Topic : 06/26 The Young and the Reckless

I live in the teenage fastlane. I come from a place where not only is it acceptable for teens to drink and smoke marijuana but most of the time it is with the substance of the parent there or with the parent. They do not care. I myself have struggled with addiction and I am only 15 years of age. I also suffer from depression and have had suicide on my mind MANY times. People judge these teens as no-good-rotten-brats but they do not realize that is all we know. At my school it is normal to be drunk and/or high at least once a week. In my grade alone (9th) I am one of the only virgins. These teens are living life as what they call "fun". I believe it is fun but I know it is not supposed to be. My mind is fogged at the moment because I am attempting to get off pills. Basically my story is we have to let kids no what it is doing. I smoked weed and did not care what it did to my lungs. You need to give us something better. Nobody sees stuff as that and liver failure to be a risk for them. I know it is because I have passed out many times from drinking. I have been assaulted while drunk. Someone needs to stop this. Inform all parents please they neeed to know what is going on. I took a survey and at my old school and over 70 percent have smoked weed & most go on to more hardcore drugs. I have been offered ex, pills, cocaine, meth, and herion. I am only 15, newly 15 may I add. Question your kids. Please stop this cycle. I am an addict and nobody deserves this. Stop it before it starts. Because of drugs I have been raped, beaten and tried to kill myself. Prevent your kids.  from this it is soo horrible. I do not deserve this life i have been given. ALl i did was mess it up. People just make them feel appreciated because I will continue to mess up my life because it has NO VALUE at all. I have been used by more people then i have been friends with. I am told I am a horrible person on a regular basis, In my house my nickname is "TP" terrible person. From my parents and everyone. After seeing this show today I just want to die. How could I do this? 

 

I am sorry if you have lost loved ones to drugs its not fair at all that i was given a life and they lost theres.

Like the Doc, I'm all for letting one's hair down and having a good time, that being said, there is a cliche that states you can have fun without drinking or drugs.

What's so much fun about maybe being arrested for public drunkenness and thrown in the drunk tank for the night, or worse yet finding yourself going to prison for maiming or killing someone because you decided to drive, or better yet how about mutilating those pretty faces and bodies in a car accident ?  Sounds like great fun.

What's so fun about staggering around like an idiot, risking a fight because you can't stay away from other girls boyfrin=ends, or apparently girlfriends, or risking having someone slipping you the date rape drug.

Not to mention the slurring slobering idiot you become, and then NOT being able to remember exactly what you said to whom the night before, and suddenly no one is speaking to you.  Is it fun to be hugging the toilet all night ?  And what about the next day when your head feels ten times its normal size, you can't eat because you'll be sick, and your hands are shaking so badly you can barely hold your coffee cup.  That sounds like so much fun, sign me up for that.

Do I like a drink, sure I do rarely met a beer I didn't like, but its called knowing one's limits, after two maybe three I'm done, I like to see the numbers on my cell phone when I call for a ride,I don't like to puke and I like to have my wits about me enough that I'm not going off with anyone but who I went with, Often I am the DD and don't drink, and I KNOW I'd rather look after a room full of toddlers than a couple of drunks, but I still have fun ( and its funny when you stop at every gas station and tell them you need ten dollars for gas hehe ), when I was younger, yeah I could party with the best of them, but becoming a Mom at twenty, well that has a way of kicking a person into reality, or at least one would hope so.

I could see the angst and the sadness in the first young girls eyes. I could see the pain, and I could also see the sadness, pain and quiet desperation in her mother's eyes. I truly hope she will find her way back. I think that she has found herself caught in a catch 22 situation...perhaps she started out using drugs/alcohol for fun/experimentation/peer pressure...whatever the original reason that made her ultimately make that initial choice...but later, she became addicted and had some tragedies forced upon her and this is her only way of coping. I don't think it's the right way to cope...and that's why Dr. Phil will give her the correct tools to do so...the road will be difficult and I truly hope she can make it back to remembering the 'joie de vie' that life offers without drugs...in the simple things that bring joy to one's soul.  As for the other young woman..."Roc' aka Racquel? she is too smart to be so naive...get it together instead of wasting the intellect you have been blessed with.

