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Topic : 02/08 Flasher Exposed

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Created on : Friday, February 02, 2007, 03:13:52 pm
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Thomas has kept a dark and disturbing secret for 25 years. An overpowering obsession has nearly destroyed his life. His compulsion led to him being convicted of felonies and serving a total of 15 years behind bars. Thomas is an exhibitionist who says he has exposed himself to over 50,000 women. His guilt and shame caused him to sever ties with his friends and family, and he is finally ready to reveal his truth. Something agitates Thomas as he shares his story. Find out what. Then, join Dr. Phil and Thomas in the green room as Thomas reveals his past to the woman he says he wants to marry. How does she react to hearing the news? Tell us what you think!

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February 6, 2007, 9:30 am CST

Sometimes laughing is not best

Quote From: prettypenny

I was flashed once...when I was 15. I actually laughed at the guy. He was caught later that week flashing cheerleaders at a high school football game.

My friend and I were "flashed" (he did more than just show it) when we were in the 5th grade. I didn't report it, but apparently my friend did (the police showed up unexpectedly at my home that evening to get information from me).

 

Thank God I hadn't laughed at the guy. Three girls he "flashed" after flashing us laughed at him so he chased them for almost a mile. They thought they were going to die. That's awfully frightening to a child.

 
February 6, 2007, 9:33 am CST

It's a sickness. Is he arrogant?

People who do this are mentallly sick. They need couseling. They also need jail time if they reoffend. I believe studies show these types of men escalate their crimes over time. They go from simple flashing to more dangerous activities. I cannot believe this man actually decided to go on national tv. Unless he is remorseful, I would gather he's very arrogant (and hence will reoffend). Sick, sick man (if you can call him a "man").
 
February 6, 2007, 9:47 am CST

That's just sick.

I can't imagine how I would react if somebody were to flash my girlfriend or one of my sisters. I was raised to be a gentleman, and it makes my blood boil when I hear the stories of guys who act in the complete opposite manner. I'm extremely defensive of my loved ones, and would have to say I agree completely with the statement "He needs to have more than his ties with family severed."

 

Just my two cents.

 
February 6, 2007, 8:18 pm CST

80% of Reported Cases????

Quote From: anon_slc

Probably one of the most disturbing facts about child sexual abuse and incest, is that in 80% of reported cases, the mother of the victim was aware of the sexual abuse inflicted on the child, yet did little or nothing about it.  Just how responsible is a parent for failing to report or stop the sexual abuse of a child or family member? 

 

If the sexual assault has occurred within 72 hours of a physical examination, forensic evidence collection should be conducted.  A complete physical examination, including careful documentation of any lacerations, ecchymoses or petechiae, is critical. Physical examination of the oral cavity includes inspection of the hard and soft palate for bruising or petechiae, and inspection of the frenulum for any lacerations that can result from forced oral penetration. 

 

Rape evidence collection kits are available in the emergency department of most hospitals. Evaluation of acute sexual assault may be conducted in an emergency department setting or, if available, at a children's advocacy center. In nonacute cases, the office of the family physician has the benefit of being a familiar location for the patient.  The physician should maintain a gentle and calm demeanor and be considerate of the apprehensive child. It is helpful to explain the examination beforehand to the patient and caretaker.

 

Medical problems include anogential trauma, bleeding, irritation or discharge, dysuria, frequent urinary tract infections, encopresis, enuresis (especially after continence has been acheived), pregnancy, diagnosis of a sexually transmitted disease (STD) and oral trauma. 

 

Children may present with somatic complaints such as recurrent agdominal pain or frequent headaches resulting from the psychologic stress.  Sexual acting-out behavior is the most specific indicator of possible sexual abuse.

 

Child sexual abuse generally refers to sexual acts, sexually motivated behaviors, or sexual exploitation involving children. Child sexual abuse includes a wide range of behaviors, such as: 

  • Oral, anal, or genital penile penetration
  • Anal or genital digital or other penetration
  • Genital contact with no intrusion
  • Fondling of a child's breasts or buttocks
  • Indecent exposure
  • Inadequate or inappropriate supervision of a child's voluntary sexual activities
  • Use of a child in prostitution, pornography, Internet crimes, or other sexually exploitative activities

Sexual abuse includes both touching offenses (fondling or sexual intercourse) and nontouching offenses (exposing a child to pornographic materials) and can involve varying degrees of violence and emotional trauma.  

