Topic : 07/23 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 3

its good they have a friend as you for a neaghbor, im not saying amanda is a bad person all im saying is she seems to have really made a bad choice in a job for a married woman, and nic wineing about something from his childhood like a kid teasing him becouse his mother was a little on the heavy side was just plain childesh for him to do!!! just how in the world can he ever handle some one teasing him about his wife having a job as a stripper, i say stripper becouse dr phil stood on camera and made it clear she took her clothes off for other men to entertain them, but just how will nic handle this? wow they do have an abundance of problems, how long have they been togather? how long do you think this will last if something doesnt change and change really fast? i do not sit here and hope they end there life togather, i hope and pray with all my heart they both do the rite thing and listen and follow dr phils directions to the letter, if they both give 100% they will overcome this problem, but both must give 100% not 90/10.

not only is a man who beates his wife bad but lets add coward too. ive been kicked where no man wants to be kicked before by my ex wife ive been slaped in the face and punched in the mouth as well by her, but i still would not raise my hand to her in anger,thers no exscuse for a man to hit a woman!!!, in all honesty i kind of had it coming lol, it was a learning experance, i learned what not to say  hehehehe.

its good that nic supports amanda in her choices, but in this case hes kind of poreing salt in a open wound.

Exactly. My husband also would not abuse me for anything. Not verbally, not physically. Men don't walk around with an automatic call for respect. Respect, even in a marriage is earned and maintained.

Believe it or not, not all men and women see stripping as a negative thing. Would I do it? No. Would my husband want me to do it? No. But some people do it, they enjoy it and their spouses aren't bothered by it. That's their prerogative.

 Shaming and embarrassing Amanda is vicious and cruel and doesn't benefit anyone. It didn't profit me watching her go through this, it’s like she said she already has shame down.   I felt it was pointless and redundant.

 

I won't lie and say there’s no easier way. I'm not recommending everyone go out and do what she did.  We’re deeper than that, all we have to do is think.  We’re all connected, we’re all sharing a separate experience this gives us the capacity to look at things from a different point of view. she’s not just a stripper, she’s a million things we don’t even know that we can't even comprehend.  There isn’t just one way to any place, not even heaven.

 

And now I have to repeat this to myself because personally, I find I'm being extremely judgmental of Cherri.

 She was stripping when her husband met her!  If he had a problem with that then he shouldn't have dated, fell in love and married her.

Evidently it was either discussed or implied she would continue stripping.  He is not her father!  He is her husband and if he doesn't like what she does for a living that is truly "his problem".  However, I don't think it's him that has the problem with it, I believe it's the other men in the house and you.

I cracked up when Dr. Phil said that the other ladies in the house don't like her because they don't want their husbands going into strip bars or something of that nature.  If my husband went into a strip bar I'd be angry at him not the stripper.  She's just up there making a buck (I understand it's good money) and he could be anyone.  Men know when they enter the bar what they are going to see, that's why they go there!!! 

What do you think....men just innocently go into an establishment to have a cup of coffee and all of a sudden, without warning a woman is just standing there naked????  And then the men cover their eyes and cry in horror????

Give me a break will ya?

hahahaha hell yeah men go to strip bars for coffee and good conversation dont they?  hahahahahah, and as for your break im sorry im all out of kit cat bars  hahahahaha.

I agree that she needed to end the affair for the marriage to have any chance of working. 

What I meant was if anyone was going to demand she end the affair, it should have been her husband, not the doc.  Or, she should have said that she would end it on her own.  The way the doc went about it, it was(the way I saw and heard it)like he was ordering her to end this on his show right here right now no ifs and or buts about it.   To me, he seemed very pushy and bossy and I dont think anyone would have spoke their true feelings at the point. 

I would have prefferred to see her or her husband push that issue instead of the doc.  I felt that was THEIR place, not his.  I think he should have ASKED her what she wanted to do, not DEMAND her to do what HE wanted.  That way, the decision would have been a real one.   Not an all of a sudden here is this other guy and you WILL end this here and now,  type of decision. 

     I believe Cherie should leave John just for the fact that he is physically abusing her.  Having been abused myself by my ex-husband (notice he is an "ex" now), it should not be tolerated at all.  I have not heard Dr. Phil mention this part of their relationship as yet.  You only have one life to live and you shouldn't have to live it in fear like Cherie is doing.