'Wolf'

Okay I goofed, you're only fifteen, and you live in an area that this is the norm ?

You know one thing I love and hate about teens, is some days I think they're all bi polar, seriously, and I think any parent of teens would agree, the mood swings are scary sometimes ( in some cases that's too real ), one minute you're on top of the world, and then you crash to the depths of dispair, that's normal there's no such thing as halfway when it comes to teens, you feel very deeply, any emotion that comes that minute, drugs will only make it WORSE, plain and simple.

I stand by what I said, GET HELP, I don't belive that every adult in your area is on drugs, YOU have to take that step if what you say is true about your parents, ALL LIFE has value, you just have to get real and find it.

I feel very sad for these young women.

 

I am now age 44 and would be described as a "soccer mom" (a title I wear proudly); however, as a teen and young adult I was wild...drinking and driving, drag racing, getting into car accidents, smoking pot, getting drunk, staying up all night, etc.

 

It is by the GRACE OF GOD that I am alive today. There were many times boys I met at parties ended up driving me home. Had times been different, I surely would have been raped (on more than one occassion). And nobody ever slipped me any drugs because there really werent any to slip into drinks back then. Partying with a stranger back then was much safer than it is now-a-days.

 

Times have CHANGED and it's a dangerous world out there. These young women are not only foolish and immature and quite shallow, but they are self-destructive. It's just a matter of time before something bad happens to them or they cause it to happen to others. Hopefully they will see the error of their ways before it's too late. One can have a good time without taking the chance of ruining ones life!

First of all, you are not a horrible person, you are  aproduct of bad parenting and there is help for you. The first thing you need to do is find that help and Iw ould suggest you got o a school counselor and then children services, whatever the case, do not stop talking until some one listens, There is hope for you if  you reach out, you cannot do it alone and as far as a husband later, that would be wonderful as  marriage is a beautiful union but it won't work if you have baggage coming into  it htat you haven't gotten help  for, Fo ryou will not know how to love yourself, you won't know how to resolve problems, you won't know how to communicate, you won't know how to trust, start now and beleive in your self.

I grew up as an abused child and was told all kinds of crap and yea, I bleieved it for a while and then I got wise and decided that I was better then those people, no way did I want to end up like them and no way was I goingt o allow them to control my life therefore I did soemthing about it. I started going to church and found soem great people, it took me a while to trust them, but eventually I did, and life has been awesome. There was a time when I wanted to die, I was anorexic and I was depressed by the time I was 19, I had a low self image but some howm I cinquered, through prayer, friendships, therapy and a positive out look on life. Lif eis so worth the living when you have something to live for, find your passion, what do you like to do? As a teen a ger, I buried myself into my books, I never went home til night time, spent my time at the library, with a friend studying togehter,w atching tv, I spent a lot of time at the church, if those doors were pen, I was there, I used to help the janitor clean, I volunteered int he office, the food and clothes pantry, I used to go up and take a microphone and sing myheart out, LOL,w ouldn't do it in front of a congragationt hough LOLLLLLL. But hey, there are people who care, you jaust gotta reach out and let em know you are hurting. No it won't be easy at first but man, don't let those people destroy you,it's sucha  waste of time.

Get the book by Dave Pelzer, " A Child Called It" and there are a coule more fromt he same author.Talk about a messed up childhood, beleive me, you are not htonly one who has been hurt and abused, you don't have to live this life style, it's completely up to you and seriously, it's actually easier to be an addict then to get help and to change so you have to really want it to get it and no one can take away your hopes and desires, only if you allow them to.

The only way, the cycle is going to stop is if people like you and me, who has been through hell at home, who has lived with addicts and abusers get the help that we need and then be a better person thenw hat we grew up with, it's quite possible,and I am living proof of it, get help, love and respect your self, you owe it to yourself.

You beleive in hell, why not heaven as well?  You have been given a raw deal in life but so was I and many others but we didn't wish death upon our selves, ell, I did sor tof since I was anorexic at one point but really, there is help out there but it depnds on how bad you want it. I wanted lif enad Iw ent for it and I have no regrets. Drugs, alcohol, sex, wahtever is nothing but a cop out and and a way to hide what's really going on with us and those things are nothing but a waste of time, they don't help and regardless of what one has gone through it isn't worth risking our lives over. The first goal I made when I was very young was to not be like those people who  raised me, I made the goal to prove those negatives wrong in my life, and I did. I thenw as able to make new goals for myself, college, career, marriage, family and I accomplished those things and am a very happy woman today and it isn't because of what family and so called friends did, it was what I did for myself.  Life is worth living when you have something to love for and that is completely up to you. What is your passion? what do you like to do? what would you like to do as a career? Think about those things, get help for your self and reach for your potential, you deserve to be happy but no one can make you happy, only you can do that for your self. it's all about choices..............

I live in the teenage fastlane. I come from a place where not only is it acceptable for teens to drink and smoke marijuana but most of the time it is with the substance of the parent there or with the parent. They do not care. I myself have struggled with addiction and I am only 15 years of age. I also suffer from depression and have had suicide on my mind MANY times. People judge these teens as no-good-rotten-brats but they do not realize that is all we know. At my school it is normal to be drunk and/or high at least once a week. In my grade alone (9th) I am one of the only virgins. These teens are living life as what they call "fun". I believe it is fun but I know it is not supposed to be. My mind is fogged at the moment because I am attempting to get off pills. Basically my story is we have to let kids no what it is doing. I smoked weed and did not care what it did to my lungs. You need to give us something better. Nobody sees stuff as that and liver failure to be a risk for them. I know it is because I have passed out many times from drinking. I have been assaulted while drunk. Someone needs to stop this. Inform all parents please they neeed to know what is going on. I took a survey and at my old school and over 70 percent have smoked weed & most go on to more hardcore drugs. I have been offered ex, pills, cocaine, meth, and herion. I am only 15, newly 15 may I add. Question your kids. Please stop this cycle. I am an addict and nobody deserves this. Stop it before it starts. Because of drugs I have been raped, beaten and tried to kill myself. Prevent your kids.  from this it is soo horrible. I do not deserve this life i have been given. ALl i did was mess it up. People just make them feel appreciated because I will continue to mess up my life because it has NO VALUE at all. I have been used by more people then i have been friends with. I am told I am a horrible person on a regular basis, In my house my nickname is "TP" terrible person. From my parents and everyone. After seeing this show today I just want to die. How could I do this? 

 

I am sorry if you have lost loved ones to drugs its not fair at all that i was given a life and they lost theres.

 

 

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Thank you for your support that is all I need, i need to know that someone cares somewhere. It is horrible living this way. Just I wish I had respecr for myself. I do not give at all about myself. I just want to die. I am a terrible person. Hopefully I willl get through this but I need help. If i can try anyone can. Im just a 15 year old girl lost in a life of drugs and sex. Thank you. Please keep giving advice. As far as everything with God goes. God has never listened to me, he watches me suffer and when I do what he wants and reach out he does nothing. I have no faith anymore in God or anything like that. I quit on myself and God and life.

 

 

 

Thanks again<3

 

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I HAD AN UNCLE THAT WAS GREAT. HE WAS IN THE ARMY. AFTER BEING INJURED SO MANY TIME AS A PARATROOPER HE WAS TOLD HE HAD TO BE A COOK. HE WAS GOOD AT HIS JOB. HE COOKED FOR PRESIDENTS AND HEADS OF STATE. HE HELPED ME THROUGH SOME VERY ROUGH TIMES WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. HE BROTHER WAS MY STEPDAD AND HE WAS VERY ABUSIVE TO ALL FIVE OF US CHILDREN. WHEN THE OTHERS WERE ABLE TO GO TO THE PARK AND PLAY I HAD TO STAY HOME TO CLEAN, IRON, ETC. UNCLE JOE WOULD COME OVER AND ASK WHERE EVERYONE WAS AND WHY I WASN'T WITH THEM? SO I TOLD HIM. HE WOULD HELP ME CLEAN THE HOUSE SO I COULD GO WITH HIM TO GET ICE CREAM, TO THE PARK OR WHATEVER. HE WAS KILLED AT 3AM ON HIS WAY TO WORK BY A DRUNK DRIVER. HE WAS HIT HEADON. THE DRIVER WAS GOING 60MPH IN A 35 MPH.

THEN IN THE WINTER OF THE 80'S I LIVED HERE IN ROSWELL, NM AND WAS IN MY NIGHTGOWN WHEN I HEARD A CRASH OUTSIDE MY WINDOW. I WAS THE FIRST PERSON ON SITE. THE MAN JUST TALKED ABOUT HIS FAMILY AND WANTED THEM TO KNOW HE WAS THINKING OF THEM. OTHER PEOPLE STARTED COMING AND I TOLD SOMEONE TO BRING A BLANKET. IN THE PROCESS THE DRUNK DRIVER THIED TO RUN FROM THE SCENE. HE THROUGH HIS BOTTLES IN THE ALLEY BUT HE PASSED OUT A FEW FEET LATER. THE FIRE STATION WAS LESS THAN A BLOCK AWAY. I TOLD THE PEOPLE THERE NOT TO LET HIM MOVE AND THAT THEY SHOULD NOT MOVE HIM EITHER(HE WAS FACE DOWN IN HIS CAR) I WENT TO THE FIRE STATION AND BANGED ON THE DOOR. I WAS YELLIUNG FOR THEM TO ANSWER THEY DOOR. FINALLY THEY DID, BUT THE MAN SAID THAT I NEEDED TO CALLED A DIFFERNT STATION BECAUSE THAT ONE WAS FOR A DIFFERENT AREA OF TOWN. I REALLY LOST IT AND YELLED THAT THE MAN COULD DIE IF THEY DIDN'T COME NOW. THEY CALLED THE AMBULANCE AND FINALLY ARRIVED ON THE SITE. WHEN THE MAN WAS RAISED UP TO TURN HIM OVER-HE QUIT BREATHING. I WATCHED AS THEY PULLED AWAY GIVING HIM CPR. LATER I FOUND OUT HE HAD A WIFE AND SIX KIDS WITH ONE ON THEY WAY. THE POLICEMAN THAT TOOK THE REPORT CAME BACK THE NEXT DAY SAYING THAT THE FAMILY WANTED TO TALK TO ME. I TOLD HIM I DIDN'T THINK I COULD DO THAT. HE SAID IT WOULD MEAN SO MUCH TO THEM. SO I WENT. TO LOOK IN THEIR FACES BROKE MY HEART. ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WAS HIS FAMILY AND HOW MUCH HE LOVED THEM.

I GUESS MY POINT TO ALL OF THIS IS TO TELL THE YOUNG LADIES THAT IT HURTS ALOT OF PEOPLE WHEN THEY DRINK AND DRIVE. THE FAMILIES THAT ARE LEFT BEHIND. EVEN THE WITNESSES NEVER FORGET WHAT HAPPENED. IN MY UNCLES'S CASE, THE MAN THAT KILLES HIM DIED A FEW DAYS LATER. SOME CASES, THE PEOPLE WALK AWAY WITHOUT A SCRATCH AND THEN DO IT AGAIN. I CAN TELL ABOUT THAT TOO A MAN IN ALBQUQER,NM RAN INTO A CAR WITH FIVE PEOPLE IN IT. FOUR IN THE CAR DIED AS WELL AS THE DRUNCK DRIVER. ONE TEENAGE GIRL IS LEFT WITH NO FAMILY. PLEASE DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE.

Well, quiting doesn't help any one, if you don't have faith in your self then you will continue to go down the path thaty ou go down, you have to beleive in your self before you can get the real help that you need but there are people who care and many of us have been down your path and found a way, it's possible, just have to want it and reach for it, there is light at the end of the  tunne............. Just a tiny bit of faith can do amazing things, doesn't take a whole lot,  try it, seek and you shall find, won't be an easy journey but certainly worth taking if you ant it bad enough.