Topic : 08/06 The Dr. Phil House: Man Camp, Part 5

In general, we don't learn much about healthy communication skills and interaction techniques in school or in our culture.  The only way we learn how to communicate and interact in relationships as adults is by what we see in our homes as we are growing up. 

HOW TO TREAT OTHERS (including family members): 

1.  Be kind, think kind thoughts, and use kind words

2.  Be gentle

3.  Take turns, be fair and share

4.  Be polite

5.  Care about others

6.  Be helpful

7.  Listen attentively 

8.  Respect the thoughts and feelings of others

9.  Give encouragement 

10. Cooperate with others

10a. Set healthy boundaries and be a worthy confidant

How to get posters for your family:

www.teachchildren.com/0768213932.html 

If you grew up in a family where you had to yell to be heard or acknowledged, while your partner grew up in a family where emotional outbursts were ignored or not tolerated, your divergent communication and interaction styles are going to get in the way of your long-term healthy bonding (with your partner and others). 

Hope it helps!

Hi I just hope the three couples take  your advice Dr. Phil , I will be  watching your show on Monday 

see you then

Hannelore Wilson........................................

I think the guys need to take a chill pill! and listen to the Dr Phil.

Camp has way of open your eyes to what is out their.

I was a dancer when dancers got to go to jail for indecent exposure or inmate of a house of ill repute if nothing else.  When I was a dancer, I was married to a man who abused me and tied me up letting other men rape me.  He even broke my bones.  The police in uniform saw him abusing me and told him show her who is boss, when I reached out for help.  25 years later I still have to explain in job interviews why I was arrested and have 3 misdomeanor convictions.  3 of those men who raped me were police officers and they arrested me, but not my late husband. 

Where is the forgiveness?

Amanda, listen to me...  This will not go away even if you leave your job.  It will effect your ability to obtain gainfull employment.  It will effect your participation in your child's school activities.  But, most of all, it will effect how your child views and respects you as their parent. 

The past is the past -- we can't change it.  The future has not happened yet.  We only have today to do what is right.

With sincere hopes for a better future for you and your family.

Ruth 

You sound like a woman scorned and betrayed.  JUDGEMENTAL to say the least. 

With that being said...

In my humble opinion, marriage is not a status symbol, a title or a baby needing to be nurtured.  It does not have a mind of its own.  It is a partnership, or at least it should be.  Victims are just that and they are not at fault.

Just something to think about -- when I look at my sons who are hungry, it pains me greatly to give them pasta and a can of corn I got from the food bank having to say I'm sorry this is all we have to eat today.  Nevermind - not enough for me to eat that day.  Or, my first experience with this land of poverty.  Holding a 6 month old baby in my arms who is crying and having no formula for him therefore having to call my loving mother in law and beg for food for my son because my providing spouse left the house that morning with promises to be back in 2 hours and I can not reach him!!!

Ruth

18 years old to 35 years old tops.  Then what?

I went to college, made a career for myself, did better for myself and family.  But, Stripping still haunts my endeavors everytime I go for a job interview.    Now, that I and my family would benefit from my working at a school as a secretary, my 3 - 25 year old misdomeanor convictions stop that in a heartbeat.  And, eventhough, I am the one who would help at the school as a volunteer they don't want my help.

I am not talking about the job as much as I am talking about the impact it has on a persons future.

Judgement does not come from me.  Only empathy.