Quote From: flrat69You did come back with a hard one. I have never cheated on even someone I dated, so I can only guess. For all those out there who will be ready to jump on me for what I'm about to say, remember that I have not done this.
When men cheat, there can be any number of reasons given, but the truth is that we are programmed to seek a mate, but to also try to mate when the opportunity arises. I am sure that women who are honest with themselves will admit that being found desirable by men in general is a nice thing. It raises your self esteem. You feel much better about yourself. When a man is found desirable by women, the same thing happens. The difference is that the male is predisposed to act on those feelings.
You really have to laugh at those who think we are so far above animals in every way. It just isn't true. Our ancestors lived in an environment in which the males would take mates by displays of physical prowess. The female was naturally attracted to the male who could best provide for her and her offspring. In those days, the male need not be monogamous. In fact, it was usually better for the society if they weren't, since so many were killed in hunts or war.
We are not far removed from our primitive ancestors. We have the same drives they had (male and female) but most of us have consciously decided not to act on those drives.
So, why do men cheat? There are basic reasons. They see, they want, and they take. They make the decision to allow the primitive drives to come to the foreground. But, they do make that decision. Once the drive has been acted on, they remember their more civilized side. Then they have to find blame (couldn't be them, you know). They may choose to blame the wife with what are almost always irrational reasons; or they may blame the other women for "seducing them". They will almost never blame themselves. In fact, many have been brought up to believe that cheating by the male is normal and makes them more manly.
The "other woman" was once called "loose" by the males. Now they are called opportunities.
When all is said and done, the answer to your questions is because many men are pigs who will set aside the feelings of their partners for a few minutes of physical pleasure.
I know what you were saying, but does any of this make sense?
Yes. It makes sense and is food for thought.
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