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Topic : 07/25 "What Would You Do?"

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(Original Air Date: 02/27/07) How ethical are you? Many people believe they would do the right thing when confronted with a dilemma, but what happens when the line between right and wrong becomes fuzzy? Mylissa says that after a bitter breakup the right thing to do is get revenge, so she created a Web site where women learn tips and ideas on how to get back at an ex. But did this Web site really help her get over her ex? You won't believe what she says! Then, Heather says her best friend, Roza, is sneaky and will do anything to save a buck. Roza has even asked Heather to participate in shady activities. Roza says it's a game, and it's fun. What does Dr. Phil think? And, the Dr. Phil show hits the streets of New York City to conduct its own social experiments and find out how honest people really are. Hidden cameras catch unaware people in action. Will they return extra money to the cashier? Stop a shoplifter in action? Help a woman who's being yelled at by her boyfriend? Or tell a woman her thong underwear is sticking out of her pants? What would you do?

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February 24, 2007, 1:18 pm CST

What Would You Do?

Quote From: beejaylady

I cant't see wasting my time in revenge when I could be using the time to heal and go on.  I'd rather be happy and useful than down in the mud slinging.  We will reap what we sow.  It usually takes two in a relationship both giving 100% to the relationship.  I can't tolerate hate and anger.  I go for the good.
So, What do you do if the other party was so beat up in the past that this person spends you into debt trying to heal?    I am too old to financially recover at this point.    Society basically does not care  about Seniors problems.   We have every right to be mad!    The results of the past 20 years is now doing away with the middle class -  It took the Amercan Dream with It, too.  
 
February 24, 2007, 3:47 pm CST

Bitterness...

It's so easy to slide into bitterness and get revenge.  It's a temptation and you have to fight to be better than that- live well, because you know that the person has it coming (karma is delightfully cruel sometimes). 

 

As for stepping in when you see a guy beating up a girl- you have to be careful about your approach.  The guy could have a gun or knife and you could wind up in the ER bleeding to death on a stretcher.  Not fun...you have 1 of 2 options (that i've thought of).  First, you approach the thug from behind and whack him upside the occipital lobe and knock him out.  Second, you get a police officer involved and he goes to jail.  Any other ideas?

 
February 24, 2007, 4:59 pm CST

02/27 "What Would You Do?"

As for getting revenge on a former partner, I find that so immature.  It sounds like junior high school.  What exactly are you getting from actions that could only make matters worse.  It's time to grow up and be responsible  and remember what goes around comes around.  Remember, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all....I learned that in nursey school!!!!!  How would you feel if you were the object of the revenge...another thing from nursey school...treat others as you want to be treated.  Grow up and be someone that you would be proud to be.

  As for the lady showing her thong..........well I would have to think that she wanted to show it and wouldn't say anything.  I would be looking away!!!!!

  I have returned money at the casino that was left in the ladies room.  A bucket filled with coins

was inside the stall.  I never thought twice about keeping it and when I saw someone come back and the look on her face, I knew it was hers.  She was very thankful.  My husband and I also returned bills dropped by a elderly lady at the casino changed machine.  She was totally unaware that she had done it.  As I said before what  goes around comes around and I could never profit from someone else misfortune.

 
February 24, 2007, 5:06 pm CST

Revenge = mental illness Ceildh1?

Quote From: ceildh1

Ethics and morals, here's an interesting topic.

Revenge on an ex, okay I'm not sure why anyone would waste their time and energy, I mean I think most of us THINK about ways to get back  at them, but to actually do it I think is more of a sign of mental illness than any type of justice.  I don't think there are too many of us that haven't been hurt at some point, whether by a friend, lover or family, does revenge really solve the problem ? Nope, it creates more than necessary.

How honest are we, hmmm, good question.  But I would question, what RIGHT does anyone have to take what's not theirs ?  Because of shoplifters, and those "Bargain Hunters ", I'm talking about those ones that change stickers, mixing and matching sets etc., prices keep going up (not just because of that I know ) and its really pathetic, most of us have to actually WORK to buy what we want.  What gives someone the RIGHT to steal a car, or to break into someones  home and take what they want, like I said we work damn hard for what we get, you want it, get a REAL job.

Personally, I would return a wallet  or purse, hell I feel guilty if I take a grape from the produce section.

Something that did bother me though, on the news last week, a woman collapsed in the parking lot of the mall, not one person stopped to see if she was alright, thankfully she was, that's a sad state when we can just walk past that.

Ceildh1,

         To start I want to state I would and always have returned lost  wallets, I would and have helped people in distress, I don't steal from shops but I would not dob in or prevent someone else from shoplifting - Australians don't dob and they mind their own business, our values are shaped partly by our cultural heritage too. But as a psychology student I cannot agree with you that revenge on an ex how ever counter productive it is to moving on, is a sign of mental illness. Normal ordinary people get angry and take revenge on people every day it is not a sign of mental illness or at least it is not listed as a symptom in the DSM-IV as such. I think we need to have a bit of compassion for those who have been driven to the point of revenge because of the reprehensible behaviour of others rather than label them as mentally ill. I do agree that revenge is a waste of time and I do agree that a person cannot move on until they put the offending person behind them, but I understand that some people may see revenge as closure so that they can move on and as long as this is done lawfully and serves to put the offender on notice where is the harm?

