation and consider the possibility of child sexual abuse. 

 

 

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE - DEFINED

 

Child sexual abuse (1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys) occurs among all groups of the population. It happens to children in both rural and urban areas and in all socioeconomic and educational levels, and across all racial and cultural groups.

There is no rule governing the age range between a victim and a perpetrator. Generally, children are sexually abused by adults who are related to them or known by them or their families.

Sexual abuse is forced, tricked, or coerced sexual behavior between a young person and an older person.

Child sexual abuse may consist of any one of the following acts:

1. Nudity 2. Disrobing 3. Genital exposure 4. Inappropriate kissing or fondling 6. Masturbation 7. Oral-genital contact 8. Child pornography 9. Digital penetration 10. Vaginal or anal intercourse

Acquaintance perpetrators are the most common abusers, constituting approximately 70-90% of all reported perpetrators. In sexual abuse cases committed against females, approximately one third to one-half of all perpetrators were related to the victim. Only about one-tenth of the abusers were related to their male victims. 

 

 

 
February 5, 2007, 4:41 am CST

Ego Trip

I'd bet this man is so fond of himself that he actually believes the flashing victims feel flattered. He should stay home and flash himself. I think it's also a controlling issue. In a way he feels control when he does it. He's probably lacking control in other aspects of life that are important to him.
 
February 5, 2007, 7:30 pm CST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

Quote From: prettypenny

I was flashed once...when I was 15. I actually laughed at the guy. He was caught later that week flashing cheerleaders at a high school football game.

I added insult to injury, and pointed as well, I ws 15 as well, and it ws actually by a schoolmate.

In his case, there was the whole "boys wil be boys" thing ( keeping in mind this was over twenty years ago ).  In his case it escalated, imagine my shock when I saw him on the news being taken to court for the rape of his 15 year old step daughter.

It may seem funny at the time, but these guys NEED serious help, if your teenaged son is or has done this, he NEEDS help now, these men do escalate into the most srious crimes and many do eventually sexually assault women.

On the previews this man has already said he makes no apologies, hopefully when his Girlfriend sees this, and that there is no remorse, she won't walk she'll run like hell to the nearest exit, she CANNOT fix him.

After all this time, why can't we as women figure this out ?

 
February 5, 2007, 9:57 pm CST

My son needs help!

Quote From: ceildh1

I added insult to injury, and pointed as well, I ws 15 as well, and it ws actually by a schoolmate.

In his case, there was the whole "boys wil be boys" thing ( keeping in mind this was over twenty years ago ).  In his case it escalated, imagine my shock when I saw him on the news being taken to court for the rape of his 15 year old step daughter.

It may seem funny at the time, but these guys NEED serious help, if your teenaged son is or has done this, he NEEDS help now, these men do escalate into the most srious crimes and many do eventually sexually assault women.

On the previews this man has already said he makes no apologies, hopefully when his Girlfriend sees this, and that there is no remorse, she won't walk she'll run like hell to the nearest exit, she CANNOT fix him.

After all this time, why can't we as women figure this out ?

Hi. I agree with you totally. People that have these kinds of problems do need help. The problem is that even  when this type of behavior  is recognized at an early age, getting the proper help is very difficult. I am the mother of a 15  yr. old boy who has been stealing underwear since he was about 8 or 9. H'es taken it from his older sister, myself and others. I am so worried that this behavior will escalate. I have done everything! possible. He's been in counseling, he's on medication for bi-polar disorder, He sees his psychiatrist, etc. We are now going thru Community Mental Health and the best they can offer us is "Theraputic" Foster Care! He was already in this kind of care for 6 months and it didn't help. Now they want to do it again. When he comes home for visits, he acts out. It is an impossible situation. My husband (19 yrs.) and I are trying to get him into a residential treatment facility but the state (MI) won't pay for it. I love my son very much and it devestates me to think of him not living a healthy life but I Really worry that he might hurt someone else. My Point? I think it should be easier to access treatment for our young people that are displaying these kind of disorders. I've tried to be pro-active to no avail. I've even asked Dr. Phil for help. Nothing yet. Most of these offenders began devient behavior in adolesence or earlier. We should learn to recognize it then and then treat it. It would save a Ton of money in incarceration costs not to mention the cost to potential victims. My son has never hurt anyone but taking their intimates is an extreme personal violation. We have tried to keep my daughter safe by locking doors etc. He finds a way. I just wish someone could help us help him. Just thought I'd share.
 
February 5, 2007, 9:59 pm CST

My son needs help!

I am the mother of a 15  yr. old boy who has been stealing underwear since he was about 8 or 9. H'es taken it from his older sister, myself and others. I am so worried that this behavior will escalate. I have done everything! possible. He's been in counseling, he's on medication for bi-polar disorder, He sees his psychiatrist, etc. We are now going thru Community Mental Health and the best they can offer us is "Theraputic" Foster Care! He was already in this kind of care for 6 months and it didn't help. Now they want to do it again. When he comes home for visits, he acts out. It is an impossible situation. My husband (19 yrs.) and I are trying to get him into a residential treatment facility but the state (MI) won't pay for it. I love my son very much and it devestates me to think of him not living a healthy life but I Really worry that he might hurt someone else. My Point? I think it should be easier to access treatment for our young people that are displaying these kind of disorders. I've tried to be pro-active to no avail. I've even asked Dr. Phil for help. Nothing yet. Most of these offenders began devient behavior in adolesence or earlier. We should learn to recognize it then and then treat it. It would save a Ton of money in incarceration costs not to mention the cost to potential victims. My son has never hurt anyone but taking their intimates is an extreme personal violation. We have tried to keep my daughter safe by locking doors etc. He finds a way. I just wish someone could help us help him. Just thought I'd share.

 
February 6, 2007, 1:34 am CST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

Quote From: ceildh1

I added insult to injury, and pointed as well, I ws 15 as well, and it ws actually by a schoolmate.

In his case, there was the whole "boys wil be boys" thing ( keeping in mind this was over twenty years ago ).  In his case it escalated, imagine my shock when I saw him on the news being taken to court for the rape of his 15 year old step daughter.

It may seem funny at the time, but these guys NEED serious help, if your teenaged son is or has done this, he NEEDS help now, these men do escalate into the most srious crimes and many do eventually sexually assault women.

On the previews this man has already said he makes no apologies, hopefully when his Girlfriend sees this, and that there is no remorse, she won't walk she'll run like hell to the nearest exit, she CANNOT fix him.

After all this time, why can't we as women figure this out ?

I couldn't agree more...this kind of behavior should always be taken seriously.

When this happened to me and I laughed, it was completely out of my control...it was just my natural reaction...I don't know why. My best friend who was with me had a very different reaction..she took off running and crying...I remember her screaming that he might have a gun. She was completely hysterical.

It's so weird how different each humans reaction can be to the same event.
 
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