Topic : 06/26 The Young and the Reckless

I watched the show today and those two girls have no idea of what they are doing,  Chelsi, keeps smiling and laughing it is a lark to her, she does not want to get out of the spot light!    Sure the guys paw over you as you are there asking them to do, the bar is making money on your stupidity.

It is not glamorus, in young ladies or guys, as you grow older and it only gets harder.  You age more drinking and smoking than a non drinker/smoker, those clothes are horrible, put on some decent clothes, and guys will still look at you as you are female.!

The 15 year old girl that says it is the "norm" for "all" the kids to drink and smoke.  I am so sorry for you, there is help out there call your local AA chapter listed in the phone book, even thou you are a teen they will welcome you with open arms and help you.

I know what you are going thru as my ex husband was an alcoholic and it was something he inherited from his parents and grandparents.  He would not quit drinking even after a 5 by pass he was going to die happy with a can of beer in his hand.  Sorry he died in the ICU unit at the hospital with out his beloved beer.   He  went thru treatment about three times but all for the wrong reasons, to get another monkey off his back, not for himself.  So please don't walk RUN to the nearest AA meeting or if you are lucky enough to have a Pastor that is knowledable in alcohol he or she will help you.  But please do go for help, life is soooooooo good clean and sober.  Soda pop, or hot chocolate, or tea or even water is sooooo good, and i can have just as much fun with either one of those as those people that think they have to  have a alcohol drink to have a good time.

  I have lived with someone that drinks alcohol for many, many years and see what it does to t hem.

Do get  help NOW NOT LATER!!!  I care and so does millions of other sober/clean people and they will help you, just ASK!!!!!

Do not be afraid to reach out and say I NEED HELP, I CANNOT DO IT ALONE, THAT IS THE FIRST STEP!!!!

After sitting down and watching your show about these young women who subjected themselves to alcohol and drugs...I saw myself in them all over again. I can relate to their stories. The all night binge drinking and partying till god knows when. My 20's were lived through the bottom of a bottle. I didn't come to my relization that i had a problem till early January in 2000 when i was pulled over for  DUI with a Blood Alcohol level of 0.014. Six months after that i subjected myself to another DUI. I thanked the police officers who had arrested me for doing their jobs. No one was hurt but i could have taken a life along with my own.

I went through the DUI Classes and learned i was becoming a social alcoholic and slowing i was destroying anyone and anything that came across my path. I did my own self intervention and learned that i can live life without downing a drink. I will not lie to you it is hard but with lots of love, the right encouragement and the right friends, anyone can get through it.

California has become stronger on their laws when it comes to driving and drinking in the past 34 years. But i try my best to not judge but to teach others and to be their ear and shoulder. I am a strong believer when it comes to Rehabs and Interventions.

Message to those that still Drink and Drive even after one drink and think Oh im not drunk.....It only takes ONE drink to make your judgements not clear at hand.

This show touched home.  The mother and daughter guests on the show was like looking in a mirror.  My daughter is 19 and living with her boyfriend and has detached herself from her family.  She dropped out of school and is living a fast paced lifestyle.  She is very vain and is a material girl.  She was brought up in a christian home and is rebelling big time.  She does not take responsibility for her actions and blame others for her problems and mostly it is pointed to me, her mother.  I would have signed her and myself up for the show if I would have known the topic that was going to be aired on.  She thinks she is untouchable and can do anything her way.  When it does not turn out she blames others and gets hateful.  I hope she watched the show..but I know from experience that she won't admit she needs help.  But she does need help.  I try to watch your show everyday and many of your shows touch home or help me out.  Thanks!

Cheryl

Just to let the reader's know all the people that were killed in that accident, I had forgot to

mentioned that they were all under 21yrs of age.For the people that has a problem with alcohol or drug's get help,you need support, well there is support out there.Don't think that you can do it

on your own because you can't.I had that kind of mind of I can do it on my own,I ended up getting

worse with my drinking and becoming a user.I had to learn the hard way.Going to jail was a wake up call for me 3 different times,WELL I WAS IN JAIL IT WAS A LEARNING EXPERIANCE, YOUNG GIRL'S GOING TO PRISON FOR YEAR'S BECAUSE OF ALCOHOL AND DRUG'S.ALL THEY DO IS CRY AND THINK OF WAY'S TO COMMIT SUICIDE.WAKE UP LADIES!

What these girls (and all those into drinking and driving) need is a true to life reality check.  Everyone always talks about how they fear their friend or relative will be killed.  The partier always talks about how "It'll never happen to me" (meaning killed in an accident).  As an occupational therapist working in a rehabilitation hospital, I can attest to what is potentially worse than dying.  I think it would do a great service to have a "survivor" from a drunk driving accident confront these people on the show.  But not someone that came out unscathed.  Someone who I work with every day........ disfigured, paralized in a wheelchair, unable to feed themselves, cognitively impaired to the point they can no longer remember thier own families.  I have worked with way too many 16 to 25 year olds whose lives are now permanantly affected by the bad choices they have made.

LOOK!!!! YOU NEED TO READ THE FOLLOWING ...........IF YOU EVER DRINK AND DRIVE!!!!!!

MAYBE THIS WILL SAVE SOMEONES LIFE?????

