Quote From: sharann11
Darlene,
I hope I have not missed the update show. Do you remember my writing you about my controlling, abusive husband? So much has happened! I filed for a divorce after his refusal to go to counseling. This past weekend he was at the same party I was at (he kinda invited himself), was very upset that I was having fun. His behavior has escalated now that he has lost control of the relationship. Long story, short, he man handled me out of jealousy from the party and tried to kill my son by choking him. My girl friend was beating on him to let my son Shay go, she was trying to pry his hands from Shays neck, as he was turning red in the face. I ran to get help from neighbors. By the time I returned he had let Shay go. Shay, my son made sure I was OK and then left our home. Funny thing my husband called 911 and told the dispatcher he needed help against my son and his friends. Police showed up, the boys were gone, so the police left. Monday morning my husband files a restraining order and has it served on my son, Shay. Tuesday morning I brought 2 witnesses to the police department and we told what really happened. My husband was arrested on two counts of Domestic Violence, one against myself and one against my son. My husband went before the Judge yesterday and he bonded out. He was ordered to stay away from our home, my son, myself and any witnesses that might testify. This order came from the criminal court. My son and I received a civil restraining order as well. Court will be April 11 and we'll see what happens. In the meantime my son cannot come home until after the court date because of the made up allegations my husband came up with in order to get a restraining order against my son. I feel sorry for Shay because he wanted to protect his mother against his step father and ended up with a restraining order against him with 95% of the allegations untrue. I'm not worried, it will be dismissed. It's just we moved to Florida from California to further my husbands career . We are limited on friends here and my son had only two places to go. Both being our neighbors but their houses are too close in proximity for the restraining order from our home.
Darlene, there's my update. . .
Sharon
Sharon,
Please keep yourself and your family as far away as possible from your ex-husband. This man could very easily kill, and the fact that he went after your child is proof enough. He has no control over his anger and didn't even care there were people around when he was choking your son (they would make good witnesses in court by the way). I can't imagine what would have happened if there was no one around. Your son is lucky to be alive!
It's a good thing you filed for divorce. You and your children don't need this kind of dysfunction in your lives, nobody does, and my sense is that you and your family are a lot better than that.
Remember - restraining orders are just paper. If you see or hear him anywhere, immediately leave and get behind locked doors and inform the police. Keep a paper trail always.
I don't mean to scare you, but just be aware. Sometimes even the most reasonable people act uncontrollably sometimes. Everyone has their breaking point. My father once said "desperate people do desperate things." He passed away nine years ago and he wasn't a wise man, (a farmer and a blue collar worker), but for some reason these words come back to me every once in awhile if I'm mulling over something and it rings true. Of course, "desperate" is different for everybody. Some people are "desperate" for enough money to put food on the table, while others are "desperate" if they're not wearing designer clothing.
Take care, and I know you will come out of this the better for it and feel a great weight lifted off your shoulders.
Paulette
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