 

The most commonly reported cases involve incest, or sexual abuse occurring among family members, including those in biological families, adoptive families, and stepfamilies. Incest most often occurs within a father-daughter relationship.  

 

Mother-son, father-son, and sibling-sibling incest also occurs. Sexual abuse is also sometimes committed by other relatives or caretakers.  

 

Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the child

  • Has difficulty walking or sitting
  • Suddenly refuses to change for gym or to participate in physical activities
  • Reports nightmares or bedwetting
  • Experiences a sudden change in appetite
  • Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated, or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior
  • Becomes pregnant or contracts a venereal disease, particularly if under age 14
  • Runs away
  • Reports sexual abuse by a parent or another adult caregiver

Consider the possibility of sexual abuse when the parent or other adult caregiver

  • Is unduly protective of the child or severely limits the child's contact with other children, especially of the opposite sex
  • Is secretive and isolated
  • Is jealous or controlling with family members 

The presence of a single sign does not prove child abuse is occurring in a family; however, when these signs appear repeatedly or in combination you should take a closer look at the situation and consider the possibility of child sexual abuse. 

 

 

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE - DEFINED

 

Child sexual abuse (1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys) occurs among all groups of the population. It happens to children in both rural and urban areas and in all socioeconomic and educational levels, and across all racial and cultural groups.

There is no rule governing the age range between a victim and a perpetrator. Generally, children are sexually abused by adults who are related to them or known by them or their families.

Sexual abuse is forced, tricked, or coerced sexual behavior between a young person and an older person.

Child sexual abuse may consist of any one of the following acts:

1. Nudity 2. Disrobing 3. Genital exposure 4. Inappropriate kissing or fondling 6. Masturbation 7. Oral-genital contact 8. Child pornography 9. Digital penetration 10. Vaginal or anal intercourse

Acquaintance perpetrators are the most common abusers, constituting approximately 70-90% of all reported perpetrators. In sexual abuse cases committed against females, approximately one third to one-half of all perpetrators were related to the victim. Only about one-tenth of the abusers were related to their male victims. 

 

 

Where does the statistic come from that you are citing that says in 80% of all reported of sexual abuse cases the mother has knowledge of the abuse???

 

 

 
February 7, 2007, 10:52 am CST

RECOGNIZING THE REMORSELESS - THE SOCIOPATH NEXT DOOR

How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them.  They’re more spontaneous, more intense, more complex or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced.  Some of favorite reads on the subject: 

 

Aggression in Personality Disorders and Perversions by Otto Kernberg OR Without Conscience:  The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Amoung Us by Robert Hare

 

Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward  

 

Why is it Always About You?:  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

 

Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show fake emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others’ suffering.  They live to dominate and thrive for the thrill to win.  We all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already.

 

Hope it helps! 

 

 
February 7, 2007, 2:27 pm CST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

well i dont know what to think about this show,s episode all i know is this little bit of info that appears on this page, and i have experanced it to miss lead you from time to time, but if thomas is a flasher as this info leades me to beleive, wow damn crap  hahahaha, seems hes very proud of his package and wants to share it with the world  hahahaha, hey thomas maybe you need to just share it with those who want to see ok.
 
February 7, 2007, 3:24 pm CST

flasher

I had experienced being flashed by a flasher,

 

It was many years ago when I just moved into my condo.  I had only been in my condo for about 6 months.  It was a Sat afternoon.   t\The flasher lived in the front unit facing the parking lot I lived in the back unit next to his.  He was was married and had one chld and one on the way.   

 

I had come home from shopping and was getting out of my car when I noticed the flasher.  I thought maybe he was having  hanky panky with his wife and forgot to close the drapes in their bedroom.  The following week it happed from the same window at least 3 times and at the same time.  It seemed he know when I came home and when I went out.  I was working two jobs at the time.  I was getting  frightened and was unsure what to do about it.  I had a good friend who lived upstairs from me.  She was a single mom of a great little boy.  She told me they babysat her son.  She was told that when daddy gave his little girl a bath she said he hurt her down below.  I was ill and upset.  I told her  what he did to me and asked me what window he was doing it from.  I told her and she told me it was the kids room  Well I freaked out and called DYFS.   I then told a woman where I worked my second job since her husband was a police officer.  He told me when I saw her again that her husband said I should call the police.  I did and told them to be gentle that he has a small chld and pregnant wife I didn't want to get upset.  Two police officers came and they told me to leave my home and go to my second job but go behind the building out the outher  building walkway.   I did.  I was so scared I had someone escort me home that night.  I bumped into one of the police officers later and he told me they spoke  to him but didn't arrest him.  I asked if he said why he did this to me.  He told them that he was having fun and liked me.  I didn't even know him not even  his name.  We never met.  I was sick and appaulled.  it was quiet for a shor twhile.  Then it happened again but this time he was playing with himself.  I called the police again and told them about the kids room.  Well I got a call and was told to go to the local police det office.  I did meeting  me there was a member of DYFS, a police officer and det.  I was taped and took an oath.  I gave my statement.  They asked if I wanted to press charges.  I told them I was so scared and afraid he might hurt me especially since the first police officers told me he was wierd and seemed dangerous and I should be careful and watch my step and lock up tightly.  He said they would press charges and put me down as a witness to protect me.  They then told me not to go home and stay away for a while cause they were going to go an get him.  They did arrest him.  His lawyer tried contacting me several time.  I contacted my prosecutor who contacted them and told them they were not allowed to contact me and I would see them in court.  They wanted me to lesser or drop the chareges.  I wouldn't  at first but found out all he would get is a slap on the hand, told to see a shrink and pay $250.00 fine.  I finally reduced the charges since I couldn't afford the court costs and a lawyer, couldn't get time off of work nor did I want to go through the stress and hell of a trial and face the creep.  For at least 5 more years I was locked in my home like in jail.  I lived in fear for at least 6 years with no windows or doors open and covered.  I was harrassed by his kids of which he had one or two more and his wife.  His wife even came to my door knocking and had a knife in her hand.  The kids used to see me and say there is that bad lady.  The wife used to yell at me and gi ve me nasty looks.  She used to wear clothes like mine and if I colored my hair she would too and the same color.  After my case was over and in the papers.  I found out a week later he flashed again in a local supermarket parking lot taking it  out and flashing out his car window while a lady was walking to her car with groceries.  They finally moved .  it wa s a very happy day for me.  By the way DYFS never found anything wrong in their home.  it was a nightmare.  I can't believe he got away with it.  I found out later that other  women in my complex were flashed too but never said anything to anyone.  He spread rumors around about me saying i was staring  into his bedroom window and watching him naked and I was after him. 

 

So this show I can relate to,  He is ill and needs a lot of help. 

 

Hope he gets the help or someone stops him somehow.

 
February 7, 2007, 3:32 pm CST

02/08 Flasher Exposed

Quote From: gamerkoraq

I can't imagine how I would react if somebody were to flash my girlfriend or one of my sisters. I was raised to be a gentleman, and it makes my blood boil when I hear the stories of guys who act in the complete opposite manner. I'm extremely defensive of my loved ones, and would have to say I agree completely with the statement "He needs to have more than his ties with family severed."

 

Just my two cents.

well i dont know about you but if i were walking down the street with my loved ones and this man jumped out opening his trenchcoat to expose his manhood to all eyes ,hahahahaha i would grab me all of it i could possibly get into my hands kick his feet out from under him and procede to show him just how much of it he never saw before by placing one foot in his gut while i pulled what i had in my hands with all the might god could possibly give a man to pull with, by the time i showed him an extra 3 to 4 inches of his own manhood he wouldnt ever be able to flash no one ever again. nor would he want too!
 
February 8, 2007, 2:36 am CST

WOW

I need to hand it to Dr. Phil...he can find some characters for his shows! Geez , what rock did this perv crawl out from? A "little" advice for the flasher...keep "willie" to yourself! LOL...Dud you are in DENIAL if you think we believe your a changed man. Nothing you said convinced me that your obssesion is under control.  But one good thing came out this show...now WE all know what you look like so I do believe it will tough for you to flash anyone and they not recognize you!

 

If you need something to do with your hands why not try knitting or something?

 

Just please keep "it " in your pants...non of us in America want to go blind...LOL.

 

 

 
February 8, 2007, 2:42 am CST

LOL

Quote From: sofuggit

I'd bet this man is so fond of himself that he actually believes the flashing victims feel flattered. He should stay home and flash himself. I think it's also a controlling issue. In a way he feels control when he does it. He's probably lacking control in other aspects of life that are important to him.

Is it made of gold do you think? Maybe that's why he feels the need to "amaze" everyone with his member. LMAO!  I'm sorry, but this guy cracks me up. I just want to know what he tells himself everytime he does it? 

 

I have no doubt this is some kind of disorder but when I think of how hard he tried to convince everyone he's under control I couldn't help yelling at the t.v.   DENIAL YOU LOSER!..then I just started laughing again.

 
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