I am writing about todays show the young and the reckless.  I was so upset to hear that these ladies are drinking and driving.  Dr. Phil on todays show you mentioned that who gave these girls the right to drive in a car and possibly kill themselves or an innocent family.  You are RIGHT!  I will pray that these girls get their act together because it would be a shame if someone gets hurt due to their foolishness.  It seems just like yesterday when I lost one of my BEST friends.  Her name was Brenda Garcia and she was my sons Godmother.  One day she called me and asked if she could come over and visit.  I said of course!  She came with her family and we had a wonderful day.  I cooked her favorite food for dinner and we had chocolate cake for dessert.  I recall her daughter, who at the time was 6 years old asking me for some milk before the left my home.  I gave her a cup of milk and they were on their way home.  As soon as they left approx.  30 minutes later I recieved a phone call.  I was devistated!!!!  Little Company of Mary hospital  called and asked me if I knew such family.  I responded yes! what happened!!  they would not tell me on the phone what happened.  All they said was that they were involved in a car accident.  Her eldest son(10 yrs)  had the hospital call to inform me of the accident.  The family was seperated and taken to different hospitals.  The eldest son was rushed to Little Company of Mary, the second son (8yrs.) was rushed to Childrens Memorial Hospital and my friend, her husband and youngest daughter(6yrs.) were taken to Christ Hospital.   My husband and I  rushed to the hospital where the 10 yr. old was because the grandparents were at the other hospital with the 8 yr. old.  Other family members rushed to Christ hospital were mom, dad, and daughter were taken.   When we arrived 10yr. son was not seriously or physically hurt.  X-rays were taken then he was released to us.  We traveled to the hospital were his parents were at.  At this time his mother had passed away.  How do we tell a 10 yr. old your mother is gone......We did not share this information with him.  Later, his younger sister passed away.  Now what do we do?????We are all in pain suffering due to our loss.  Two young boys and a young father were cheated with life.  The once family of 5 now is a family of 3.  How sad!!  As I am typing this letter I am PLEADING WITH THESE YOUNG LADIES TO PLEASE STOP AND THINK!!!  This family was cheated of all the wonderful things in life.  The boys no longer had a mother nor a little sister.  Why?????  Because someone like the  YOUNG AND THE RECKLESS killed them!!!!  Yes, a young lady was drinking and driving and passed a stop sign and ran into their car.  Killing Brenda my dear friend who is missed so much and her beautiful daughter Diana who never was given a chance to live.   Her father always says "She was like a Rose that was never able to bloom."  So please stop and think of what you are doing to yourself and what you can do to others.  You can destroy a family.  As I type these words I still cry and miss them both after 14 years it seems just like yesterday and I truly miss them.  So please, I beg you,  please DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE !   OLGA ....CHICAGO, ILLINOIS

I AM SOOOOO PROUD OF YOU FOR TURNING TO GOD, AND TURNING YOUR LIFE AROUND. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FEAR THE JUDGES DECISION WHEN GOD IS INVOLVED, AND YOU ARE MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES. SHOW THE JUDGE A COPY OF THIS LETTER, OR BETTER YET TELL HIM ABOUT ALL OF THE WONDERFUL CHOICES YOU ARE MAKING, AND BRING A COPY OF THAT REPORT CARD,TOO!!!! EVERYTHING DOES HAPPEN FOR A REASON, AND KNOW  THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, WHEN WE MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES, THINGS WILL TURN OUT OKAY, AND WE CAN WALK WITH OUR HEADS HELD HIGH. YOU ARE AN AMAZING YOUNG MAN, AND ONCE AGAIN, I AM SOOOOO PROUD OF YOU.KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK, YOU ARE A WINNER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KEEP SHARING YOUR STORY, TOO, YOU ARE TRULY AN INSPIRATION. I KNOW EVERY PERSON THAT READS YOUR STORY WILL BE TOUCHED, I KNOW YOU MADE MY DAY. I HAVE A SISTER, CHARLENE WHO IS AN ALCOHOLIC, WHO JUST LOST HER 2 CHILDREN, PLEASE ADD HER TO YOUR PRAYER LIST EVERYONE WHO READS THIS. GOD BLESS

RAPE IS RAPE AND IT IS NEVER, EVER, EVER, THE VICTIMS FAULT. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON, YOU ARE JUST MAKING POOR CHOICES IN ORDER TO NUMB THE PAIN, BUT IT IS NEVER GOING TO WORK, WHAT WILL WORK IS GOING TO A RAPE CRISIS CENTER FOR COUNSELING, PLEASE, I BEG YOU TO DO THIS. YOUR PARENTS DO NOT EVEN HAVE TO KNOW. PLEASE, THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU, AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU EVERYDAY, YOU A ONE OF GOD'S PRECIOUS CREATIONS. PLEASE, PLEASE, GET HELP TODAY, CALL A RAPE CRISIS HOTLINE IN THE PHONE BOOK. YOU ARE GOING TO BE OKAY, AS LONG AS YOU CONFRONT THIS PAINFUL SITUATION, AND THEN YOU WILL NOT NEED TO COVER UP THE PAIN WITH DRUGS, WHICH WILL ONLY LEAD TO MORE PAIN IN THE END. GOD BLESS YOU YOU SWEET, SWEET CHILD. TAKE CARE, BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH.