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Topic : 08/06 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

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Created on : Friday, February 23, 2007, 02:08:43 pm
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(Original Air Date: 06/26/07) Three couples trying to save their marriages continue their work at The Dr. Phil House. Throughout their relationship, Scott and Tara have had violent fights that have included slashed tires and police visits. Dr. Phil sits down with Scott to discuss how he can control his anger problem and set up personal boundaries that will put an end to the fighting with his wife. Afterward, Scott feels confident enough to vow to Tara that he is never going to yell at her again. Will he stick by his declaration? Then, Dr. Phil puts the group through some intense exercises, so they can learn their partner’s point of view. As each person stands before the group and explains what he or she really wants, raw emotions pour out, and the couples find themselves growing closer with compassionate support. Plus, Dr. Phil teaches them his rules for fighting (link to /articles/article/20 ) and his rules for children. After seeing a videotape of all their kids, the message is loud and clear. Will the couples apply what they’ve learned and change their families forever? Share your thoughts here.

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March 2, 2007, 11:22 am CST

It wasn't Dr. Phil

IT was the military that said we couldn't bring up the fact that he was in the military because it was showing that the military and deployments have a negative affect on a marriage.  DUH!! 8 months to a year withour your spouse and only one phone call a week for 15 minutes.  And then you have the female troops that are there with the male troops who are just as lonely as we are at home in the states. 

 

Thank you for understanding.  The truth is I am very proud of what my husband and I go through for our country and our family.  It's not easy.  But what is? This is pretty much the only life I have ever known since I turned 18.  That was when I joined and where I met my husband.  When I got out I started dancing before marriage and kids.  Then when I found out I was pregnant we got married.  For all the wrong reasons.  However I am so greatful that those reasons brought us together.  God Bless to all!

 
March 2, 2007, 4:59 pm CST

02/26 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

Quote From: alfie316_2000

IT was the military that said we couldn't bring up the fact that he was in the military because it was showing that the military and deployments have a negative affect on a marriage.  DUH!! 8 months to a year withour your spouse and only one phone call a week for 15 minutes.  And then you have the female troops that are there with the male troops who are just as lonely as we are at home in the states. 

 

Thank you for understanding.  The truth is I am very proud of what my husband and I go through for our country and our family.  It's not easy.  But what is? This is pretty much the only life I have ever known since I turned 18.  That was when I joined and where I met my husband.  When I got out I started dancing before marriage and kids.  Then when I found out I was pregnant we got married.  For all the wrong reasons.  However I am so greatful that those reasons brought us together.  God Bless to all!

my prayers will be for him and all the troops a safe and well return home, Amanda and i ask god to protect him from all harm while hes away from home.keep smiling you are a wonderful person, and i am glad i got to know a little about yours and nicks life, thank you for sharing what you did with all of us, bye and god bless you and nic.
 
March 3, 2007, 1:51 am CST

02/26 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

Quote From: alfie316_2000

IT was the military that said we couldn't bring up the fact that he was in the military because it was showing that the military and deployments have a negative affect on a marriage.  DUH!! 8 months to a year withour your spouse and only one phone call a week for 15 minutes.  And then you have the female troops that are there with the male troops who are just as lonely as we are at home in the states. 

 

Thank you for understanding.  The truth is I am very proud of what my husband and I go through for our country and our family.  It's not easy.  But what is? This is pretty much the only life I have ever known since I turned 18.  That was when I joined and where I met my husband.  When I got out I started dancing before marriage and kids.  Then when I found out I was pregnant we got married.  For all the wrong reasons.  However I am so greatful that those reasons brought us together.  God Bless to all!

Well, you're a remarkable person to me.  You seemed very genuine and it could not have been easy to discuss your personal problems on television.  I do hope you and the other women got along better than it seemed to we viewers, but if not, it's their loss. 

 

Wishing you and your family the best!