TheChosenOne 

 
February 24, 2007, 5:31 pm CST

02/27 "What Would You Do?"

Quote From: nhughh

There aren't many these days.  The Buck rules.   This Country lost it in the '60's.  Look what and who gets elected to the top offices.   They don't set any examples for the next generation.  I guess I am too old -  I remember when my uncle made House Calls 24/7.   Now you get qualified first if you make it to a medical building!   I have been surrounded by the results of 2 generations of dead beat dads.  It is pure crap -  that it's gun or drugs that kill!   It is people with a selfish view of life that may have grown up with it, too!
Slavery and sexism weren't moral or ethical and they were a part of this country long before the 60's.  I know people like to romanticize the past, but come on. This country is much more moral and ethical in many ways than it used to be.
 
February 24, 2007, 6:39 pm CST

The Law of Attraction

I always get concerned when I here people telling stories of revenge, dishonesty, and purposelly trying to hurt others.  The Law of Attraction Is a very important and real concept:  "what one puts out there, is what one attracts".  Also, when one does something purposelly to hurt another is comes back three fold. 

If folks just paid attention and energy to their own happiness and goodness, this world could be an even better place than it is.

 

Peace, Love, Joy, and Harmony

 
February 24, 2007, 7:37 pm CST

02/27 "What Would You Do?"

I hear all of you say that you would give the cashier her money back, so would I and have several times, but would you stop a robber? or interupt a fighting couple?  I have 4 small children and would not want to put them into harms way since they first and foremost my responsibilty.  What if that person retaliates?  Does that mean that I have poor morals?

 
February 24, 2007, 8:04 pm CST

Honesty

Someone once told me that I was "too honest", to which I could only reply that those two words do not even belong in the same sentence!
 
February 24, 2007, 8:09 pm CST

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

TO WASTE LIFE TRYING TO GET EVEN WITH AN EX BOYFRIEND IS COUTER PRODUCTIVE AND VERY TOXIC.  IT IS BETTER TO BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND AND MOVE ON AND LET GOD HANDLE THE WRONG-DOING.  MOVE ON TO GREENER PASTURES.  THINGS--EVEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO US FOR A REASON--IF YOU LET IT, IT CAN BE TURNED INTO GOOD.  JUST DON'T WASTE YOUR LIFE TRYING TO GET EVEN.  IT'S NOT HEALTHY!

 

GETTING TOO MUCH CHANGE BACK FROM THE CASHIER--I WOULD HAVE TO GIVE IT BACK.  KEEPING ANYTHING GAINED IN ANY DISHONEST WAY IS JUST NOT SOMETHING I WOULD WANT TO HAVE TO TAKE TO CONFESSION--WHAT I DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO TAKE TO CONFESSION, I AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE.  IT ALSO BOILS DOWN TO THE FACT THAT WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.  WHAT WE DO TO OTHERS, WE CAN END UP HAVING IT DONE TO US! 

 

I TRY TO KEEP MY LIFE SIMPLE & CLEAR OF CLUTTER SO I CAN ENJOY IT--THAT MEANS KEEPING THE CONSCIENCE CLEAR. 

 
February 24, 2007, 10:06 pm CST

neighbors

My neighbors for over 15 years have a son who was ejected from Middle School to Alternative School for a sexually offensive act.  I did not know this when the neighbor knocked asking me if I knew (not his name) Mike--"Of course--he is such a sweet boy (was 13).  She--the neighbor then stated I would receive mail that indicated ' Mike 'had had an inappropriate interaction with another child.  I checked my mail--I received two letters.  (I am a widow who has kept my late husband's name as in Jack and Jan)  I read one letter.  It stated that if the police did not take care of the problem, they would find a way to take care of the problem.

 

A few months later, the neighbor's dogs were poisioned--one by one.  It was horrid.  When I talked with "sally"-she had no idea who had done this.  I have found out from the Police it was rat poison.

 

This happened three times until all dogs were dead. 

 

I believe Sally never told her husband that Mike had a problem.  They accuse me of poisioning their dogs--it makes me angry--I no longer want to see them--and wish they would move--to the end of the earth.

 

It is perferctly apparent that the family of the molested did this, the lie that Sally told by ommission--decided what would happen--she was warned--all of the neighbors were told.  And their family is the only family with dead animals.

 

They decided that the 65 year old widow that lives next door, is smaller than the fence, and had to go out in the dark of night (guess I had to carry the rat poison in my mouth since I had to climb a tree) and throw something over a fence, over a pool, and over another 4 ft fence plus all their shrubs to get to the area where the dogs were kept.

 

I am still in rightious indignation over this--need a Dr Phil moment.

 

They proceeded to do things such as turn me in to the Community Association as having "bricks" stored in front of my home--they were pavers at the side of my house--and being nasty at every opportunity.

 

All of this because a wife lied.


All of this because a woman chose her child over truth.

 

Thank you for reading this diatribe.

 

J

 
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