Topic : 08/03 Caught in the Act

I have to disagree with Dr. Phil on this one. It was wrong for Erica to do as she did. But once Kendra became aware it was wrong to steal, as an adult the responsibility is hers alone.

I get the "personality DNA" comment. although it sounds an awful lot like psycho-mumbo-jumbo & a bit like an excuse. I get that that was what she was taught at a young age. I get that she had to be taught truly that it was wrong to do that. The multiple arrests taught her that, if nothing else did. But Kendra is not a young child anymore. She's an adult & despite her knowledge that it's wrong & illegal to steal, she is now choosing to do it. It's her responsibility alone, now.

Miss Nevada was dethroned around the same time Miss USA went into rehab.  It was  sort of a campaign to make an example of what not to do. 

OMGosh! I truly thought they were one-in-the-same, lol! I guess even that ploy for attention didn't work. At least not for me.

This is a great book by a biological anthropologist, and I invite all women to read it to learn how men's minds REALLY work (mostly the little mind, hehe)...

Men and women are DIFFERENT; their bodies are different, their brains are (biochemically/hormonally) different, and they see things differently; mostly...

SEX; to women, it's an act of love that results (chemically) in bonding to the love object; to the men, it's (listen up, ladies) JUST SEX...

"Cheating" doesn't mean they love the woman, it just means they WANTED SEX...

Men NEED sex...  Ladies, don't have your 2.5 children and then decide your done with sex and expect your man to remain monogamous.  If you're pregnant and don't want sex or tired from nursing and don't want sex or just don't want sex, EXPECT your man to get it elsewhere unless he's really undesirable or really, really morally upstanding; there are too many temptations out there and too many women more than happy to provide what he needs and you can't or won't.

Any woman who cuts a man off and expects him to live a celibate life these days is in lala land.

This guy enjoys variety (all men do, but some value marriage more) and shouldn't be married.

He's wrong to want it all (trophy wife, family, variety) and lie to get it, but not for just being a man.

And, yes, I am a woman.

According to this study of the sexes, the flip side of men choosing women for their looks (they're unconsciously drawn to "good breeders" -- that is, women with a small waist, full hips, clear skin, shiny hair, good teeth, and  YOUNG AGE -- even if they don't consciously want children) is women subconsciously -- or maybe consciously -- choosing men who are deemed to be "good providers"...  Like David, the rich attorney!!!  His wife is obviously, at least by now, very well aware of what's going on here, yet chooses to stay and try to "fix things"; why?  Could have something to do with the lifestyle he provides; she's certainly able to raise her kids in comfort with his salary and, if not that, his alimony and child support payments?  David said himself he wasn't big on monogomy and never was; isn't it just possible his wife knew this going into it but chose to marry him anyway because the lifestyle was so tempting?  I think they're both on the show to do damage control when it comes divorce time.  Now it's just a matter who gets the most money...

I couldn't agree more!  I was in a relationship in which he cheated on me multiple times with many girls, mostly emotinally, and some sexually.  I finally left him for good and got my divorce, but am still very messed up on the inside from what he did. I wish I had left forever when he cheated the first time while dating, but he snaked his way and messed with my mind enough to convince me he'd "never do it again", and that "he loved me more than life itself."  The lies were endless, but I was young and  in love, and I stupidly believed him.  Now I am paying a heavy price for his sins, mentally, physically, and emotionally, while he got away with everything by lying and destroying my reputation and damaging relationships within  my family in the process.  I agree that once trust is broken, you cannot repair it.  The scars most often never fully fade, and sometimes the wounds never really heal. 

Cheaters should just stay to their own kind and stop hurting those of us that value and have  honesty, faithfulness, and morals in a relationship and in life.  If they want to cheat around, another player or a hooker would be the best mate for them, since they obviously don't care for morals or being treated right in a relationship.