 
March 3, 2007, 1:54 am CST

Man Camp Last Show

Does anyone know when we'll be able to watch the last episode in this saga?  Since I see Monday's show is now about Anna Nicole Smith and Brittany Spears.  I was hoping Dr. Phil could be the one person who didn't do a show about these people, but - it figures.  It can't imagine there's anything I don't know/haven't heard/care about hearing at this point.

 
March 3, 2007, 5:23 am CST

amanda

Quote From: alfie316_2000

I don't know why all of this support is making me so emotional, I read what you all have had to say.  And one thing is that I am so greatful to of had the experieince I did including the message board.  Lord knows I think I am one of the least judgmental people out there.   Any one who said they were sorry especially afraid.  I forgive you.  I feel like it's kind of wrong for me to say I forgive someone.  I mean that you didn't do anything wrong for having your feelings.  You were just relating the story with your own, and it sucks that you had the experiences that youdid.  I am working hard on my relationship with God.   Reading all of your support means a lot.  I don't know any of you.  But reading all that you all have had to say everyday!, has been inspiring and educational.  And whenever some of the comments are too hard, I bring that up in counseling or pray, or accept the fact that everyone has thier own opinion.  

 

Anyways Thank you everyone!!!

 

Amanda from Jersey 

Dear Amanda, I feel for you. My daughter is also a dancer at a strip club..I can toatally relate to the situation you are in..her husband let her get this job while he was laid off work and not long after that they split because she also cheated with a regular at work..I don't judge her nor you for the work you do. Dancing is art . I know you dancers make great money and it's hard to walk away from that kind of money..I've watched my daughter quit and go back numerous times. You seem very head strong and persistent to do whatever it takes to provide for your family .I saw the new clip where you said there was no food in the house.. does your husband work?  If you have to go back you do, just try not to get involved with the regulars and don't take business outside of the club.That can be very dangerous. I'm sorry everyone or a lot of people think dancers are trashy, that's simply not true..I know some very beautiful and kind woman who dance and they aren't trashy at all. anyway, best of luck toy you and Nick. Stay strong and know that not everyone out here sees you as trash. You have a beauty about you, I saw it on the last episode...
 
March 3, 2007, 7:02 pm CST

My best wishes to Amanda...

Quote From: southsideslim

Dear Amanda, I feel for you. My daughter is also a dancer at a strip club..I can toatally relate to the situation you are in..her husband let her get this job while he was laid off work and not long after that they split because she also cheated with a regular at work..I don't judge her nor you for the work you do. Dancing is art . I know you dancers make great money and it's hard to walk away from that kind of money..I've watched my daughter quit and go back numerous times. You seem very head strong and persistent to do whatever it takes to provide for your family .I saw the new clip where you said there was no food in the house.. does your husband work?  If you have to go back you do, just try not to get involved with the regulars and don't take business outside of the club.That can be very dangerous. I'm sorry everyone or a lot of people think dancers are trashy, that's simply not true..I know some very beautiful and kind woman who dance and they aren't trashy at all. anyway, best of luck toy you and Nick. Stay strong and know that not everyone out here sees you as trash. You have a beauty about you, I saw it on the last episode...

I don't think Dr. Phil told Amanda to quit her job because it was "trashy".  It seems to me like the reason why he wanted her to quit was because it had an impact on her self-esteem; unconsciously, her job made her feel like she was not good enough for another job (which is untrue by the way!)...  And if she does not respect herself, how is she supposed to expect her husband to respect her?  I know what being in an abusive relationship feels like and the first step towards change is to learn to respect yourself.  Therefore, people will respect you as well.

 

Just for the records..  I also know that dancing pays well, very well...  And I would have done the same thing as Amanda did to support my family if I had to.  I totally agree with what you did for your family, Amanda.  To me it does not matter if you are an exotic dancer or not as long as you know that you are worth much more than your body.

 

YOU ARE A VERY INTELLIGENT, SENSITIVE AND BEAUTIFUL WOMAN!  I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

 

I hope you and your husband are gonna get through this and become stronger as a couple!

