the current "man camp" show raises many issues, of that there is no doubt. the responses are also quite thought provoking as well in as much that people get intellectually & emotionally involved with this discourse.
the idea that a woman uses her body to make money, sadly, is quite literally "the oldest game in the book". whether they go towards temptation (look but don't touch) or full blown prostitution (pay to play) is irreverent. the idea that money is so necessary that a person (male or female) would go to any lengths and justification to obtain it is so depressing that the real "core" issue (self esteem) is clouded by fear, denial, ignorance, compromise, acquiescence, doubt, fabrication, fantasy, delusion, derision, anger, hate, judgementalism, sex, greed, avarice, dependence , co-dependence and baggage on a monumental level.
Amanda has a lot to say, but the real reasons she "exotic dances" (strips) is because
A) she makes great money for no "real world" talent or education (easy money).
B) because she has real & visceral self esteem issues needs attention focused on her to be able to "face" her life.
C) she "gets off" on it. she likes feeling, if only for a brief moment, that she is attractive and desirable.
D) she probably finds some sort of convoluted "empowerment" by performing in that she is able to obtain some sort of momentary "control" in her life.
these are the watermarks for every single "exotic dancer". oh, they will argue that last statement until the cows come home. I can almost read the responses now. talk about their husbands acceptance of their "profession" (those guys have serious issues of their own, babe. don't kid yourself.) how they can't do anything else that yields this sort of income ... that's total BS and, deep down, you know it. for instance, educated, professional nurses make quite a comfortable income doing something worthwhile. that's just one type of work that pays "an honest wage for an honest day's work". though dancing (of any sort) is physically demanding, stripping is almost the lowest peg on the totem pole. don't think so? try studying legitimate dancing and then make the audition cattle calls for a major dance troupe. it is no picnic and only the strong and talented survive. gyrating sexually to some soulless music that only hits on one level (the solar plexus) is easy compared to the legitimate discipline and control demanded for classic & modern dance ... not to mention those insane choreographers & directors. yikes! what people will put themselves through for a buck. the reality is that if spiritual enlightenment yielded big dollars, then there would be whole lot of "enlightened" people and a percentage of fake spiritualist's trying to "get over" ... to be sure.
the fact is, you are lazy and it's no wonder. in the current degraded moral climate the world is in (thanks, Hollywood and the fashion industry) it's no wonder that people are dissatisfied with their lives and physical appearance, not to mention peer pressure! if women were to be truly "in sync" today, one would have an hour glass figure with zero extra body weight (size 0), able to climb a mountain or run 25 miles easily, have a "perfect" complexion on the face of an angel with the sexual appetite of some heroine in a sexually charged movie or book. whew! sounds like hard work. so, why do the work? with all the advanced elective cosmetic surgery techniques available, girls ... all you need is cash.
any person that agrees ("lets") to their wife/GF/significant other to do this type of work (face it folks. one's life is one's own and if that is what one wants to do, it's one's prerogative) is benefiting (using) her to bring in the lion share of the collective income (laziness) while he/she sits at home watching TV or whatever he/she does. I've met this individual before. they play on a woman's insecurity and youth to provide them a lifestyle to which they feel entitled to. these types are predators ... male or female. beware the darkness of obsessive compulsive avarice.
the real question is "why?" and that is the one question that can never be answered and, hence, our age old societal dilemma.
(Original Air Date: 02/12/07) Three couples continue an intensive workshop with Dr. Phil, in a last-ditch effort to save their marriages. After almost getting kicked out of the house, Nic and Amanda sit down with Dr. Phil to discuss their biggest issues: their falling out with Nic’s mother, Amanda’s job as an exotic dancer and the affair she’s been having with a patron. With surprise visits from his mother and the man sleeping with his wife, Nic struggles with his emotions. Can he get everything on the table and find some closure? Will Amanda be unified with her husband and tell the other man that it’s over for good? Then, Cherie watches from another room as her husband, John, talks with Dr. Phil, but it's not long before she becomes outraged by what she hears. She joins the men to tell her side of the story. Plus, does an unexpected visit by Cherie’s mother make John pack up and leave? Join the discussion.
