Topic : 07/26 Adoptions Scams, Part 1

Hi,

I am watching the show today.  I just want to say that the girl who scamed the families is a big coward.  She needs to be prosecuted to the fullest extent.  If she were a child predator she would be, but she is in another way a predator of families.  She is weak,a coward and doesn't deserve the respect that she got.  In prison she will not get that.  I just think that she is getting famous off of this publicity.  I am against criminals getting any publicity except through the court system.  I think Dr. Phil is doing a good thing to bring this to the veiwing publics attention.  I hope she will be prosecuted.

Thank you for your time.

Bebe Bertino

That is the biggest lie that a thief tells anyone.  The truth is, the thief DID mean to hurt you.  The thief, such as the woman taking money for phonie adoptions, had a choice...work for a living or steal money from others.  She chose to steal....and thus, she chose to hurt people.

She doesn't appear to be retarded in any way and incapable of understanding what "hurt" means....she intentionally took money that was not hers and lied to get it.

Dr. Phil should do a show on the most common type of adoption scams:   those where adopters promise an open adoption just so they can get the child, and then they close the adoption!   a HUGE number of open adoptions close because the adopters never intended them to remain open anyway!

Young vulnerable mothers are getting scammed out of their children all the time. 

On another topic, the type of scam on this show:  I feel sorry for these people that they lost their money, but they were engaging in coercion and baby-buying by giving money in expectation of a baby.  It is little more than attempting to buy a baby.   Plus, in other situations (not scams, obviously) where this occurs,  it is coercive: making the mother feel that she owes them her baby once she gives birth. Same thing with pre-birth relationships/contact between pregnant mother and PAPs.  The pregnancy hormones cause her to "fall in love" with them and feel obligated to give them her baby. 

NO mother can make a decision about adoption until after she has given birth and has recovered from the birth.  To contact or court a pregnant or newly-delivered mother to get her to consent to, or decide on, adoption is reprehensible.  She should have time to recover post-birth before she makes this decision.  If this was the law, as it is in Australia, no-one would get scammed by women such as the woman on this show!

Adoption should NEVER involve the exchange of money!

I did not believe for one minute that Melissa felt any remorse for what she has done. 

I have a daughter that is not able to have children of her own and have seen what she has gone through dealing with it.  I can't imagine what she would do if something like this would happen to her. 

I sure hope that when the time comes when Melissa wants to have children that she is not able to.  I don't feel she deserves to have children.   

Sorry but as an adoptee I am tired of hearing people who try to buy children whine about being scammed. The telling quote was when the one "wanna be mother" said "my first reaction was that she got a better OFFER" OFFER? You're not negotiating a new buick lady! You shouldn't be able to buy a child. They should be ashamed. Stop whining, don't insist on an infant and go through an agency on the up and up like my parents did where you pay for medical bills and you won't be at risk for being scammed. Today's adoption law needs to be revised because people are going online, buying children and thinking because an attorney is involved it's ethical. Let's face it attorneys? Ethical? Where did lawyer jokes come from?

What this girl did was wrong. But what they did was wrong too.They were shopping and thought they were getting a good bargain. The smallest research if you are looking into adoption tells you infants are hard to get and most of all white infants. So if you're buying a baby you gotta know "if it sounds too good to be true it is too good to be true". There are plenty of children to adopt. They may not be a white baby which is worth a lot of money out there but there are plenty of just as many children who need to be loved more than anything in this world and they are available through state agencies.  If you truly want to be a parent - you can be one. Just like Rosie O'Donnel lsaid, you have to be open about who you are willing to adopt. So sorry I have little sympathy...if their motives are truly genuine their child is waiting and they won't be sneaking around trying to buy it online.