 
March 5, 2007, 11:49 am CST

what's up!

I don't want to hear anything else about Anna  Nicole or Britney!!  I did want to hear and see what the Man Camp people didn't bring to the table apparently the first time.  In order to heal, people first have to get honest with themselves and it looks like that didn't happen.  Maybe this time that can happen.  When is it going to be aired????
 
March 5, 2007, 1:38 pm CST

02/26 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

Quote From: beenthere3

I don't want to hear anything else about Anna  Nicole or Britney!!  I did want to hear and see what the Man Camp people didn't bring to the table apparently the first time.  In order to heal, people first have to get honest with themselves and it looks like that didn't happen.  Maybe this time that can happen.  When is it going to be aired????

The Man Camp update will be next Monday. Anna Nicole Smith and Britney bore me, too! Don't know why Dr Phil chose to do a show about them. Viewer demand, maybe? The biggest shocker of the whole show? Dr Phil's assertion that Britney is such a  "good, devoted" mother. About the only thing I see her devoted to is running around without her underwear, "partying" very night, and doing other crazy things. If his average, non celebrity, guest were doing that, he'd consider involving CPS. It's no wonder they've already stepped in.

 
March 5, 2007, 10:14 pm CST

pompass men

  I think the men on man camp have alot to learn, they treat there wives poorly. I can't wait til its over. I think they will all be in divorce court eventually..  They upset me,, I had a very verbally , emotionally, and sexually abusive husband.  It was so bad that our girls learned to have no respect for me.  This man i was married to is a professional, and had a real problem with porn, and lying about it,  He treated me less of a person, the career was more important, he'd never sit our girls, and now he wants to take credit for all they are.  I hope these girls get out life can be better after divorce, just get along for the kids sake, and don't treat them as pawns.  There are men out their that are much better.  Know your'e worth it.
 
March 6, 2007, 7:01 am CST

Hmmmmm

 Humans come in all shapes, sizes, colours and personalities. Lucky me can only hear them as I am blind, and from what I've heard whether via TV or my computer, these couples are no diffrent than a lot of other couples all over the world or in this case, the USA. I've followed the Dr Phil show daily and I daresay many a time, after listening to the video inserts, it's hard to tell whether the people on the show are the same people as in the video inserts. It's like they have different personalities or pretending to be cool, calm and collected, whereas in the inserts, they scream, cuss etc. Yes, these couples did ‘Man-Camp’ and my guess is, afterwards those who are willing to accept it, will get some help, but will it last? Only time will tell.

I am married. 18 years and because I am blind, we had to iron out our expectations of our marriage before we headed to the altar. Not having children was one of the difficult decisions since our children would have inherited Stargardts Disease from me. My husband understood only too well how selfish that would be if I pass this on to our children and no we didn't adopt. I have decided to use my love for children to speak out on behalf of those who didn't have a voice and my husband supports me in that.

18 years ago, we made one important decision, we are equal partners in this marriage. I'm not a doormat, because I have the disadvantage of being blind and he is not my keeper, my father or my controller. Yes we have expectations  - we both wanted to be treated with dignity, respect and have an unbreakable trust that we will do what is right towards each other and this marriage. Over time, I have found my voice as an inspirational speaker and author. Oftentimes I am a firecracker when it comes to the playing fields of politics, but we know, we have only each other to love. There are no children to ‘keep’ us in each other's lives. We are there because that is what we wanted and still want.

Yes, sometimes we disagree, but we discuss it like adults should. Calmly.
What I often hear on this show, is people screaming and shouting at each other, throwing tantrums like two year old toddlers, with the children there to observe and I get this feeling like I'm listening to adults stuck in puberty or in their teeanage sturm und drang years.
I can't judge people on what I see, but only on what comes out of their mouths and that's how I experience people. Perhaps too many people make too many excuses for their own unwillingness to become an adult and to realize for every decision there is a consequence and that there won't be a Dr Phil for all, to come and help put their lives together again. Just.........grow up.

Jadajb
 
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