Topic : 06/26 The Young and the Reckless

I totally "get " the wanting to party when you are young.... but these girl's are not young!!! I became pregnant at a very early age... and let me tell you... nothing grow's you up faster!! I don't understand the imaturity of these GIRL'S, or the willingness to keep hurting the people they love??? Do they have any idea how silly they look??

In the begining ,I was really upset with my situation.... but in retrospect, it was the best thing that happened to me & i wouldn't trade places with anyone!! I was 18 & i figured it out.... i don't think age is an excuse for anyone!!   

As a teenager, i've lived the life of partying, drinking, doing drugs, attempting suicide, anerexia, binge and purging, i've lived it all, I now live my life a changed person, I am devoting my life to helping other people change. I'm studing to be a criminal justice youth officer to help teens change their ways, i feel i changed and my goal is to help at least one person change. I want to be a mentor for teens, and as soon as I get my degree i'm going to put things in full perspectative. I think it's a little hard for dr. phil to relate completely, he's got the medical standpoint, and that's great, but in today's society, it helps to recruit someone whose walked that life, and knows first hand how difficult it is to change, but IT CAN BE DONE.

LOVE DR. PHIL, & FAMILY

MELISSA 

when my second son was 16, I turned him into the police for using drugs in my home during lunch with friends.  wasn't what i wanted to do but that was all i could think of to maybe turn him around.  this was the beginning of his first trip to rehab.  as i watched the show today i cried most of the time because it was so familar.  my son finished his third trip to rehab 2 years ago.  i know what the parents are going thru and mostly that is pain and fear.  i lived for years scared silly that one day he would just dissapear or overdose.  i listened to all the promises and cleaned up all the messes because that was what i thought i had to do.  i paid the medical bills when he overdosed trying to kill himself, signed my income away for 3 years to pay for a better rehab, stood by his side when they kicked him out of the USMC and borrowed money to pay his bills and send him to school. 

two days after my youngest son left for the service, my second son came home , strung out, delusional, paranoid and angry.  six months later, after the law had been called to my home because he tried to kill himself, therapy that he didn't want and alot of crying, he was arrested.  i bailed him  out so he wouldn't lose his job but 24 hrs later he was arrested again.  he was charged with dwi and possesion.  he spent  2 weeks in jail and was sent to another rehab.

when i went to see him the first time i didn't see any difference.  when one of my other son came home on leave from iraq, we both went to see him and heard all the same promises we had heard before.  but when he got out he held on to AA.  AA saved his life.  for the next year i drove him to a meeting every nite since he had no drivers licence.  this was no small feat since the closest meeting was a 32 mile round trip.  some nites we drove 160 miles to get to the meeting he wanted to go to.  he got a sponsor and started a 12 step program.  he just had his 2nd birthday clean and sober.  this from an acholihic meth addict.  he now holds a job working 50 to 60 hours a week and goes to college full time with a 4.0 grade point.  the son i had from the age of 14 to 24 is long gone.  the son i have now is a recovering addict all due to AA.  keep fighting for your daughter and GET HER TO A MEETING EVERY NITE! 

Dr. Phil is right.  These girls could wind up dead.  There's so many young people these days that die from this kind of life.  But even worse than death maybe, suppose they were driving down the road, under the influence, and like Dr. Phil suggested, they run into a family and, God forbid, kill someone in the other car.  This happened to my friend.  He was a double major, a very smart guy, about 45 years old.  He had an addiction to prescription painkillers.  He got in his car while under the influence and hit another car, in the middle of the day, and killed the man in the other car.  Do you know where he is now?  He is incarcerated and is living a life of pure hell, amongst animals in the prison system.  He is a double major and he is living with people that cannot even read and write.  The judge chose to give him 18 years.  Well, he has now turned his life around.  He is teaching school in prison, but still living with "inmates," so not a bed of roses by any means.  Maybe he might get out in eight or nine years.  So will it take something like that for her to correct her ways and to give up drinking and driving?  Hopefully she will wake up before something like that occurs. 

honestly chelsea is me in 3 years. I am heading down this road and I do not know how to turn back. I wish I could but as Dr.Phil said my brain is damaged. Right now I think drugs are fine although part of me knows they are not. I am attempting to quit pills and trying to straighten up but it is so hard. I cannot and will never tell my parents about the drugs, or the rape. They will beat me like no other. I need to get through this with myself, as much as I want to fix myself I really dont want to on the other hand. This is so much easier to have that "out of body" feeling than to cope with the stress. As far as the rape goes i was 14 and I knew the person. I havent had any help nor will I ever. Just myself and maybe a husband someday. I will never tell them. I know I am a horrible person and have messed up my life but I want to change. I ruin most things and they are my own fault (rape) and such. How would you be able to live with yourself messing everything up? Every decision is wrong. Please dont comment me telling me I am a bad person because I am well aware. I need support and help. PLEASE

WOW!! I couldn't believe what i saw while i was watching,Raquel..Things haven't changed in 20yrs. I was just like her and i will pray for her and hope she doesn't go down the same road i did. My life style like hers led me down a road that left me a Paraplegic for the rest of my life.

Ill never walk again, I learned my lesson to late,but i thank god every day I'm still alive, I just hope and pray that these kids learn before something bad does happen to them.